First sex - awful

[Mark1974]

My girlfriend said,”when I have sex with a guy, I get him hard and I know he’s turned on. That turns me on. You pump it up. It all seems so mechanical. Are you just going through the motions?”

That is toxic to the max and lacks empathy.
Ask her how she would feel if she didn't get wet and you had to use lube and then tell her the same thing and ask her the same thing.

Better get separated.

No kidding, I would kick her to the curb so fast lol. Lots of fish in the sea

Are there?

You are in your 30's...

[wolfpacker]

That is toxic to the max and lacks empathy.
Ask her how she would feel if she didn't get wet and you had to use lube and then tell her the same thing and ask her the same thing.

Better get separated.

No kidding, I would kick her to the curb so fast lol. Lots of fish in the sea

Are there?

You are in your 30's...

Yes, some of the most fun women I've dated on dating apps are in their late 50s and 60s. Dating apps makes it very easy to find someone new near you

[Mark1974]

No kidding, I would kick her to the curb so fast lol. Lots of fish in the sea

Are there?

You are in your 30's...

Yes, some of the most fun women I've dated on dating apps are in their late 50s and 60s. Dating apps makes it very easy to find someone new near you

You are in your 30's dating women in their 50's and 60's. Of course they are going to be interested in you.

When you get to your 50's and 60's you will see that not so many of the same age women are interested.

[duke_cicero]

One comment really got to me. My girlfriend said,”when I have sex with a guy, I get him hard and I know he’s turned on. That turns me on. You pump it up. It all seems so mechanical. Are you just going through the motions?”

I don’t know how to overcome this one. She says that having sex with a guy with an implant isn’t weird, but apparently it is for her.

I’m hoping for better times in the future. Right now, I’m pretty discouraged.

Sounds like it's time to dump your girlfriend.

Also, 6 weeks is nothing. I am still seeing benefits from recovery at 5 months. Stay strong ... and get a new girlfriend!

[ragingbull]

Do you get any glans engorgement?
What mm in width are the rods?
Is it a Genesis?

Yes. 11mm.
Glans encorgement is fine with Tadalafil.

[Bent Ben]

The right side of my penis was numb for at least six months after surgery. I also had overly sensitive glans on the left side that made sex or masterbation quite uncomfortable during that time. It will get better. 20ish months in and have full sensitivity and stronger orgasms now than prior to surgery.
Hang in there, itll get better. Also, you are 69 years old, dont put up with bullshit from broads, your market value is pretty high! A mature man that is single and can perform is way less common than you realize.

[Discovernew]

The right side of my penis was numb for at least six months after surgery. I also had overly sensitive glans on the left side that made sex or masterbation quite uncomfortable during that time. It will get better. 20ish months in and have full sensitivity and stronger orgasms now than prior to surgery.
Hang in there, itll get better. Also, you are 69 years old, dont put up with bullshit from broads, your market value is pretty high! A mature man that is single and can perform is way less common than you realize.

Hi Ben, I am curious what caused the numb penis? Did Dr hakky explain?

[Handyman]

Had my first sex w implant last night, also about 6 weeks post surgery . I was delighted to be hard. Wife was excited for me (and her) It felt great to feel warmth but awkward and at times uncomfortable. Overall a C-.

Looking forward to the experience improving over time.

[Bent Ben]

Hi Ben, I am curious what caused the numb penis? Did Dr hakky explain?

Surgery is a traumatic event, at least physically. Nerves get moved around and displaced. This can cause periods of numbness, over sensitivity and phantom pain/sensory. In time the body rewires and goes back to normal. While going through the recovery process fear, disappointment and frustration all play with your psyche. Add size loss and penile shape changes and it all weighs heavy. I should note that the other day my wife mentioned my penis is the same as it was prior. Coming out if the surgery I was down to 4.75” x 5”. We broke the tape measure out then it is now 6.125” x 6” today. Thats the same length and 3/8” narrower than prior so basically Im the same size as prior. I actually welcome the narrower size as I was thick to the point that women liked it but could only last for 10 minutes or so. My wife definitely enjoys longer sex sessions now without burning up.
Again, in the end it will be worth it and if Im an indicator, the numbness will come back, symptoms will go away in time.
I had a table saw injury to my right hand and experienced many of the same sensations in my fingers after 3 surgeries (which recovery was much worse than the IPP pain and recovery)

[Discovernew]

Hi Ben, I am curious what caused the numb penis? Did Dr hakky explain?

Surgery is a traumatic event, at least physically. Nerves get moved around and displaced. This can cause periods of numbness, over sensitivity and phantom pain/sensory. In time the body rewires and goes back to normal. While going through the recovery process fear, disappointment and frustration all play with your psyche. Add size loss and penile shape changes and it all weighs heavy. I should note that the other day my wife mentioned my penis is the same as it was prior. Coming out if the surgery I was down to 4.75” x 5”. We broke the tape measure out then it is now 6.125” x 6” today. Thats the same length and 3/8” narrower than prior so basically Im the same size as prior. I actually welcome the narrower size as I was thick to the point that women liked it but could only last for 10 minutes or so. My wife definitely enjoys longer sex sessions now without burning up.
Again, in the end it will be worth it and if Im an indicator, the numbness will come back, symptoms will go away in time.
I had a table saw injury to my right hand and experienced many of the same sensations in my fingers after 3 surgeries (which recovery was much worse than the IPP pain and recovery)

Wow I'm Surprised you were able to recover from such injuries. I do know nerve injuries are way slower healing than others. If ever. I do remember one time I had a Thai massage (this is not even a surgery) and the woman was doing massage with her knees on my body really strongly, I remember being in pain during the massag and she probably injured a nerve. Somehow after that massage my left foot was tingling (sign of nerve injury) and that took me a good 4-5 months for that tingling sensation to go away. Obviously it is not a surgery but definitely nerves heal very slowly.

By the way, you mention changes in shape. Was your penis very oval? And did that improve with time or the shape always stayed like that?