LetoMan wrote:splitpeach wrote:
But with 40 pumps on the implant I don't think I'll manage to get away with that either! The main purpose of me going for it would be the spontaneity. It would only make sense if I can conceal the pumping. Maybe even through my pocket before going to bedroom? Is that possible?
I pump up before going on the date. I wear separatec underwear so I can control, somewhat, where my dick is under my jeans.
If I can’t pump up before the date (for example, if we are at the beach or pool, or if I forgot), then I just go to the bathroom for a minute. No big deal.
There have even been a few occasions where I pumped up during the act. I’ve actually pumped while a girl was sucking me. I had deflated after a first round, and when she started sucking my flaccid dick I said what the hell, and started “playing with my balls.” If she thought there was anything weird, she didn’t mention it.
One of my mental shifts upon getting an implant was realizing that I don’t have to use it just because it’s hard. It used to be that a hard dick was a signal to my brain to hurry things up: fuck her before you lose your erection.
But now I simply revel in the knowledge that my dick will be ready to go whenever. And that honestly has a huge effect on how things go. Women tend to want guys to take their time before trying to shove it in. Very rarely are women demanding that you take them now, certainly not so much that they can’t wait for you to go to the bathroom for a minute. It’s very rare that a woman wants penetration before you have had a chance to warm her up.
Nowadays I am laid back and stress free. I take my time on foreplay, because I’m not in a rush. I think women pick up on your anxiety around ED, but now I don’t have that, I am just confident. And I find that as a result I do get women eventually begging me to fuck them, because I have not been anxiously worried about my dick and instead have properly seduced them and gotten their pussy well lubricated. And then when I fuck them I am not focused on getting off before my dick goes soft, I’m able to simply be present and match my desire to hers, confident that I will be able to please her and myself without fear of anything going wrong. I come when I come, because that is no longer an impediment either.
Getting an implant is a physical change. But I find the benefits, particularly for those of us with lifelong ED, are massively psychological. I’m finally able to be the lover I always wanted to be, and am in many ways much better than I would have been if I had a normal functioning dick. The sex I have had at 50 is far and away the best sex of my life, not even close. Having to take a one minute break to pump up occasionally is really inconsequential.
Be well,
Leto
