Single life with implant /concerns

[Lawrence13]

My surgery is scheduled for April 14th. Dr Eid placing the coloplast titan w/ classic pump. During my mid 20’s and early 30’s in nyc I dated causally a large number of woman and had quite a lot of success. This was pre Ed of course. Past 5 years I’ve been in long term relationships until about two months ago when my most recent one ended. I will be facing the surgery alone and then entering the nyc dating scene as a bionic single man. If I meet someone who becomes a potential long term partner I will of course tell them about my surgery. However, I will likely want to be discrete and have fun for a while and date around and meet people out on the town.

Questions.

1. I hear the classic pump w/ Titan makes serious noise. Is that going to be an issue with woman being able to hear it? The last thing I need is more anxiety when getting intimate.

2. Any single guys care to comment on how adjusting to casually dating will be? Will I find a meaningful improvement over injections? In terms of confidence, spontenaity?

[JohnnyBorg]

Hey man!

You’ll hear a ton of opinions here. Generally speaking, you should be able to learn some techniques and come up with sort of a “gameplan” for how to be discrete about your implant if you want to keep it a secret.

dan_bionic and LetoMan have excellent posts about this. I hope they chime in. Recently, Leto in particular had a really funny piece of feedback in this area:

“Spending a long weekend with a girl has been interesting in terms of how I inflate/deflate. I have developed a fool-proof strategy: I just don’t worry about it. I actually even went ahead and inflated while she was stroking and sucking me once. She said she loved feeling me get hard, with zero clue I was pumping it up… I presume she just thought I was playing with my balls. It’s consistent with the rest of my experiences: women may think something is weird about you (you are really into fondling your own balls, you are freakishly hard all the time, you have a super hard testicle), but they don’t make some giant leap of logic and guess you have an implant. They just roll with it. So what if he likes to play with his hard testicle? He fucks me til my eyes roll back in my head.”

But bottom line is that you can develop some strategies on how to pump up / deflate to keep things fairly incognito. Some guys have mentioned putting a few “pre-emptive” pumps in during a trip to the bathroom before they think they’re about to get freaky, then pumping the rest of the way during foreplay.

Another user “ElbowRoom” also has an excellent perspective on this, and it’s the opposite of how many of us think about it. With his partners so far, he’s been transparent about having the implant. And to be honest, even though I have a malleable implant (which SOMETIMES are a bit easier to hide the fact you’re implanted since you don’t have to pump), I’m actually considering doing the same. There’s no shame in it - we all have ED due to things out of our control, and we all chose to DO SOMETHING about it (which is unfortunately more than many men ever try to do!). That should be a source of pride regardless of whether you choose to disclose or not.

Anyways, long story short, there’s a lot of ways guys here are able to stay discreet about their implant (pre-pumping a bit + pumping during moments in foreplay is a classic one). I imagine if you’re going down on your partner, that’s a great opportunity to pump. And then on the flip slide, you can always say “fuck it” and just tell your lady friend “I have an implant in my dick, I’m proud of it, LETS GO ALL NIGHT” you’ve got options.

[JohnnyBorg]

For me, if I ever need to revise to an inflatable, I think I’d actually just go for the latter and tell the partner about the implant (and emphasize to my partner that I still get full arousal and have a shitload of libido - which is why I chose to get the implant in the first place!).

[Lawrence13]

Hey man!

You’ll hear a ton of opinions here. Generally speaking, you should be able to learn some techniques and come up with sort of a “gameplan” for how to be discrete about your implant if you want to keep it a secret.

dan_bionic and LetoMan have excellent posts about this. I hope they chime in. Recently, Leto in particular had a really funny piece of feedback in this area:

“Spending a long weekend with a girl has been interesting in terms of how I inflate/deflate. I have developed a fool-proof strategy: I just don’t worry about it. I actually even went ahead and inflated while she was stroking and sucking me once. She said she loved feeling me get hard, with zero clue I was pumping it up… I presume she just thought I was playing with my balls. It’s consistent with the rest of my experiences: women may think something is weird about you (you are really into fondling your own balls, you are freakishly hard all the time, you have a super hard testicle), but they don’t make some giant leap of logic and guess you have an implant. They just roll with it. So what if he likes to play with his hard testicle? He fucks me til my eyes roll back in my head.”

But bottom line is that you can develop some strategies on how to pump up / deflate to keep things fairly incognito. Some guys have mentioned putting a few “pre-emptive” pumps in during a trip to the bathroom before they think they’re about to get freaky, then pumping the rest of the way during foreplay.

Another user “ElbowRoom” also has an excellent perspective on this, and it’s the opposite of how many of us think about it. With his partners so far, he’s been transparent about having the implant. And to be honest, even though I have a malleable implant (which SOMETIMES are a bit easier to hide the fact you’re implanted since you don’t have to pump), I’m actually considering doing the same. There’s no shame in it - we all have ED due to things out of our control, and we all chose to DO SOMETHING about it (which is unfortunately more than many men ever try to do!). That should be a source of pride regardless of whether you choose to disclose or not.

Anyways, long story short, there’s a lot of ways guys here are able to stay discreet about their implant (pre-pumping a bit + pumping during moments in foreplay is a classic one). I imagine if you’re going down on your partner, that’s a great opportunity to pump. And then on the flip slide, you can always say “fuck it” and just tell your lady friend “I have an implant in my dick, I’m proud of it, LETS GO ALL NIGHT” you’ve got options.

I appreciate this response big time. Seems like one of those things I’m going to have to feel out. Practice it. And of course with certain woman I will likely just reveal it so I don’t have to worry about it.

Just want to have the option to be discreet. Biggest concern is the classic pump noise.

[GoodWood]

My (Coloplast Titan classic) pump doesn’t always make noise. But when it does it’s only the first few pumps (first 5 or 6). If I want to be discreet (meeting a hook up for sex) I just squeeze those 5 or 6 pumps in before I arrive. At that point my penis is thick and full, seems like 1/2 mast, but still discreet and stowable in my pants.

I’ve also briefly excused myself to the bathroom (a normal thing to do) and put in those first few pulls before coming back out.

It’s not super loud either. I can pump with the pump squeaking, and background music, moaning, or bedroom talk will cover it up.

Distracting them works well too. Do those first few pumps while you are going down on them (oral) moaning a bit as you do. They won’t hear the pump.


All that to say, there are easy solutions to keep someone from hearing the pump and remaining discreet.

[Mtricher]

Completely agree with what others have said. You have to remember that the vast majority of people have no concept of implants and have no reason to believe that you have one. You are hyper aware of it, but most people are completely clueless.

Like Goodwood said, just pre-pump to the point where you’ve got some fullness, but can still bend it into your pants. That way they can feel your excitement through your pants and if they immediately go to oral you at least firm enough that they wouldn’t really notice. It’s easy to pull someone away and kiss them or do something else while you discreetly add a few more pumps. I also find that during the undressing process it’s quite easy to turn away for a few moments and get a few pumps in. And if you perform oral or have them somehow turned away from you, it allows you to sneak a few more in. At this point, you are probably close to being fully pumped. I have the OTR, and even it makes some noise. It’s easy to say something like how sexy you find them or make some simple pleasure noises as you are pumping. Very easy to hide.

For deflation, the default is just has to go to the bathroom. No one ever questioned something like that.

[gercoa]

Understand your fears, maybe I can help.

I have had my Titan for about 5 years now. It does "quack" when you pump it up. I make a joke of it and tell my partner shes about to get ducked. Having the inplant is amazing! I can stay fully pumped, hard as a rock as long as I like. 2 hours? 3 more? not an issue at all. You are ready anytime all the time. My wife taps out long before I do. The feelings are better than natural in my case. I can edge for hours on end if I want, I'll admit I'm not a normal case here as I have a huge sex drive and an adiction to porn that I' have had all my life. I'm almost 60 now. My wife is very understanding and its just become a normal part of our lifes. I cum 4-5 times a day which to some may sound like a lot to other not that much, its all in your how your wired.

gone is the fear I cant perform.

I normally get out of the shower each night around 7 and stay pumped up till I goto bed at 10. Everynight. My parnter constantly plays with it while we are watching a show or just snuggling. it has 100% changed my life.

Now, its not ALL roses... I ended up with a keloid on my surgical scar that grew to about the size of the end of you finger, had it surgically removed 3 years ago but now it back twice the size and having another surgery to remove it in a few weeks. This is NOT normal, I'm kind of an outlier there. Still, it has not affected anything and life goes on without issue.

In the end, the noise the pump makes is a non issue. have fun with it and your partner will as well. the fact you can walk out of the shower with a full sized towel being held up by your cock is enough they wont ask questions lol.

as a side note- My wife calls it the robo cock. and she is happy that its always ready to go.

[LetoMan]

Echoing what others have said here. Thanks for the shoutout, Johnny!

I’m a bit older than you, but otherwise some similarities: I got my implant just as I was getting out of a marriage, and have been single and dating ever since.

The bottom line is you really don’t have to worry about this at all. It’s a common early concern. But in practice it is just not an issue. The woman I have been dating the longest has commented on how I have a “hard mass” in my scrotum, but that’s it. Otherwise, I’ve slept with around a hundred women since being implanted, and almost none of them have suspected anything.

I say almost none of them, because recently a woman asked me if I had an implant after our first time together. It was so rare I really wasn’t prepared for that, haha, so I sorta mumbled no, that’s just the way I am, and she said she had been with a guy once who had one, and that he was always super hard like me. She wants to see me again, so I suppose she liked it however it happens!

A couple of women have asked me how I am so hard all the time, I just smile and say that’s just how I am. And I’ve told two women. Frankly, I don’t recommend it if you are just there for sex. The two women I told I knew I would never see again. They were both very cool about it, but you could tell it changed something for them. If I were to develop a relationship I would tell her, but in the meantime I keep it to myself. In the early days I would have the urge to tell her, but I think it was mostly because I wanted to talk to someone about the experience. Now I am very comfortable with who I am, and it wouldn’t even occur to me to bring it up.

[whatevery]

Echoing what others have said here. Thanks for the shoutout, Johnny!

I’m a bit older than you, but otherwise some similarities: I got my implant just as I was getting out of a marriage, and have been single and dating ever since.

The bottom line is you really don’t have to worry about this at all. It’s a common early concern. But in practice it is just not an issue. The woman I have been dating the longest has commented on how I have a “hard mass” in my scrotum, but that’s it. Otherwise, I’ve slept with around a hundred women since being implanted, and almost none of them have suspected anything.

I say almost none of them, because recently a woman asked me if I had an implant after our first time together. It was so rare I really wasn’t prepared for that, haha, so I sorta mumbled no, that’s just the way I am, and she said she had been with a guy once who had one, and that he was always super hard like me. She wants to see me again, so I suppose she liked it however it happens!

A couple of women have asked me how I am so hard all the time, I just smile and say that’s just how I am. And I’ve told two women. Frankly, I don’t recommend it if you are just there for sex. The two women I told I knew I would never see again. They were both very cool about it, but you could tell it changed something for them. If I were to develop a relationship I would tell her, but in the meantime I keep it to myself. In the early days I would have the urge to tell her, but I think it was mostly because I wanted to talk to someone about the experience. Now I am very comfortable with who I am, and it wouldn’t even occur to me to bring it up.

I don't know man if this is the right strategy but since you say that you slept with hundred women since your divorce who am I to doubt your approach.

That being said however I have a feeling that many women would actually love the idea of test driving one's robodick lol I think much of it is in the presentation.
Few days ago I spoke to a very pretty Italian woman that I never slept with and she's demanding that I come to Milano post-op so she could test it out!
I can only imagine what's going to happen once my Brazilian female friends find out, both who I fucked and who I didn't. I actually suspect that somehow letting women know that what you got is bionic, and wouldn't go soft until she decides that it's time would more often than not serve as a magnet.
Just saying.