1st time sex with implant (25th attempt)

[richard_goes_bionic]

Thanks Dan and you guys, I really hope you are right. Today was one of these days again where the frustration took overhand. It looks like I am in this deadlock wheel again. We had sex, it was late after dinner and older people shot avoid sex with full stomach I guess.
Anyhow we got it going with a short foreplay and then with her on top. Nothing either me nor her, change to reverse cowgirl without result. So we broke it off and asked ourself what is going on. I can see it on her that she is disappointed and depressed over the whole situation and sooner than later she is afraid of having sex. I can already see her anxiety before we even start and this is of course nothing to help my own excitement She also asked why I am not helping myself, because there is even less respons with masturbation than with intercourse.For the moment I feel I use a strap on and this piece down there does not belong to me. No sense ability what so ever. it's weird and a real mindfuck because I experienced the other side already many times.
Until now we had a rate of about every 4th day with PIV. We might try to take a break for a couple of weeks maybe and see how it works out.

cheers
Richard

[dan_bionic]

Thanks Dan and you guys, I really hope you are right. Today was one of these days again where the frustration took overhand. It looks like I am in this deadlock wheel again. We had sex, it was late after dinner and older people shot avoid sex with full stomach I guess.
Anyhow we got it going with a short foreplay and then with her on top. Nothing either me nor her, change to reverse cowgirl without result. So we broke it off and asked ourself what is going on. I can see it on her that she is disappointed and depressed over the whole situation and sooner than later she is afraid of having sex. I can already see her anxiety before we even start and this is of course nothing to help my own excitement She also asked why I am not helping myself, because there is even less respons with masturbation than with intercourse.For the moment I feel I use a strap on and this piece down there does not belong to me. No sense ability what so ever. it's weird and a real mindfuck because I experienced the other side already many times.
Until now we had a rate of about every 4th day with PIV. We might try to take a break for a couple of weeks maybe and see how it works out.

cheers
Richard

That's for sure, full stomach is the killer of sex, especially when you have some problem with acidity
On the topic:
What does stimulate you before starting sex?
Thinking about having nice sex with a horny chick, that makes you getting aroused ?
Oral sex to make her wet and horny?
BJ/DT to make you horny?

What I mean, you need stimulation to be or get horny and crazy.
Go for a nice wellness weekend in a nice place and relax, instead just focussing on your climax ability.
Talk with her about sex, maybe you both will like to watch a porn or check new positions, that you never did.

There are so many possibilities and situations to dream about sex, especially knowing, you could have sex on demand...

Good luck
Dan

[ElbowRoom]

It sounds like things are going great, you’re having more reliable results than I am right now. I think we just need to realize that having an on-demand always hard dick doesn’t mean our brain and the rest of our body is always ready. Sometimes while sex is still fun it’s not the right time for maximum benefit.

[LGXDownunder]

...Until now we had a rate of about every 4th day with PIV. We might try to take a break for a couple of weeks maybe and see how it works out.

Richard, Can I suggest maybe not counting everything or over analyzing things? Like how many attempts, success/failure rates and so on. I think it puts unnecessary pressure on you to perform. That can cause anxiety etc, even if you're not aware of it. I was frustrated when I first started back at sex and couldn't orgasm consistently. It took a while but eventually resolved on its own. Taking a break sounds like a good idea.

[Old Guy]

25 Times?!!? At least you're getting your money's worth out of the implant.
Unable to finish sometimes is part of sex with an implant, I think. There are times I've experienced it.
Best is try to relax and enjoy the ride. As Larry used to say, it's only sex.

[richard_goes_bionic]

first of all to all my brothers a 1000 thanks to the fantastic advices, to your concern and encouragement. It means a lot guys.
second I want to celebrate 20000+ views on this topic. Thank you for your interest in my journey.
It seems I have hit a spot where many can see themselves in similar situation.
I know sex sells but I am sure many brothers can fell some relief in there own anxiety which experience the same ups and downs and see that they are not alone and so do I.

Now to the topic. I appreciate very much all the advices I got from brothers who have been there and I followed most of them. The bottomline I guess lies in the brain. Some brothers may hit the point with maybe too much analyzing, counting, rating so you forget to relax and get fixed on this one thing only.
Let's face it, the implant is a gift for all of us who could not have normal sex for many years. Like my wife said, I watched you come for many years now you can watch me without getting frustrated because you have proof already that the device is working, also for you, just not every time.
I will now stop to post every intercourse but I will give you an update once in a while about the progress and future outcome with my journey.

Big hug, Richard