Mentality

[Lost Sheep]

It’s good you have an appointment coming from an implant surgeon. In the meantime, why not enlist the help of some “professional women”. Find one you’re comfortable with and keep trying. Confront your fear head on.

I suppose you are talking about professional sex therapists? Ones with actual credentials, etc.?

Nothing against the unlicensed women who perform sex for pay, but with a psyche already bruised, choosing a woman who will take precautions not to do more damage is paramount. I would hope the NHS would provide for this.

[defiant]

It’s good you have an appointment coming from an implant surgeon. In the meantime, why not enlist the help of some “professional women”. Find one you’re comfortable with and keep trying. Confront your fear head on.

I suppose you are talking about professional sex therapists? Ones with actual credentials, etc.?

Nothing against the unlicensed women who perform sex for pay, but with a psyche already bruised, choosing a woman who will take precautions not to do more damage is paramount. I would hope the NHS would provide for this.

Perhaps a working girl would be a good idea in that I won’t feel as much pressure? At the same time though, I fear the lack of ‘connection’ could lead to bad results...

[TANGERINE]

The idea of a paying a working girl sounds like it has some merit for your situation. Since the working girl really does not give a hoot regarding how capable you are in bed (she only cares that your dick is not too big, and that sex it will not last too long and that the pay is good), having a few romps in that low pressure arena sounds perfect.

In fact, I recall reading somewhere (maybe not here) that one possible maneuver to help men with a hang-up about feeling pressure to perform around women is to have that man go to Thailand and have sex with many many women to the point where the man no longer cares about how things end up, or the attractiveness of the partner, or the potential for failure.

Personally, I think that there is risk in going to Thailand (you might get robbed or you might catch something), but I do think that taking the pressure out of sex by paying for it might help you. (though, I am not a psychologist and not a therapist -- so I really do not know)

PS: By the way, I suspect that most implant surgeons will NOT operate on you if Cialis works; this might even include surgeons in the US who will probably still turn you away even if you are paying cash for the operation.

[ED2013]

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Perhaps a working girl would be a good idea in that I won’t feel as much pressure? At the same time though, I fear the lack of ‘connection’ could lead to bad results...[/quote]

Find one you are attracted to and comfortable. Release your fears. Just relax and do what comes naturally.... practice makes perfect. They’ve got tons of experience to get you both aroused and relaxed. Don’t worry about connection, try not to worry at all. Just enjoy it.

[Anonymous3]

Sounds like a trip to SoHo

[defiant]

The idea of a paying a working girl sounds like it has some merit for your situation. Since the working girl really does not give a hoot regarding how capable you are in bed (she only cares that your dick is not too big, and that sex it will not last too long and that the pay is good), having a few romps in that low pressure arena sounds perfect.

In fact, I recall reading somewhere (maybe not here) that one possible maneuver to help men with a hang-up about feeling pressure to perform around women is to have that man go to Thailand and have sex with many many women to the point where the man no longer cares about how things end up, or the attractiveness of the partner, or the potential for failure.

Personally, I think that there is risk in going to Thailand (you might get robbed or you might catch something), but I do think that taking the pressure out of sex by paying for it might help you. (though, I am not a psychologist and not a therapist -- so I really do not know)

PS: By the way, I suspect that most implant surgeons will NOT operate on you if Cialis works; this might even include surgeons in the US who will probably still turn you away even if you are paying cash for the operation.

The cialis is becoming less effective and with this psychological block which has been going on for over a decade and just got worse and worse, all of which has a paper trail, I’m sure if I offer to pay him the full amount, he’ll agree.

I’ve always said I will give this one more shot with a girl. But I’m in such a bad place.

[hallfighter4]

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[hallfighter4]

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[defiant]

defiant,

I thought of one more thing that might be helpful for you.

Have you heard of a program called NoFap? It is a response to men developing psychogenic erectile dysfunction. While it is primarily aimed at people who watch too much porn, it can help many different cases of psychogenic ED.

The idea is that totally abstain from ALL sexual stimulation for as long as it takes for you to get naturally occurring erections again. This means no touching yourself when you feel horny. Absolutely no porn. Don't even look at your friend's bikini picture that she posted to Instagram -- deactivate social media accounts if you have to. Hell, don't even watch Game of Thrones. You may go through a "flatline" period where your libido completely disappears. But eventually you will start to feel so horny that you can't help but get hard.

Many men absolutely swear by this program and you can read all about it with a quick google search. PLEASE at least read this man's story here: https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/age-22-ed-cured-80-days

If your ED truly is psychogenic, then you ought to at least try this program for a couple months before opting for the implant.

Thanks so much for your input, man. I really appreciate it.

Yes I've heard of that approach. I've actually tried it in a way before although I didn't stick at it for more than a couple weeks I'd say by which point I attempted to masturbate and came with a semi which is one of the worst things ever.

I'm really plagued by the fact that I'm single now and the mere thought of trying to start a new relationship under these circumstances is of great distress to me.

Yeah okay I've got the pills but I think I'm beyond all this now. It's been over 12 years with this. I need some stability. I haven't yet made the final decision and I'm yet to see a shrink, which I think I ought to. I've got that booked in also.

But first the medical stuff - I need to see what my body's saying once and for all and I'll let the best implanter in Europe let his team get to the bottom of that. From there, appropriate choices can be made.

I really just don't trust this diagnostic process. The Dopplers seem to be carried out in wildly different ways and determine so much!

[hallfighter4]

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