Was your wife/partner worried about a heightened level to perform after implant?

[KaBoom]

Lets face it, for many of us here, we are in the 45+ demographic, and our ladies are either past menopause or about to go through it.

So us guys here are experiencing a bionic fountain of youth, and have a rocket in our pants any time we want, she might have different emotions about it. Certainly joy and pleasure for the times when we do get it on....but also anxiety as her physique is doing the exact opposite to a fountain of youth.

Mine even asked me if this would make me want to seek other ladies if she cant keep up with my new vigor and drive.

It's a valid question, not that I would do that, but for her to feel some concern and less enthusiasm about the impending implant.

It's role reversal now. For years I was the one anxious about my non ideal bedroom performance towards her, and soon it could be the other way around....she worries about her not as frequent desire being a let down to me.

I imagine others here in our demographic have had similar contrast within you and partner. She loves me and is ok to get this done, but she worries.

[edjohn]

Well there are those guys who somehow keep popping wood until 80 with a little Viagra and those ladies who keep getting wet until then with a little testosterone... so while it's not a majority I suppose, it's an issue everyone faces in one respect or another. The odds are one partner will need to fuck for decades longer than the other and we all have to ask those questions eventually. Until the inevitable, both need to be proactive in optimizing hormones first. Men actually have it worse naturally... anybody can hypothetically treat libido and sexual sensitivity with meds and hormones, but without a functioning cock the equation still falls apart. At least this means the playing field is level again and each of us have to decide how much we care about our own sexuality as well as our partner's pleasure and choose not to give up.

[1sfman]

Well, I'm 75 and my wife is 74. Our sex life had greatly diminished over the past 5 years as my ED problems increased. When you get to the point where you know (and she knows too) that my dick was going to fail, even if it starts out reasonably erect, it just starts to take the incentive away. We went from a fairly twice a week schedule down to maybe "trying" every 6 to 8 weeks. I so deeply regret wasting so much time before IPP.

I'm just past 8 weeks post-op, have had PIV sex after the 6 week wait, but I still have quite a bit of discomfort, so still not the best. But, it gets better day by day. The good thing however, is my wife is very interested now! She now has a newfound interest in at least getting back to at least a twice a week schedule. Who knows, may be more often. So, I guess it is all depending upon the individual. Clearly, there was/is not a worry on her part about a heightened level to perform. Makes me happy and I can't wait for the continued improvement and lessening of discomfort for those occasions to become regular events once again .

[SWorks17]

Kaboom, valid question for us guys that get our groove back with a Bionic Weapon!

My wife didn't voice any concerns that I would want to have sex more after getting my implant but I definitely wanted to have more sex since I had a new On Demand Dick and could get it up at anytime or anyplace.

We're both in our 60's, I just turned 68 and my wife is 63. My wife has always had a lower sex drive than me, but we've made it work over 37 years of marriage.

One of my FrankTalk friends in the Dallas area told me that his wife had started getting hormone replacement therapy and her sex drive was off the charts and she is in her late 60's.
I encouraged my wife to get her levels checked at a local wellness clinic that she had went to before and sure enough her levels were low.
She's been on hormone replacement therapy for the past two years and our sex life is great. She didn't turn into a nympho, but she likes to have sex more often and I usually still have to initiate, but sometimes she will tell me that she is horny and to get ready for a romp nite.
My wife gets a pellet installed into her back side every 3 1/2 months for testosterone and she takes thyroid and progesterone pills to control the other hormones. She gets super wet after we start foreplay and passionately kissing, so we don't have to use lube anymore.

That's my story, if you want more info just PM me.
Your Bionic Brother in Texas
SWorks

[Stevie Reno]

My wife was supportive when I decided I wanted an implant. We had several years of intimacy without intercourse before I decided - the pills rarely worked even when I exceeded the dosage. I tried injections and they didn’t work either. My urologist told me that he was almost certain it was leakage and it couldn’t really be corrected - but the implant was an option.

My wife understood I was going to be like a kid with a new toy and as soon as we got turned loose we used the toy as much as possible…I had some soreness so we usually skipped at least a day the first two weeks then gradually moved towards maybe twice a week…

But she doesn’t have any desire for actual intercourse - we finish our intimacy with intercourse but she enjoys the touching, kissing and massaging…we’re in our late sixties and I’m extremely pleased to be able to have good intercourse once or twice a week. One thing my wife has said that is funny (to me)…she says I’m just too big and it takes too long for me to cum…I told her to please not say that to her friends - I don’t need to get hit on by old ladies who aren’t getting any…

Note, I don’t think I’m any bigger (girth is mainly what she means) I just think we were having occasion intercourse with a semi- erection and with my implant I’m as hard as I was at eighteen…as for going longer, yea, not having anxiety and fear of losing your erection let’s you relax and enjoy the ride…and I enjoy every minute of it…

One thing that I am definitely aware of now is that I could actually get some side action…I’m physically capable whereas before I’d have never even thought about trying. I can claim sainthood because I’ve never cheated but the reality is that was not able to cheat for a long time. So now I have to keep that in mind and avoid situations that might get me in trouble. My desire is to have sex with my wife…not be a player. If you’re considering an implant, it’s something you need to think about ahead of time.

[LGXDownunder]

I can relate strongly to a number of these replies. My wife was also very supportive about me getting an implant. She well understood my frustration that my post prostatectomy total ED had zero improvement after ~3 years. We had tried to continue a normal sex life during that period. But I knew she was just going through the motions as I could only achieve a very short duration partial erection with a VED. Other treatments had failed, so that was the only thing I had left. But it was completely unsatisfactory and psychologically devastating for me.

My libido has always been much stronger than hers, but we have generally had PIV sex between 3 and 5 times a week on average for as long as I can remember. She is a couple of years younger than me. Post menopausal for some time and can no longer climax from penetration, but has told me that she still enjoys the pleasure from it. In younger days she could orgasm multiple times in quick succession and usually wanted me to keep going. Fast forward to recent years and I have been the main driver for sex, with her as a willing participant but less enthusiastic or likely to initiate anything herself.

But post implant things have turned around significantly for the better. She hasn't expressed any concern about her ability to perform but seems to have actively stepped up her game. Now that I can get as hard as a rock on demand and literally go forever, it has rekindled a fire that has been missing for a long time. She is now an enthusiastic partner and her body language during sex has become very active and even aggressive at times. She now does her best to make me climax rather than me always being the dominant partner. So our encounters have become a two way street again and I can sometimes get her close to orgasm. We typically have sex 3 times a week and the sessions are usually an hour or more. I also milk it as long as I can as the pleasure is now intense and I can hold back from climaxing too early. But I do have to slow down or stop briefly at intervals, as the implant's abilities far exceed my current cardio fitness. So it's a bit like a 4 or 5 set tennis match . We kind of swap roles during some of those intervals and she will ride me while I take it easy to recover some stamina, or I'll do some finger foreplay on her, massage her nipples etc.

Similar to Stevie Reno I'm very aware that I now have the ability to play around. And I do have thoughts about when time eventually takes its toll. My libido is now through the roof since my implant has been "run in", and I suspect it isn't slowing any time soon as long as I stay relatively fit and healthy. But hers is likely to diminish sooner. We have been together since our teens, and I have also never cheated and never will, but I do have thoughts about what to do when the inevitable happens. In my imagination I'd like to think that she would be agreeable to me finding a fuck buddy without strings attached.

[KaBoom]

Wow LGX!!!

you are over 65 and still get it on 3-5 times a week, for a hour regularly?? Even with her not being able to get there all the way.
You got a keeper thats for sure!

And who knows maybe when the time comes she might even be open to what you are thinking as I am sure it's just sex and you still love her and aren't planning to leave her at that point.

We maybe have sex 4 times a month, sometimes ok, and sometimes my performance stops short of hers.
If I can just bump that up to 6 times a month and fabulous for both of us, I'll be happy. Im curious how it will go I estimate I will be ready for full sex come summer time.