My advice is to not get an implant

[drayan123]

Guys we need to understand that mark is facing the same problem we all are in the group but he’s experience was not so good with it. However I do disagree with him discouraging people not to get the implant but also I’m on he’s side because Ed does take a lot of toll on your mental health and he’s one just got worst maybe he is going through a really tough time and doesn’t have anyone to talk to ? He’s bad experience really did make him suicidal but also mark please do not discourage us if we are trying to fix the problem I hope you over come this situation as soon as possible maybe we should just have a chat with mark to let him know regardless what situation he’s going through we are with him because I was in the exact situation like mark but yet im still on my waiting list for my implant im going to get it regardless.

[FinallyBionic]

Mark, of course you have your reasons to not be happy with the implant, although from your signature, it only says that you would be getting an implant in May 2025. It will be helpful, specially for people planning to get implants if you share what makes you make this (very negative) statement about penile implants.
Implants are the solution with over 90% satisfaction, and when compared with all other ED treatments, it is always the best, provided that it is performed by an experienced surgeon, and done adequately.
I am one of the happy people with my implant, which I have been using for the past 4 and a half years with 100% satisfaction.

[Bandit]

Mark
I feel for you because we all know what its like to go thru ED but i must say that turning your negativity towards others here on FT is not fair. Guys here are doing research to find an answer. You yourself are very early on in this process and have a long way to go with healing and processing your implant. I myself had my first implant for 8 years and it was a lot to get used too. Once healed, i was able to have physical intimacy back in my life. Even after it’s failure, i decided to get revision for another implant. There is a survey going now on FT about being satisfied with your implant. 87% of responses state positive outcomes with 72% saying they are very satisfied. If you want to air your experience here, that is fine and what this site is for. But to discourage men who are looking for some hope is not called for. I hope you can settle in to the healing process and get to the point where you can be at peace. Best to you and all brothers here !
Bandit

[Kodixx]

Mark1974, the cautions you've raised here, and in other threads, are real -- but -- you've got to admit that :
1) Your experience, so far, is at one end of the spectrum while the overwhelming majority is different. ;
2) I said "so far" above, because you are only 2 month post-op and you won't know what your end-point will be for many more months. I had an unusually rough recovery and could easily have been severely discouraged at 2 months. Yet at 4 months post-op things had turned 180 degrees for the better. And now I'm a "cheerleader" for the difference an implant can make to a guy's relationship(s) and life overall. ;
3) In the mean time, you should seriously consider tooyoung's questions and take action as needed. ;
4) Also in the mean time I suggest (and have suggested in other threads) that you get additional medical opinions, including a neurologist's, if for no other reason to maybe achieve some peace of mind about how things might progress from here, and to understand options for working toward the best outcome possible.

Wishing you the best.

- Chuck

If you are lucky enough not have committed genital suicide, my heartfelt advice is to not do it.

[ready2go]

Guys we need to understand that mark is facing the same problem we all are in the group but he’s experience was not so good with it. However I do disagree with him discouraging people not to get the implant but also I’m on he’s side because Ed does take a lot of toll on your mental health and he’s one just got worst maybe he is going through a really tough time and doesn’t have anyone to talk to ? He’s bad experience really did make him suicidal but also mark please do not discourage us if we are trying to fix the problem I hope you over come this situation as soon as possible maybe we should just have a chat with mark to let him know regardless what situation he’s going through we are with him because I was in the exact situation like mark but yet im still on my waiting list for my implant im going to get it regardless.

we need to understand that the malleable he has is not the problem ,its his mental health

[Craigohbig]

Mark can say whatever he wants. Anyone can and should say whatever they like. I had a miserable experience with my first implant and a kind of crazy uneven dick after the second one…but it has 100% made my life better

[LetoMan]

The fact about Mark that I keep coming back to is his comment shortly before he got implanted, where he said he had a fear of medical catastrophes, and that was the reason why he was getting a malleable even though his Doc strongly advised an IPP because that would better fulfill his expectations around his dick.

I think Mark is probably a good guy with some issues around his dick that come from a lifetime of ED. He clearly wrestled with it for a long time. He had been very active on this board for over two years prior to getting implanted. Immediately after implantation he started to complain. There does not appear to be a physical issue… he just doesn’t like it.

I’d urge a little compassion for a brother that is struggling with this lifelong illness. Many of us have found not just a physical cure but a mental cure in the implant; he clearly hasn’t. I don’t think it has anything to do with a physical issue, I assume it is just something that Mark has to work through himself.

To Mark, I would say this: you are clearly a smart and aware guy. You are probably capable of recognizing your own issues around implantation, ED and medical procedures generally. You should be able to perceive that your dissatisfaction stems from your particular issues, and so framing your issues as advice for the general population is not helpful. We are here to help you deal and talk through your issues - though I suggest a therapist might be much better for you. But it is probably not helpful for you to give advice that is not framed with your particular mental struggles and approach to implantation in mind.

Brother, I wish you the best of luck in working it out. ED is a cruel condition, and this is undoubtedly a consequence of it.

Be well, Leto

[Mark1974]

Thank you for all your replies

Many of you do seem satisfied with your decision and I am glad for you

I myself was not that the type of person who should have gotten an implant. I did it for the wrong reasons...mainly loneliness and wanting to date again at 50. I didn't want to be a disappointment or face rejection for having developed ED. I'm sure many of you can relate

It seemed like a cruel joke that women of my age didn't have to worry about this and I knew that this was a problem many of them complained about when talking about same age guys.

This effected me mentally and when I would watch porn it was always older women and younger guys just to fuck with my emotions.

I was using a lot of cannabis (legal here in Illinois). This didn't help me think clearly

But I was physically comfortable. I was struggling to masturbate manually anymore for more than two minutes but never had a problem with orgasming prone against the sheets. TMI, but it gives an indication of my level of ED.

I felt best when I would limit ejaculation to once a month. It gave me a lot of libido to retain and I felt healthy. I had great sensations even though I could no longer penetrate to save my life.

But I knew this profile wouldn't work well for a good sexual relationship. Even though what I really wanted was just a romantic relationship.

And since tolerable levels of Viagra were only giving me engorgement and I hated injections, I kept hearing the next phase is implant. Implant, implant, implant. But I didn't want an implant. But I didn't want to be alone anymore.

Now I don't care about being alone. I just want this thing out of my dick.

I know a lot of you guys really wanted to continue with vigorous coitus, because you yourselves wanted to have vigorous coitus and so all of the drawbacks of the implant are worth it to you, but I they aren't worth it to me. I would much rather have a comfortable night sleeping on my belly than fucking and that is the truth.

Now I'm thinking of pulling this thing out and not replacing it, but I'm afraid of what life is going to be like after that. Certain thoughts that would have never been an option are in play

Sorry for bitching so much, but the truth is implants aren't for everybody and I don't want other emotionally vulnerable guys falling into the same mental trap that I fell into. It's kay to just accept your limitations and maybe see a psychologist instead of a surgeon to deal with the bitter emotions

[LetoMan]

Mark, I’m sorry to hear what you are going through. But I heard some hopeful things from you. Particularly that you might recognize that maybe it’s not the implant that is the cause of your problems, but perhaps your frustrations with being alone, ED, and women.

I agree with you 100% that the solution is in how you see yourself, and that a therapist may be better at helping you with that rather than a surgeon.

What I hope you will do now is see a therapist, and work through what you need to. They can help you talk through your feelings about the implant and the other issues. Do that before you make any rash decisions about roping it out or something worse.

I’m pulling for you, brother. I think you can get better. Take a break from thinking about the implant, other than talking about with your therapist. You may want to take a break from this site, too, as you work through it. There is a lot of weight of expectations here. It doesn’t help to constantly think about it.

But you do need help … help that this board can’t’t provide, other than being supportive. You need to see a professional and talk this through and come up with a plan for yourself.

I’m pulling for you, brother.

Leto

[Mark1974]

[quote="tooyoung"

Have you tried sex yet ?

Masturbation. Orgasming works. Sensations are less intense, because the frenulum is numb and there is less ejaculate (maybe because of the semi-rigid rods), but there are more contractions because it stays stiff. Can't say it feels great overall

Were you a sexual person before the implant ?

My testosterone was always a bit high and I had a good libido. I had some decent sex in my 20's and early 30's. As moderate ED set in in my early 30's I started to shy away from relationships. ED became serious around 45. Have always enjoyed porn and webcams.

Didn't you know that blood gushing sensation will mostly be lost post implantation ?

Yes, of course, intellectually. Actually feeling the loss is a different matter. And I mostly thought about that in the context of sexual situations, but the feeling of blood flowing in that vascular space in the pelvis is something you are feeling all day and night until it is desstroyed.

Are you able to bend it now ?

No. It lays to the side, but not bent down

Did dr.levine teach you how to bend it ?

His medical partner did, but when I put it that way I can't urinate properly and it's difficult to manipulate.

Are your urinary symptoms cleared by now ?

I go the bathroom much more frequently and have to use a handheld urinal.

What did you expect from the implant and have not found ?

I naively wanted this to be much less intrusive than it is, but I knew in my heart it would be a disaster and did it anyways

What does Dr.levine suggest for now?[/quote]

He says to switch to an AMS and scheduled a surgery date of August 21, but I want it out and nothing back in. He strongly advises against this and says he is sure I would regret it. He even contextualized it by talking about his decades of experience and saying that people come from all of the world to see him and I told him I knew who he was.

However, he suggested I get an implant back in 2022 and his suggestion was totally wrong. He may be right about this one though I don't know. Apparently the penis can become disfigured