support group helping men deal with Erectile Dysfunction.
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LeRoastBeef wrote:I would disagree entirely with dawnoftime. If they have a problem with the implant (given that it works like a normal penis) then they are incredibly shallow, and not worth your time.....or respect for that matter. Or they are just dim.
But what a woman will not tolerate is a penis that doesn't get hard and stimulate them. Therefore you have no choice.
dawnoftime wrote:Happy Toy wrote:First, if a woman is that shallow, as far as you having an implant, then I don't think you would want her for a long term partner.
I don't think comments like this are fair or accurate. A person is not "shallow" if they are turned off by an implant! It just means their desire is somehow tied up in a particular idea of a penis or how the body works.
The next person you meet won't care, and this has nothing to do with their level of shallowness, and everything to do with how their desire is wired: they are more interested in your chest muscles, or your laugh or your job or your hair or your feet or they enjoy sex toys (in which case they would most likely be TURNED ON by the implant!).
We do not get to choose our desires, nor can we ever really understand them, so understand that some people will not be into it. But many many more will either not care at all or will (for a multitude of reasons) actually like that you have one.
My plan is to get an implant next year. I am gay though so will be dating guys rather than women. I can tell you as a gay man if someone told me they had an implant, the sex with that person would immediately change on a psychological level, so I am sure for a woman it will be the same: even if there is no physical difference, there will 100% will be a psychological difference. Like I say, whether that is a good or bad difference will depend on the person and how phantasy works in their mind; not their level of superficiality.
My plan is not to tell anyone unless I am interested in seeing them again, and if someone isn't into it (which there 100% will be) then I will fully respect that they just aren't into it. My main worry actually is someone pretending to be indifferent towards it for fear of hurting my feelings (or that they will look shallow!). I would rather they were just honest so I could go find someone that isn't fazed by it - which I will 100% be able to do.
dawnoftime wrote:GruffHunter wrote:I'd be worried about anyone who wanted to cut off a relationship because of a medical device. We're focused on implants....but what if the condition was removal of your testicles due to testicular cancer? Or a colostomy? Glass eye? Daily eating regimens and insulin injections? Finger Amputation?
There is an important distinction to be made here:
Situation 1: You are in a loving relationship and either (a) you reveal that you have an implant and have been pumping it in the toilet each night or (b) something happens to you and you need to get implanted.
Situation 2: You are on a first or second date with total stranger and reveal you have implant in your penis that will need to be pumped before use.
These are not anywhere near the same thing!
Phoenix18 clearly stated that he was single and so is in situation 2.
In situation 2, this is a person that is not in love with you. This is a stranger that is hanging out with you to see if they could potentially fall in love with you; a process that is completely unconscious. Most people pack in tons of dates over the years, yet only fall in love with a few in the end: we don't get to consciously decide who we love, it happens or it doesn't; we are not making conscious decisions about it.
If this stranger doesn't react to you in the way you want (and they are nice about it), to simply say they are shallow is a defensive move.
Trust me, people can reject you for much less. There is a Seinfeld episode where he doesn't go on a second date with a woman because she ate her peas one at a time! We go off people for all sorts of ridiculous reasons in the early stages of a dating, let alone a serious medical condition!
Larry10625 wrote:dawnoftime wrote:GruffHunter wrote:I'd be worried about anyone who wanted to cut off a relationship because of a medical device. We're focused on implants....but what if the condition was removal of your testicles due to testicular cancer? Or a colostomy? Glass eye? Daily eating regimens and insulin injections? Finger Amputation?
There is an important distinction to be made here:
Situation 1: You are in a loving relationship and either (a) you reveal that you have an implant and have been pumping it in the toilet each night or (b) something happens to you and you need to get implanted.
Situation 2: You are on a first or second date with total stranger and reveal you have implant in your penis that will need to be pumped before use.
These are not anywhere near the same thing!
Phoenix18 clearly stated that he was single and so is in situation 2.
In situation 2, this is a person that is not in love with you. This is a stranger that is hanging out with you to see if they could potentially fall in love with you; a process that is completely unconscious. Most people pack in tons of dates over the years, yet only fall in love with a few in the end: we don't get to consciously decide who we love, it happens or it doesn't; we are not making conscious decisions about it.
If this stranger doesn't react to you in the way you want (and they are nice about it), to simply say they are shallow is a defensive move.
Trust me, people can reject you for much less. There is a Seinfeld episode where he doesn't go on a second date with a woman because she ate her peas one at a time! We go off people for all sorts of ridiculous reasons in the early stages of a dating, let alone a serious medical condition!
OK, if you are on a second date and not in love, why are you making love? Oh, it's not making love it's just sex?? Great, go screw a goat... that's sex too. Why should Phoenix18 be condemned to a life without sex just because some bimbo may be turned off? As for the Seinfeld comment... in my opinion, there were very few TV shows more stupid than that one. In my 51 years on planet earth, I don't know of ANYONE that acted like any of those characters on that show. I'm sorry that the members are coming out in force against your opinion but those of us living with the implant can tell you without reservation that it saved their lives in many ways.
Larry
oldbeek wrote:For All you young guys:: I have a friend that went through all this crap in his youth. He now has a pod cast called, BrokenBoner radio with Danial Canfield. He works also with San Diego sexual medicine ,run by dr Goldstein, a very respected implant dr. Contacting him or following his podcast may be of help. Google it. He was a big help to me.
Larry, if mentioning another site is not allowed, block out the site and advise those young folks to PM me.
dawnoftime wrote:Larry10625 wrote:dawnoftime wrote:
There is an important distinction to be made here:
Situation 1: You are in a loving relationship and either (a) you reveal that you have an implant and have been pumping it in the toilet each night or (b) something happens to you and you need to get implanted.
Situation 2: You are on a first or second date with total stranger and reveal you have implant in your penis that will need to be pumped before use.
These are not anywhere near the same thing!
Phoenix18 clearly stated that he was single and so is in situation 2.
In situation 2, this is a person that is not in love with you. This is a stranger that is hanging out with you to see if they could potentially fall in love with you; a process that is completely unconscious. Most people pack in tons of dates over the years, yet only fall in love with a few in the end: we don't get to consciously decide who we love, it happens or it doesn't; we are not making conscious decisions about it.
If this stranger doesn't react to you in the way you want (and they are nice about it), to simply say they are shallow is a defensive move.
Trust me, people can reject you for much less. There is a Seinfeld episode where he doesn't go on a second date with a woman because she ate her peas one at a time! We go off people for all sorts of ridiculous reasons in the early stages of a dating, let alone a serious medical condition!
OK, if you are on a second date and not in love, why are you making love? Oh, it's not making love it's just sex?? Great, go screw a goat... that's sex too. Why should Phoenix18 be condemned to a life without sex just because some bimbo may be turned off? As for the Seinfeld comment... in my opinion, there were very few TV shows more stupid than that one. In my 51 years on planet earth, I don't know of ANYONE that acted like any of those characters on that show. I'm sorry that the members are coming out in force against your opinion but those of us living with the implant can tell you without reservation that it saved their lives in many ways.
Larry
Outside of this site, I do not use social media at all. Your response has just confirmed exactly why I don't. To misrepresent what I am saying to such a degree is, I have to say, quite shocking.