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[splitpeach]

Sorry to hear that you have to struggle with this in such young age. ED is (or was) a nightmare for us in my age when it started it must be unbearable in your age. is a difficult decision but you choose one of the best surgeon in Europe. So lets take that as a high possibility for a successful surgery and outcome. We know that injections wont last either with increased danger of deformation and the use are a pain in the a....s. I hated them and if I was your age I would go for an implant and I think it is the only choice sooner or later for you to optain a sexuall life. If we assume, which we have to young or old, that everything goes well, the most I have read here is: I should have done it 10 years earlier or at least long before. I think this is something which also counts in your case.. The final choice is by you and I wish you all the best either way you choose.
Richard

Thanks for such a thoughtful response. It's a quandary for sure but this certainly helps to read. You're right, an implant seems inevitable. Even as I write this there is a hot girl giving my eye contact who I'd love to approach and see if I could whisk her away somewhere and fuck her... But can't. Not whilst relying on injections at least... Which I don't even have on me presently. I imagine with an implant that wouldn't be an issue...

The question is now or later. Injections work well enough for half an hour. But with foreplay etc I don't feel that's enough time.

I like to go to sex parties too and there if I meet someone I have to ask them to wait outside the toilets for me to inject and then fit as much sex in as I can in half an hour.

You're right. It's been brutal at such a young age and for this long. It's not fair.

That said, at least we live in times where these options exist. 100 years ago they'd just lob it off, feed it to the pigeons and throw a dress on you.

I've just had another Doppler. No suspected venous leak or arterial issue. Alprostadil works. Which I think means the issue is with artery dilation.

But what does that change? Not much. It still just doesn't work.

Implant soon seems likely.

Size doesn't seem to be an issue
Sensation loss doesn't seem to be a big risk.
Surfboard shape.... Still worries me. I already have a slightly flatter shape as it is. Nothing you'd notice. But with the change from an implant maybe it would be..

[whatevery]

Thanks very much for this. I do think if I was older it would be straightforward. Or for that matter if injections were failing, but they're still workable for now.

I've had a brutal winter. Went through the wars. Very little sex and so I also think I need to give myself a summer before going into winter again. There's so much more sex to be had in spring and summer and as I'm getting older I'm counting them down!

Will wait for the MRI this week and take it from there.

What was your recovery like? Pretty much there after 2 months?

May I ask, are you single or married, and if single do you go on dates?

I'm single and haven't been on many dates over the last three years. I used to be very sexually active. But since my last break up, which coincided with an extremely challenging period in life I've been less outgoing.

Also, these days, for reasons of my own I'm now extremely anxious in approaching and how I approach women for fear of the ever increasing false accusation.

So in short I don't have regular sex partners to practice on. Id need to be up and running before unleashing it on an unsuspecting casual partner.

So... think about going on the date right now. You're in the nice restaurant, it feels that you're vibing well, and there is a good chance that your date would conclude in the bedroom.

Today with trimix, you'd have to excuse yourself to the bathroom so you could inject. You have to time it correctly. Then you'd be constantly paranoid that you would lose your hard-on in the middle of sex or even beforehand.
Now you're rushing it and she doesn't like it. They never do. If you get to the bedroom and your dick is no longer hard she's disappointed (and you're too), no matter what she tells you, especially with you being in your 30s.
If you fuck for an hour and than can do it no more - she'd be disappointed too.

Now, with an implant - you push the button and you're a sex machine for the rest of the night if need be.

See the difference?

I think most franktalk members are married or have steady GFs who are already aware of their injections or implants. That makes a hell of a difference but they're not in the same situation as you are. Keep that in mind. Single dating has nothing in common with steady relationships ...unless of course you're married but also play around on the side

[richard_goes_bionic]

Sorry that I have to say there wont be any sex parties or to pick up one nice girl as you now might could with injection, because mostly you dont carry one, they have to be stored cold, they hurt when you stick your dick and if you are lucky they work for half an hour. They might do their job when you life in a relationship with an understanding wife but not as single like you described yourself in your post.

You can follow my topic about sex after implant, I just want to say it was worth every effort, money and pain.

Dont worry about surfboard, rigicon is very firm without inflation, you will get 2 nice round ones and it just looks fine.
I posted som pics in my topic.

[splitpeach]

May I ask, are you single or married, and if single do you go on dates?

I'm single and haven't been on many dates over the last three years. I used to be very sexually active. But since my last break up, which coincided with an extremely challenging period in life I've been less outgoing.

Also, these days, for reasons of my own I'm now extremely anxious in approaching and how I approach women for fear of the ever increasing false accusation.

So in short I don't have regular sex partners to practice on. Id need to be up and running before unleashing it on an unsuspecting casual partner.

So... think about going on the date right now. You're in the nice restaurant, it feels that you're vibing well, and there is a good chance that your date would conclude in the bedroom.

Today with trimix, you'd have to excuse yourself to the bathroom so you could inject. You have to time it correctly. Then you'd be constantly paranoid that you would lose your hard-on in the middle of sex or even beforehand.
Now you're rushing it and she doesn't like it. They never do. If you get to the bedroom and your dick is no longer hard she's disappointed (and you're too), no matter what she tells you, especially with you being in your 30s.
If you fuck for an hour and than can do it no more - she'd be disappointed too.

Now, with an implant - you push the button and you're a sex machine for the rest of the night if need be.

See the difference?

I think most franktalk members are married or have steady GFs who are already aware of their injections or implants. That makes a hell of a difference but they're not in the same situation as you are. Keep that in mind. Single dating has nothing in common with steady relationships ...unless of course you're married but also play around on the side

Yes it makes a huge difference. When you put it like this it makes me realise how distorted my experience is building up to sex. I've had ED since I was 16.

I can't really imagine having the spontaneity. I've always had to either be anxious in my youth, concentrating to try and hold an erection or had to medicate in some way in later life. I don't think I've ever had relaxed natural sex in my life and it has been something I've realised just reading this.

I've had relationships and my last two girlfriends were aware of the injections... But in hindsight I don't think they were satisfied. Maybe I've been fooling myself as to the long term potential of them.

I still get quite a lot of attention out and in bars and clubs. Sometimes a girl will come and dance up against me and then eventually she'll leave. I always wondered if it's because they couldn't feel me hard up against them...

But with 40 pumps on the implant I don't think I'll manage to get away with that either! The main purpose of me going for it would be the spontaneity. It would only make sense if I can conceal the pumping. Maybe even through my pocket before going to bedroom? Is that possible?

Apparently Rigicon has a pump that gets to 100% in as little as 4 pumps. Which would be much more attractive.

And then do I wait a year or two for Coloplast and AMS to potentially catch up? Wait for a more efficient pump?

I'd be hoping my first implant would last 10 years. So maybe the wait is worth it!

[splitpeach]

Sorry that I have to say there wont be any sex parties or to pick up one nice girl as you now might could with injection, because mostly you dont carry one, they have to be stored cold, they hurt when you stick your dick and if you are lucky they work for half an hour. They might do their job when you life in a relationship with an understanding wife but not as single like you described yourself in your post.

You can follow my topic about sex after implant, I just want to say it was worth every effort, money and pain.

Dont worry about surfboard, rigicon is very firm without inflation, you will get 2 nice round ones and it just looks fine.
I posted som pics in my topic.

The injections I have don't need to be refrigerated. I carry them in my pocket usually. But on the occasions that I'm out on a Friday or Saturday night and forget them it becomes a pretty miserable night!

Good to know on your shape and no surfboard. When you say it's firm without inflation do you mean fully deflated? I thought Rigicon was meant to seem and feel very natural on flaccid state?

I'll take a look at your journal

[richard_goes_bionic]

It's natural on flacid state but you can feel that you have something inside and it makes you a shower. If you dont squeeze it totally empty it will stick a little out but with the right underwear it wont show uncomfortable. My shape is totally round and no dog ears either.