Postby DougAnd » Sat Dec 08, 2018 11:42 pm
I can't imagine why you don't just get on the phone and cry on her shoulder, You need it and so does she. Women love to nurture their man. Get off of your butt and call her, get her over, let yourself emotionally heal.
Go back into my posts and you'll see that I was a wimp and whiner. But that is ok part of growing up. There is nothing wrong with where you are at and you are right after vein stripping you may not be able to have an implant at least not like before. Let her help you find the right surgeon who has the skill to make this right.
I totally get how you wanted to be whole, we all did. But guess what this is much better than whole at so many levels. For me it was a new virginity had to relearn how to make things work. Very exciting. And she will be thrilled. Even if you have loss of some sensation t does not effect the implant. You can just keep on pushing until pop goes the weasel. And then keep going and going. So what if it takes an hour instead of what 30 seconds? SHE WILL LOVE IT!!!!!
Right now you think that you made a stupid mistake that has ruined you. So what? Fix it! If you need to mourn do so but let her mourn with you. Then gird up your loins (Literally) and get fixed. The sooner you do the better things get. Really fast. What you can offer her now is MUCH more than what you had to offer her before. Trust me, she will orgasm until you are both too sore to walk straight.
Seriously man do not do this alone. Do not let your ego and pride of being wrong bury you. There was no way you could have known that vein stripping would turn into such a disaster. How could you? Your uro certainly didn't think so or he would never have tried. Stop beating yourself up.
Unless your dick is completely dead have a heart, give it a chance.
You don't need courage you need your fiance. She is your rock. Call her, cry over the phone. She will give you more than any of us could ever do. You know that's right.
LGX 18cm+3cmRTE 8 / 8/18 by Docs Saracino , Prody of FL Disfigured by Implant. Married 31 years, Functionally impotent 2+ years. 4" day of surgery now 7" inflated after VED 6.5" without. Pump moved 12/4/18 by Dr Kata