Single life with implant /concerns

[dan_bionic]

Lawrence13,
here is an old thread of myself with a lot of advices how to pump and why you shouldn't worry about pumping or inflaiing:
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=25493

Girls don't care about how and what, they just want to be fucked and think, they make you sot that you become rock-hard.
I often pump during oral or intercourse, the hotties like it to feel the dick getting hard while in their pussies.
Don't worry at all, you will find your way, how to do it.
I nearly always have a different girl and until now not one has realized anything, they even don't know something like an implant exists.
All the best
Dan

[ElbowRoom]

As mentioned by JohnnyBorg, I'm generally in the "tell them" camp. There's no shame in it, and honestly when I tell women they get interested and curious. I currently have a girlfriend who I told pretty early on, even before we talked about having sex. And she got immediately curious and excited. She loves it and we're both having the best sex of our lives.

Of course there's no judgment if you want to go incognito, it's just a personal preference choice based on your own comfort and what you want. My Titan Classic pump is pretty noisy, like a soft moaning noise. I think it would be pretty easy to hide if you wanted to with a few choice noises of your own. Or just excuse yourself to the restroom, and come out a couple of minutes later sporting a rager.

There are lots of possibilities, you can tailor how to handle it to your partners and what your expectations are with each one. No need to tell a quick fling, but you can always tell them if you are looking at them more seriously.

[whatevery]

I actually suspect that somehow letting women know that what you got is bionic, and wouldn't go soft until she decides that it's time would more often than not serve as a magnet.
Just saying.

Don’t get me wrong. I definitely let women know I am hard as a rock and fuck for hours! I just don’t tell them WHY I’m that way.

I find that most women want to think it’s them that causes that super hard dick. Even if I tell them I am always like this, they want to think that even though I fuck other women, they are lucky to be chosen by me. It’s social proof. Why would I want to disabuse them of those views?

Women are funny. Sure, a ton of women who are looking for traditional love and mating do NOT respond to my approach. But luckily I am not interested in them. There are plenty of women who just want to have fun.

These past two years have been a real education. I started out thinking I had to be a real vanilla nice guy to hook up, particularly as an older dude. What I’ve found is the opposite… women love it if you are dirty, just do it at the appropriate time and way.

One way I have turned a few of them on is by showing them videos of me fucking other women. That has really turned a number of them on. And it shows them my hard dick in action.

I dated a girl regularly in the few months following my implantation. We were pretty vanilla compared to how I am now. We split up for over a year, but a few months ago started texting again. I sent her some videos of me fucking, and she loved it. So I planned a trip to go back to see her. And she wanted me to film her too. She turned into a pornstar.

She has a new boyfriend. She likes him a lot, and he’s a good “match” for her. But I get the sense he doesn’t do it for her in bed. She likes the idea of a purely sexual thing between us, only when I come to town.

Anyway. Everyone has a different approach. You should do whatever works for you! Just have fun.

Hey man, once I implant and am ready to roll I'd be texting you getting some pointers

[LetoMan]

Hey man, once I implant and am ready to roll I'd be texting you getting some pointers

Here you go: viewtopic.php?t=27043

[Lawrence13]

As mentioned by JohnnyBorg, I'm generally in the "tell them" camp. There's no shame in it, and honestly when I tell women they get interested and curious. I currently have a girlfriend who I told pretty early on, even before we talked about having sex. And she got immediately curious and excited. She loves it and we're both having the best sex of our lives.

Of course there's no judgment if you want to go incognito, it's just a personal preference choice based on your own comfort and what you want. My Titan Classic pump is pretty noisy, like a soft moaning noise. I think it would be pretty easy to hide if you wanted to with a few choice noises of your own. Or just excuse yourself to the restroom, and come out a couple of minutes later sporting a rager.

There are lots of possibilities, you can tailor how to handle it to your partners and what your expectations are with each one. No need to tell a quick fling, but you can always tell them if you are looking at them more seriously.

[Lawrence13]

My (Coloplast Titan classic) pump doesn’t always make noise. But when it does it’s only the first few pumps (first 5 or 6). If I want to be discreet (meeting a hook up for sex) I just squeeze those 5 or 6 pumps in before I arrive. At that point my penis is thick and full, seems like 1/2 mast, but still discreet and stowable in my pants.

I’ve also briefly excused myself to the bathroom (a normal thing to do) and put in those first few pulls before coming back out.

It’s not super loud either. I can pump with the pump squeaking, and background music, moaning, or bedroom talk will cover it up.

Distracting them works well too. Do those first few pumps while you are going down on them (oral) moaning a bit as you do. They won’t hear the pump.


All that to say, there are easy solutions to keep someone from hearing the pump and remaining discreet.

Appreciate you man. Sounds like it doesn’t necessarily need to be a deal breaker.

[Lawrence13]

Completely agree with what others have said. You have to remember that the vast majority of people have no concept of implants and have no reason to believe that you have one. You are hyper aware of it, but most people are completely clueless.

Like Goodwood said, just pre-pump to the point where you’ve got some fullness, but can still bend it into your pants. That way they can feel your excitement through your pants and if they immediately go to oral you at least firm enough that they wouldn’t really notice. It’s easy to pull someone away and kiss them or do something else while you discreetly add a few more pumps. I also find that during the undressing process it’s quite easy to turn away for a few moments and get a few pumps in. And if you perform oral or have them somehow turned away from you, it allows you to sneak a few more in. At this point, you are probably close to being fully pumped. I have the OTR, and even it makes some noise. It’s easy to say something like how sexy you find them or make some simple pleasure noises as you are pumping. Very easy to hide.

For deflation, the default is just has to go to the bathroom. No one ever questioned something like that.

Yeah that sounds like a good way to handle it. Appreciate the response.

[Lawrence13]

Understand your fears, maybe I can help.

I have had my Titan for about 5 years now. It does "quack" when you pump it up. I make a joke of it and tell my partner shes about to get ducked. Having the inplant is amazing! I can stay fully pumped, hard as a rock as long as I like. 2 hours? 3 more? not an issue at all. You are ready anytime all the time. My wife taps out long before I do. The feelings are better than natural in my case. I can edge for hours on end if I want, I'll admit I'm not a normal case here as I have a huge sex drive and an adiction to porn that I' have had all my life. I'm almost 60 now. My wife is very understanding and its just become a normal part of our lifes. I cum 4-5 times a day which to some may sound like a lot to other not that much, its all in your how your wired.

gone is the fear I cant perform.

I normally get out of the shower each night around 7 and stay pumped up till I goto bed at 10. Everynight. My parnter constantly plays with it while we are watching a show or just snuggling. it has 100% changed my life.

Now, its not ALL roses... I ended up with a keloid on my surgical scar that grew to about the size of the end of you finger, had it surgically removed 3 years ago but now it back twice the size and having another surgery to remove it in a few weeks. This is NOT normal, I'm kind of an outlier there. Still, it has not affected anything and life goes on without issue.

In the end, the noise the pump makes is a non issue. have fun with it and your partner will as well. the fact you can walk out of the shower with a full sized towel being held up by your cock is enough they wont ask questions lol.

as a side note- My wife calls it the robo cock. and she is happy that its always ready to go.

Not even your reassurance on the pump …. It’s the way you talk about how it’s charged your life for the better that really strikes me. I’ll never get tired of reading about guys having that kind of positive impact from their decision.

[Lawrence13]

Lawrence13,
here is an old thread of myself with a lot of advices how to pump and why you shouldn't worry about pumping or inflaiing:
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=25493

Girls don't care about how and what, they just want to be fucked and think, they make you sot that you become rock-hard.
I often pump during oral or intercourse, the hotties like it to feel the dick getting hard while in their pussies.
Don't worry at all, you will find your way, how to do it.
I nearly always have a different girl and until now not one has realized anything, they even don't know something like an implant exists.
All the best
Dan

Dan I’ve read tons of your stuff in various threads. You’re a legend. I appreciate it so much! Thank you dude.

[Lawrence13]

Echoing what others have said here. Thanks for the shoutout, Johnny!

I’m a bit older than you, but otherwise some similarities: I got my implant just as I was getting out of a marriage, and have been single and dating ever since.

The bottom line is you really don’t have to worry about this at all. It’s a common early concern. But in practice it is just not an issue. The woman I have been dating the longest has commented on how I have a “hard mass” in my scrotum, but that’s it. Otherwise, I’ve slept with around a hundred women since being implanted, and almost none of them have suspected anything.

I say almost none of them, because recently a woman asked me if I had an implant after our first time together. It was so rare I really wasn’t prepared for that, haha, so I sorta mumbled no, that’s just the way I am, and she said she had been with a guy once who had one, and that he was always super hard like me. She wants to see me again, so I suppose she liked it however it happens!

A couple of women have asked me how I am so hard all the time, I just smile and say that’s just how I am. And I’ve told two women. Frankly, I don’t recommend it if you are just there for sex. The two women I told I knew I would never see again. They were both very cool about it, but you could tell it changed something for them. If I were to develop a relationship I would tell her, but in the meantime I keep it to myself. In the early days I would have the urge to tell her, but I think it was mostly because I wanted to talk to someone about the experience. Now I am very comfortable with who I am, and it wouldn’t even occur to me to bring it up.

You’re an absolute legend in these parts. I am humbled by your response sir! Thank you.