Postby GManAnon » Mon Oct 26, 2026 4:52 pm
Hey All,
Been a while probably too long, of course we all know how fast life wizzes by! Still on the contemplating fence but getting closer to saying what the f..k, just do it! Lots going on in life with the wife in final stages of being diagnosed with early onset Alzheimers disease so a lot of my mental spare time is spent “Supervising” at home, she 53 yo and myself 55 so there is a lot of life planning happening atm.
Intimacy for us is fastly becoming non-existent and certainly no chance of any PIV action with my 7 year limpy, the VED use even for preservation purposes is becoming more and more a chore not getting much use. I'm essentially losing my companion in life and pretty well (in my mind) co-existing under the same roof, she's been laid off at her job last year due to inability to maintain focus and attentiveness while I'm transitioning to retirement in the new year but seems like the joy that should come in this stage of life is disappearing. I'm still contemplating the implant to maintain my own wishful thinking of having someone in my life as a friend/companion in all ways, this may need to come from outside the family home eventually, not about to dump my responsibilities of supporting my wife through this difficult time and of course this could go on for a loong time. I still need to consider my own mental health along this journey.
I've never been unfaithful and don't intend to but I will probably be seeking a companion at some time and may call upon some female friends and/or colleagues for advice and or setup if they know someone appropriate. Don't want to get into the situation where I meet someone but having the non-performing limpy will certainly be a detractor to progress the relationship. Life has no manual or playbook to follow, most of the time there are foggy skies ahead, but occasionally you just want to sit on a beach somewhere with someone you can have some fun without the normal stress/pressures of life.
Hope all this comes across as compassionate but at the same time optimistic of what life can be, just looking for a little re-assurance that I'm thinking about an implant for the right reasons.
Gman
55 yo married 29 yrs, non-nerve sparing RARP 2019, Gleeson 9/10, Radiation 2021, current PSA <0.01, Sydney Australia.