What Women Think

[defiant]

Hey guys,

I know I’ve told people in the past on here that a truly good woman, who loves you for you, who cares more about human connection, a true bond and actual love won’t actually care about the implant at all and certainly wouldn’t leave you or discontinue dating someone implanted.

But for a young man such as myself, I still have reservations.

A part of me feels as though there might be many, especially in their 20s and 30s that simply won’t like the idea of dating a man with an implant, much less pursuing a longterm Union with them.

Issues such as loss of ‘responsibility for the erection’ and harbouring feelings that he is not a ‘real man’ come to mind.

And for someone who simply cannot rely on his erection process, a young man who is dependent upon pills and has a truly cataclysmic relationship with arousal and sex now, this is a huge decision for me.

And no, injections are still not the answer. They never will be!

What kind of feelings, responses and reactions have you guys been greeted with?

[dirtman1993]

My entire family knows including nephews (44 & 49), nieces (18 to 23) and I have never heard anything but "that is neat". Wanted to know why and how ED occurred, and if I noticed any difference after implant compared to natural. I explained the doctor found I had scar tissue build up and slowed the blood flow. They said if their husband had this problem they would suggest they contact my doctor (Dr. Kramer) as it made a mental difference for me knowing I could function. Yes they asked how it worked and I advised them to watch some of his videos and the inflate videos on the net.

Remember, this is a medical procedure just as if a women had a breast reconstructed after cancer. Would that make a difference to you? Have never had any negative feedback, only questions as to how it works and did I still have the normal feelings.

Photo is the first inflate before I got all size back.

[Nocturne]

Dirtman’s comment likening the surgery to breast reconstruction is a good one (not that I am any authority, I do not have an implant — yet).

How would you feel if you knew a woman you were into had had her breast reconstructed after surviving cancer or a serious injury?

I think I would feel compassion and a desire to “build her up” and feel good about herself.

Not EVERYONE is like this, but the women you WANT to build a life with ARE.

I can’t speak for one night stands but from what I understand the implant is subtle enough that most of the time it could be concealed if you really wanted to. I do not think I would bother.

For some women, knowing that their partner could stay hard for as long as they wanted, no question about it, might be a serious relief. If they take a long time to orgasm and/or have dealt with a partner with PE in the past, it might let them relax and enjoy sex instead of stressing about how long it might last.

And lastly, it is very hard for us men to get this into our heads, but when it comes to sex, for women, the penis isn’t everything. My wife has had sexual relationships with women in the past. Sexual relationships she found satisfying. How much do you think hard cocks factored into those? My guess is, not at all.

I am stressed about waiting to qualify for an implant and what those years will be like. I am not stressed in the least about actually GETTING one.

[David_Webb]

Living with ED for the past ~20 years has been a series of failures to be able to perform even with pills, shots, pumps, and rings. I can tell you from experience the failures to perform can cause relationship problems varying from women flat out telling you they need a man that can get an erection and leaving, to understanding women that will accept it is a medical condition and you can get into a grove and make due with the above mentioned treatments.

My current relationship is just over two years and after a few failed attempts I had the talk about my ED and the pills...etc. My partner didn’t want me to take any pills and said we should try and just take our time that she would be able to get me excited without the pills which was a utter failure ... this was worse than failing with the pills for me and definitely put a strain on our physical relationship. But she then came around and would drop hints early in the day that maybe I should take a pill which we had a 50% success rate but he side effects were so bad I would be a mess the next day with a Viagra hangover.

We went together to the urologist and for me finding out about the venous leakage was the cause and something actually physically wrong really helped relieve some of he self loathing I’ve had around ED. Those exact feeling of feeling like less than a man and a failure were gone and I didn’t feel the same stigma about having ED.

I will have my surgery in 48 hours from now and while I’m not going to be telling anyone I have an implant it isn’t from shame of having ED, for me it’s just not appropriate to talk about an erection to anyone other than a lover or medical professional or the men also suffering in this forum.

I’m probably not going to have the implant disclosure conversation with another lover as I’ve found a keeper in my current partner, I would think if I had to disclose I would feel confident saying this was a physical medical condition that was the cause and the implant was the only treatment. If a potential partner was not understanding I can see being let down but in the long run I think having someone that can empathize and be accepting would be a better partner. Looking back at the failed relationships that I have felt ED was the cause I am greatfilul I am not with the ones who rejected the condition but there will always be that bias against the ones that left scars.

I would rather have the implant and take the inability to perform out of the equation, and I’m hoping I will be a better lover being able to provide that sexual satisfaction to my partner.

[justanotherdrumber]

Chix just want boned !

What they care about is when it doesn't work. Even then there are "options" .

[oldbeek]

You young dating guys talk about keeping it a secret from your date. Never had a hot date that didn't go after my balls with her hand. That pump is not a small round thing. It has square corners and very noticeable. Can't keep it secret.

[ED2013]

Yes there are “good women” out there that will accept you. There are also very sexual women out there that love to get fucked hard for a long time.... they will accept you too.

[defiant]

Good responses, guys

I know I know. But I’m relatively young and I dunno, mindsets through the ages and all that.

Honestly, my mindset is so fucked, I really just wanna get the implant then go on a year long rampage through South America and the US. I’m a good looking guy and this is really eating me alive; the lack of confidence and so on

I feel like I’m wasting my time

[DonDon]

Have had 3 partners since implant. Mine is feeling really "normal" in there, like it has always been there. The pump is very obvious though. I don't think I could hide it. Two of my very long time (girl) friends volunteered to be my last fuck before RP. They each think they were. Since then they were eager, but cautious in returning to my tool. The fear is that I will penetrate them all night and they will want to end it early. (Doesn't happen.) I never went over about 10 minutes without an orgasm before, and they knew that I would cum pretty quickly and go soft. They feared that I would go longer than they wanted. But they want to see it and touch it and even try to pump it up. The pump is pretty stiff. They were intrigued and curious. Both notice it is so much shorter than before. But how they like the results. One likes me on top and the way it stays hard until I quit. She can open her legs 180 degrees for me. After a good orgasm, I am straining to keep thrusting. But I plow on until I give out. She begs me not to quit on her, but I get pooped. The other likes to ride me on top and I just lay there as she rocks back and forth and gives herself orgasm after orgasm. My orgasm is hardly noticed by her. I can push through "that ultra sensitive period" and she keeps on keeping on. I've seen her have 40 or 50 orgasms before her thin sweaty body collapses down on mine. And I'm still hard!! I can get close to a second orgasm. They both love it.

[Lost Sheep]

I really just wanna get the implant then go on a year long rampage through South America and the US.

I wondered if I would want to "go on a rampage" once I could get and stay erect. I even made a thread about the question.

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