Nervous about dating again: How to talk to new partners about the implant?

[ElbowRoom]

I can't imagine how you manage to hide your Titan. My Titan is very well hidden when it's pumped up. Then it's practically impossible to tell it apart from a real penis. And the pump is perfectly hidden. But when it's deflated, there's no way to hide it. It's literally a plastic penis with sharp corners at the base. If any girl touched my penis, she'd be shocked. It would be immediately obvious it's an artificial organ. Right now, I really regret not choosing the CX.

Hmm, my experience is a little different. I don’t have pronounced dog ears, though I can make them appear if I forcibly fold my flaccid penis.

When fully deflated my penis looks mostly normal. If I squeeze it or roll it around in my hand, I can feel the cylinders slightly “crinkling” inside. But a woman gently touching it probably would feel anything weird, unless she knew what she was feeling or had felt a LOT of dicks. It could easily be mistaken for normal but slightly unusual anatomy.

The CX is generally considered to have a more natural flaccid look and feel to the Titan. But the answer is simple…give the Titan one or two pumps, and it rounds out and the crinkly feeling and dog ears vanish. At that point it feels like a fuller, yet still flaccid, very natural penis.

[LetoMan]

If any girl touched my penis, she'd be shocked. It would be immediately obvious it's an artificial organ.

Here’s my working theory on this. Women are accustomed to a wide range of dicks. They all look and feel different. The same way guys are used to a wide range of female body parts. But heterosexual guys mostly only ever play with one cock: our own. We think that when something changes about our cock, it will be as obvious to all the women who play with it as it is obvious to us.

But the reality is that women don’t think like that (and neither do men). Women are accustomed to accepting whatever weird things we’ve got going on down there the same way we are largely accepting of their weird stuff.

My experience with women has been they have all kinds of different things going on with their vajayjays. Big clits, small clits, hard clits, soft clits. Gaping openings and narrow openings. Bones/cervixes/clits that jut in different directions. Soft hairs and bristly hairs. Entry locations that allow us to spoon and fuck, others that require a 90 degree angle. Weird pigmentations, splotches, growths. Huge lips, no lips. Some barely get wet, some gush like a firehose.

It’s never once occurred to me to interpret one of those things as the product of medical intervention. It’s just part of the normal range of pussies I’ve encountered. If I encounter something outside the range, I just assume the range is broader than I had previously experienced. Sometimes I comment on it, usually out of medical concern for her (or me, if I’m concerned about STDs). Her usual response is something along the lines of “yeah, I know, I’m just like that, it’s no big deal.” I then move on and go back to whatever I was doing.

Look, a dog ear is really nothing when you think about it, especially compared to the idea of a bionic cock that is as hard as steel on demand and has no refractory period. That is waaaaaay less believable as a natural occurrence than a cock with a bit of hardness in its flaccid state that could theoretically be the result of scarring, or just wierd lumps people have (heck, call it a bone spur… women have no idea what all we have going on down there).

Yes, women comment on the abnormality of my cock. I just say “yeah, I know, I’m just like that” and in all cases, she moves on, and her experience of the normal range of cocks is now expanded to include mine. That’s it.

I used to be pretty certain that for me, a committed relationship required eventual disclosure. But I am starting to come around to the idea that a “don’t ask don’t tell” approach is possibly right.

What keeps me from fully endorsing that approach is that I wouldn’t just be hiding the physical implant, I’d also be hiding a big part of me and my history. The fact is that the experience of lifelong ED combined with eventual implantation is a big part of “who I am”. I’d want to share that part of me with an emotional partner.

Anyway. Bottom line is I think to disclose or not disclose should much more based on the nature of the relationship you want to have with a woman than concerns she is going to figure it out based on how little jimmy feels.

Be well,
Leto