Is this a common story???

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benefitter
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Is this a common story???

Postby benefitter » Thu May 03, 2018 7:53 am

I found that story at : viewtopic.php?f=6&t=4863&p=48280&hilit=tell+her#p48280

"Two years ago I had an AMS LGX placed by Edward Karpman, MD. For the most part I am pleased with my decision. However there are some drawbacks that are significant. Number one is the process of arousal. It is nice to always be able to get hard and not worry about getting an erection. however when intimate moments strike having to "pump up" with 10-20 good squeezes kills the spontaneity. And no more starting my day with morning wood, I truly miss that ritual 

In part because of my previous augmentation surgeries I I am never flaccid enough to wear boxer shorts. Even with briefs or underarmour I am finding I have to "re position myself discretely to subdue a most prominent bulge. That was a problem before I had the implant but now it's worse. (Please don't advise: "Be proud man!")

The pump is visible and obvious with scrotal contact by my sex partner. Apparently my testicles are too small to hide it much. I wish my scrotum were more full to at least make the pump less noticeable. 

At the point of producing length gains the implant becomes unnaturally hard. Therefore I still use Cialis, Viagra and even Muse suppository to engorge the glans and shaft around the implant. This is to reduce the incredibly hard dildo-like feel of an erection. To not be dependent on the pills was my initial motivation for the implant coupled with the added advantage of gaining erect length with the LGX.

My first relationship post implant went well. Ended for reasons wholly unrelated to the implant. I have since come to realize what a jewel that first woman was. She never said anything about or questioned the peculiarities of my penis or our great sex as a result of it. I think one time she asked: "my god. Don't you ever get tired?" And affectionately referred to it as her "Popsicle". 

More recently I have not been so fortunate. In fact in one notably unpleasant date a woman asked me: "what's this?" while feeling the pump. I just looked at her. "nothing" I said. "It's natural" or some stupid shit. Anyway I kid you not she collects herself stands up grabs her purse and walks out my front door. saying only: "I'm sorry." WTF?"




Writer's second girlfriend is somewhat negative for implants.
Do you think such women are common?
young 20s male, but i think my only option is implant
not good at english

naginati
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Re: Is this a common story???

Postby naginati » Thu May 03, 2018 8:36 am

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Urz14me
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Re: Is this a common story???

Postby Urz14me » Thu May 03, 2018 11:39 am

Well honesty is the best policy...If they don't agree well screw em... or not.

I do not have any shame at the fact I got surgery on a body part that no longer worked nor will I make an effort to hide it. What if it was an arm, finger, or a leg would there still be so much secrecy?

Bravo to the guys that have made the decision to better their health and well being.
52 year old. Diagnosed with Venous Leak. Trimix was hit and miss. opt'd for implant Titan 22cm 3.5cm RTE by Dr. Hakky on March 27, 2018 ...Remember they never complaint how small your penis is when it is in their ass... just sayin' :o

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Re: Is this a common story???

Postby naginati » Thu May 03, 2018 1:40 pm

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newtoed
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Re: Is this a common story???

Postby newtoed » Thu May 03, 2018 8:01 pm

Dear Friend,

I don’t have an implant, but I can really relate. As a rectal cancer treatment I had my butt hole removed, I have no belly button, have a 15 in scar and a big hernia on my stomach. Also a colostomy bag where I constantly poop. I use Trimix injectionand have a very active dating life. Usually have 2-3 girlfriends at a time because I don’t want to get serious with anyone right now. I prepare the new girl gradually before we get sexual. And when we get there I explain everything to her especially about the bag. Out of about a dozen women so far only one had a problem with it and she politely didn’t want to see me after I fucked her brains out. It’s not my problem she is not ready for greatness lol.

There are many postings here how to introduce your implant to a new girl from guys with real experiences. Apply those. And if the woman is not cool with the infinite boner, trust me there are thousands who will be.

All the best.
Age 54, Single, Los Angeles. Stage 2 rectal cancer in 2013. Radiation, surgery, chemo. In remission for 5 years. Some ED before cancer, complete since. 2-3 units of Trimix 40/30/2 2-3 times a week since Feb/2017 with great success!

Lost Sheep
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Re: Is this a common story???

Postby Lost Sheep » Thu May 03, 2018 8:24 pm

I think a woman willing to reject sex with a man simply because she discovers at the last minute that he has an implant are uncommon. It takes another element to turn a woman away from sex that she was willing to have. Most probably misunderstanding of what an implant is and does or something she discovered about the man himself at the same instant. Most elements of misunderstanding can be headed off by educating her beforehand about the implant. That should take care of surprises about the man and his integrity/trustworthiness/bedworthiness as well.

I have found that, if one is up front with a woman, she will be supportive and understanding. If she is one of those women who is not, fuck her (either 1-until she runs out of orgasms or 2-she is not worth having around). I believe women are genetically/chromosomally/hormonally predisposed to be nurturing, supportive and caring. (Note that the supportiveness is fragile and can abruptly turn off if she feels betrayed.) So, I think women who will, without just cause, abruptly reverse a decision to have sex with you are rare. But if the surprise of finding an implant strikes her as betrayal, that might explain a lot.

Killing the spontaneity - Interrupting the seduction process to pump up: If you are pumped up partially before even starting foreplay (I have found that I can maintain a 50% erection without much difficulty before sex is even brought up. In face, some men report that being partially pumped helps recruit (pick up) a partner. If you have a steady partner, being surpized by her intiating foreplay might not allow for you to properly "prepare" a partial erection, but you can discretely squeeze in a pump or two at a time while pausing or changing positions and especially if you do cunnilingus.

Arousal: Yeah, I get that, too. In my youth, I was first made aware of my attraction to a woman by a signal from my penis. (Sometimes without a woman even being around, but athat is purely hormonal.) I am talking about the tightening of my loins and increase in pulse rate that accompanies the excitement of the chase. That loin tightening 80%-90% gone now. Much more subtle. I miss that. It has been supplanted by an intellectual arousal. This is my new normal.

Morning wood absence: You can get used to it's absence or you can simulate it. I wake a half hour before my alarm goes off and generally roll over for a few more ZZs. If I pump up (75% or so) before nodding off, I can greet my alarm clock with (a simulation of) morning wood. This is your new normal. Figure out how to make the best of it. Some men sleep all night at half-staff. Check with your doctor. You don't want to have your reservoir encapsulated in scar tissue such that a full deflation is impossible.

The Bulge: Do a search here on FranTalk for the word "Bulge". There are sevearal threads on the subject of how to deal with it. Jock strap. Specialty underwear. Compression underwear; Spanx for men exist (I haven't tried them, but the idea is sound.) For completely unmanageable bulges, a specialized gaff (but for an untucked penis) might work (You would eventually get comfortable with it, but it might take some time).

Unnaturally Hard: You do not have to pump up to the "length gain" degree for sex. Try 80%-90% without pills and see if you get engorgement of the spongiosum (which is often unaffected by E.D. anyway) during sex or masturbation. Save the length-gain degree of inflation for your twice-daily non-sex inflation routine. Again, let you partner tell you the optimal degree of "hard" for her enjoyment. Save the 110% inflation just for the length-gain protocol. (As I understand it, most men pump up for size gain twice per day for about 30 minutes a session - some for more time, too).

About being too hard: Every woman is different and maybe different at different times or in different positions. My current girlfriend/lover likes my implant fully pumped up as rigid as possible. She may change her preference after a while; Who knows? The wonderful thing about implants is that rigidity can be adjusted. I suggest you try this: Pump up as hard as possible, then let a little pressure out. Reducing pressure a little at a time and asking how she likes it will allow her to find the ideal degree of regidity. Getting her participation and a degree of control, essentially to "buy-in" to the implant will help her accept your implant. Also, understanding the implant, how it works and the fact that your attraction to/for her is not dependent on your erection will certainly reduce the "Eww - my man has a dildo inside him." factor.

"Popsicle". I like it. My girlfriend has been searching for a nickname. Personally, I have never named body parts. "Spike" has been suggested, though and may stick.

The "What's this" gal? When you replied "Nothing", that was a lie, or at least clouding the truth. That answer may have put her off more than the pump. Personally, I am up front about the implant. Many other men are, too, but some obfuscate the reason for having it, suggesting a motorcycle or football accident instead of an organic source. Some women are still put off by the fact that they (the woman) cannot induce an erection by their pure sexiness. This is devastating to some women's self-image and hurts the relationship unless the man (you) reassures her sufficiently. Then, some women enjoy taking part in the pumpup process, event to the point of doing the pumping. Making the inflation part of the foreplay can be a turn-on for both of you if she adopts an attitude that fits the activity. There are several threads on the subject of how to (or whether) to tell your partner and how much detail to share. I will add links when I get the chance. Women range from one extreme to the other. One young lady who knew her lover had an implant but since he told her nothing, she decided to go along with the illusion ("suspension of disbelief") and other women relish the endurance their men have and enthsiastically enjoy the whole process. Your lady appears to be at the other end of the acceptance spectrum.

My pump, especially the bulb bulges out to the left side of my scrotum. VERY visible (in form-fitting underwear, not at all in boxers) and palpable. Less that ideal placement, but does not affect operation. In fact, it makes pumping up and deflating a little easier than if it were centrally located behind the testicles. I will ask my surgeon about it at my 6 month checkup. If he has any ideas about repositioning, I will consider it for cosmetic purposes if the V.A. will cover the operation. Otherwise, if manual repositioning cannot fix it, I will probably live with it.
Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 Nov 6, 2017 Dr Shaw.
READ OLD THREADS to ask better questions and better understand answers.
Make yourself part of your medical team.
Document your current penile size: photos and written records.
Pre-op V.E.D. therapy helps.

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Re: Is this a common story???

Postby Lost Sheep » Sat May 05, 2018 1:48 pm

Women do tend to be more understanding and supportive if given the proper chance and incentives.

Women do tend to be more understanding and supportive if given the proper chance and incentives.

Any offers for sex from intrigued girls?
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=7166

How will young women respond to implants?
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=9429&start=30

Getting discovered: How to tell a woman
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=9236

What will she think? - a womans perspective
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=6513[/quote]

Pumping in front of her a mood killer?
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=9856&start=10

Another Day, Another Research Question - Sponteneity
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=9501

What excuse did you use? (More about explaining the surgery than to your partner)
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=9787

She can't feel anything (a little bit off the subject)
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=9594

Afraid of sex
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=9573&start=10

ttp://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=6513
Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 Nov 6, 2017 Dr Shaw.
READ OLD THREADS to ask better questions and better understand answers.
Make yourself part of your medical team.
Document your current penile size: photos and written records.
Pre-op V.E.D. therapy helps.


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