A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

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ringo1
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Re: A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

Postby ringo1 » Sun Dec 09, 2018 12:45 pm

..if u have an issue and can get it resolved then it won't make any difference cause with an implant u can perform....we all live for once the samw goes for thr women as well ...if implant makes u perform then ok ..but if not then I believe we as men also have an obligation not to make another person life misrable..today if I tell my partner I have ed and need an implant I know she won't leave me cause she lobes me.but I also luv her would it be fair on my part ..the answer is no...if god gave us ED and implant fails then I am not meant to be with anyone ..
37 yrs...ed due to single episode of trauma...had penile vein stripping... worst outcome ever..now trying towards an implant

mr.skin
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Re: A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

Postby mr.skin » Sun Dec 09, 2018 12:53 pm

GruffHunter wrote:I'd be worried about anyone who wanted to cut off a relationship because of a medical device. We're focused on implants....but what if the condition was removal of your testicles due to testicular cancer? Or a colostomy? Glass eye? Daily eating regimens and insulin injections? Finger Amputation?

It's a medical device that improves your life. Anyone who can't deal with that isn't worth your time and effort.


Different if you are young and not in a relationship yet.
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defiant
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Re: A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

Postby defiant » Sun Dec 09, 2018 12:59 pm

mr.skin wrote:
GruffHunter wrote:I'd be worried about anyone who wanted to cut off a relationship because of a medical device. We're focused on implants....but what if the condition was removal of your testicles due to testicular cancer? Or a colostomy? Glass eye? Daily eating regimens and insulin injections? Finger Amputation?

It's a medical device that improves your life. Anyone who can't deal with that isn't worth your time and effort.


Different if you are young and not in a relationship yet.


It is. But the same applies, no?
35 y.o, mild to moderate ED since 21, 3 Dopplers with 1 result of VL & 3 later results of NO physical problem, critically dependent on cialis (efficacy now waning), overcame Lymophoma at 26, ED causing immense & profound psychological distress

dawnoftime
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Re: A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

Postby dawnoftime » Sun Dec 09, 2018 1:44 pm

GruffHunter wrote:I'd be worried about anyone who wanted to cut off a relationship because of a medical device. We're focused on implants....but what if the condition was removal of your testicles due to testicular cancer? Or a colostomy? Glass eye? Daily eating regimens and insulin injections? Finger Amputation?


There is an important distinction to be made here:

Situation 1: You are in a loving relationship and either (a) you reveal that you have an implant and have been pumping it in the toilet each night or (b) something happens to you and you need to get implanted.

Situation 2: You are on a first or second date with total stranger and reveal you have implant in your penis that will need to be pumped before use.

These are not anywhere near the same thing!

Phoenix18 clearly stated that he was single and so is in situation 2.

In situation 2, this is a person that is not in love with you. This is a stranger that is hanging out with you to see if they could potentially fall in love with you; a process that is completely unconscious. Most people pack in tons of dates over the years, yet only fall in love with a few in the end: we don't get to consciously decide who we love, it happens or it doesn't; we are not making conscious decisions about it.

If this stranger doesn't react to you in the way you want (and they are nice about it), to simply say they are shallow is a defensive move.

Trust me, people can reject you for much less. There is a Seinfeld episode where he doesn't go on a second date with a woman because she ate her peas one at a time! We go off people for all sorts of ridiculous reasons in the early stages of a dating, let alone a serious medical condition!
34. ED forever. Looking at an implant next year.

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Re: A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

Postby defiant » Sun Dec 09, 2018 2:29 pm

dawnoftime wrote:
GruffHunter wrote:I'd be worried about anyone who wanted to cut off a relationship because of a medical device. We're focused on implants....but what if the condition was removal of your testicles due to testicular cancer? Or a colostomy? Glass eye? Daily eating regimens and insulin injections? Finger Amputation?


There is an important distinction to be made here:

Situation 1: You are in a loving relationship and either (a) you reveal that you have an implant and have been pumping it in the toilet each night or (b) something happens to you and you need to get implanted.

Situation 2: You are on a first or second date with total stranger and reveal you have implant in your penis that will need to be pumped before use.

These are not anywhere near the same thing!

Phoenix18 clearly stated that he was single and so is in situation 2.

In situation 2, this is a person that is not in love with you. This is a stranger that is hanging out with you to see if they could potentially fall in love with you; a process that is completely unconscious. Most people pack in tons of dates over the years, yet only fall in love with a few in the end: we don't get to consciously decide who we love, it happens or it doesn't; we are not making conscious decisions about it.

If this stranger doesn't react to you in the way you want (and they are nice about it), to simply say they are shallow is a defensive move.

Trust me, people can reject you for much less. There is a Seinfeld episode where he doesn't go on a second date with a woman because she ate her peas one at a time! We go off people for all sorts of ridiculous reasons in the early stages of a dating, let alone a serious medical condition!


What you say is true but surely for the single man you don’t reveal on the first or second date. Well I wouldn’t. I would be more in line with situation 1.

You can have sex with someone several times, maybe over weeks, building something, at which point you decide, okay, tonight’s the night. I’m gonna tell her.

Up til now, maybe she felt the pump, maybe she didn’t, but If she did you just told her it was from an accident you had. But you’re several weeks in, she’s starting to fall for you. Everyone’s catching the feels. You reveal - at that point if she ditches and runs in spite of her feelings for you, that my friend is shallow. 100%.
35 y.o, mild to moderate ED since 21, 3 Dopplers with 1 result of VL & 3 later results of NO physical problem, critically dependent on cialis (efficacy now waning), overcame Lymophoma at 26, ED causing immense & profound psychological distress

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Re: A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

Postby ED2013 » Sun Dec 09, 2018 2:35 pm

1. In my experience, women are more likely to reject a man that has ed than an implanted man.

2. Revisions are usually less painful and usually you will end up bigger. Also, if you go with the same brand device, the cost it covered for the device. You will pay for just the surgery cost.

3. The implant will feel like a part of you in time.
Ams 700 cx. Dr Karpman.

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Re: A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

Postby Mr stuby » Sun Dec 09, 2018 2:45 pm

i will never forget this quote from someone that was close to me
for every hole theirs a cork some times you have to look harder keep your eye to the sky/your nose to the stone and your ear to the ground, patience grasshopper
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Re: A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

Postby mr.skin » Sun Dec 09, 2018 3:22 pm

dawnoftime wrote:
GruffHunter wrote:I'd be worried about anyone who wanted to cut off a relationship because of a medical device. We're focused on implants....but what if the condition was removal of your testicles due to testicular cancer? Or a colostomy? Glass eye? Daily eating regimens and insulin injections? Finger Amputation?


There is an important distinction to be made here:

Situation 1: You are in a loving relationship and either (a) you reveal that you have an implant and have been pumping it in the toilet each night or (b) something happens to you and you need to get implanted.

Situation 2: You are on a first or second date with total stranger and reveal you have implant in your penis that will need to be pumped before use.

These are not anywhere near the same thing!

Phoenix18 clearly stated that he was single and so is in situation 2.

In situation 2, this is a person that is not in love with you. This is a stranger that is hanging out with you to see if they could potentially fall in love with you; a process that is completely unconscious. Most people pack in tons of dates over the years, yet only fall in love with a few in the end: we don't get to consciously decide who we love, it happens or it doesn't; we are not making conscious decisions about it.

If this stranger doesn't react to you in the way you want (and they are nice about it), to simply say they are shallow is a defensive move.

Trust me, people can reject you for much less. There is a Seinfeld episode where he doesn't go on a second date with a woman because she ate her peas one at a time! We go off people for all sorts of ridiculous reasons in the early stages of a dating, let alone a serious medical condition!


I am really glad someone who has a realistic point of view towards implants, dating and the whole process involved in dating with an implant in a considerable young age is here. Hope you stay around.

Actually, if you cant have an erection without an implant there is no need to give this a second thought, it s your only chance to get a proper sex life.

But I think it will definitely reduce your dating pool (so will other flaws) - to which amount remains unknown for us.

And we are all "shallow" in that sense, we all have preferences (e.g. I like darker skinned/taned women, someone who is pretty pale has a major disadvantage in attracting me. Other way round, I started balding with 16, full blown horseshoe pattern bald - major disadvantage in dating life in your later teens etc.)
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Re: A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

Postby LeRoastBeef » Sun Dec 09, 2018 3:42 pm

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Venous leakage (Cavernosum and glans). 31yrs. In the process of getting an implant. Nervous but accepting it has to be done. Love Franktalk.

defiant
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Re: A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

Postby defiant » Sun Dec 09, 2018 4:01 pm

I agree with both sides of this thread.

Some women will find it odd and yeah if you’re lucky enough to get that many, some may not be able to jump on board with it and take it further.

But my point is, if a woman can’t accept you for this, having gotten to know you and fall for you a bit in the early stages (this is the important point), then yeah, I’d say that’s fine, her choice and prerogative but not someone I’d want to build a life with anyway.

So let’s just put it this way, I think it will be a good filter. Because let’s say this woman can’t accept an implant having already gotten to like you, what’s to say down the line you become paralysed, what’s gonna keep that woman around then?

It’s a far cry from an implant I know but the principles are the same.

End of the day it’s not a decision any of us want to take.

We know enough to know that most of the time it greatly greatly improves lives. And in these critical years of youth. Do you want to be living with hell every day or empower yourself?

I know what I plan to do. But each to their own!
35 y.o, mild to moderate ED since 21, 3 Dopplers with 1 result of VL & 3 later results of NO physical problem, critically dependent on cialis (efficacy now waning), overcame Lymophoma at 26, ED causing immense & profound psychological distress


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