Pamen116 wrote:Hello all- it’s been a year now with my implant and as much as I want to say I’m thankful (which I am) my engagements with women hasn’t been the most thrilling as anticipated. From experience now with 3-4 ladies I have not been able to make them orgasm and I can tell that they are unsatisfied with the sex. I’d like to blame possibly my motion/technique but before my implant and injury this was not ever an issue with women. I’ve asked 2-3 of them about my size possibly being the problem and was faced with hesitation and had redirected answers, but finally they shared that I was thin. My current size is right under 7 inches length and 5 inches girth at the base and 4.8 at the top below glans- the implant size is 18cm by 3rte with the AMS CX. I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced this problem with the same size implant and size as me? Even if I don’t get no feedback just needed to vent today since it’s been a rough day thinking about my future love life and if I’ll be able to satisfy. I’m sure most of you will bring up foreplay etc, which I get but I guess I just miss when I could make a girl orgasm from sex alone and I feel inadequate now. Anyways hope everyone is having a great day. Cheers
Several very good answers so far. My contribution (without repeating the previous ones) is this:
What were you doing before that worked that you are not doing now?
You have an erection that 1) can be pumped up to whatever degree of rigidity you want (though not, it seems whatever girth you want) and 2) can last as long as desired and statistically is above average in length and at least average in girth.
So, it would appear that your implanted penis' size is not the source of the orgasmic failures of your women.
Has your approach to women changed (for example, are you cockier now that before? Are you choosing different women than before? Are you spending less time in foreplay than before? ) Have you raised expectations in their minds or in yours? Did you lower expectations before? Did your previous lovers embellish or fake their orgasms?
I know you needed to vent. Going through the operation, pain and expense with the expectation that your penis will now solve relationship problems may have been unrealistic. This happens to a lot of people (not just IPP implantees) but College Graduates who expected their lives to change, guys who buy a sports car or the latest Bass Boat who do not get the hookups (women or fish) they thought would happen spontaneously.
The realization that an IPP is not a "magic bullet" is a sobering slap in the face and I hear your need to vent.
How's this for a pickup line: Sitting next to a girl you want to approach, you mumble into your drink, "That damn leprechaun gave me a magic penis that never quits and I STILL can't find a girl who want to teach me how to do it RIGHT!"
Women take to a man who is willing to take direction. (Witness the jokes about how male drivers will NOT STOP TO ASK DIRECTIONS from a stranger even when they are clearly lost.) I posted on a dating site that I was functionally impotent and SEEKING TREATMENT (equivalent to asking directions) to resolve the issue. And asking for a woman to be my "lab partner" before, during and after treatment. (Have sex-while I was impotent and after treatment). I got several volunteers and a lot of encouragement, congratulating me on my candor and courage; that my post was "refreshing".
Women respond to confirmation that they are desired, trusted, respected and safe.
What do you have to lose if you start a relationship with a woman and tell you what you posted here? That you were injured and now (by medical science) can have erections will for however long is desired, but despite being able to perform sexually, you have forgotten how to "ride that bicycle" and desire to get "back in the groove" so to speak. (Change the imagery to something a little less pornographic). If you come across as sincere and give her the impression that you will endeavor to make whatever adjustments are pleasurable and effective for her if she will stick with you, I bet you will find a mentor who will communicate to you more than just "I didn't climax.", but what she lacked that missed the mark, what made her climax with prior lovers, what expectations she had of you before getting naked.
Yeah, that's it. You need a woman who will tell you what you are doing right or doing wrong and will let you adjust your degree of inflation, motions/strokes. And you need to LISTEN to her signals, verbal, non-verbal and physiological.
Venting is fine. Taking the bull by the horns and admitting to and facing the problem is a turn-on for most women. Certainly taking ACTION is more liberating than moping. Venting, for many human beings, is the first step toward action. When you have vented enough (and we are here for you for as long as that takes), take the next step.
