2.5 year update and disclosure question

[Franklin22]

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted or visited the site. I guess you could say I’m one of the ones happy out living life. This implant has been one of the most life changing things I’ve ever done. Dr. Clavell did a wonderful job sizing to me to where I didn’t lose any size and even gained some girth. When I went for the implant, I kinda felt like what do I have to lose ? After 2.5 years with this thing I actually now know what great sex is and am supremely confident in bed.
Ive been dating my gf for now about 10 months and the sex is off the charts. She tells me all the time “ I love your dick”. She says it’s the best sex she’s ever had. We have sex on days we see each other atleast twice a day. We kinda feel like nymphos if I’m being honest. Not only is the sex amazing everything else is great including our emotional connection.
There is one caveat, she has no clue I have an implant and never asks questions. I was thinking I’d tell if her if she ever presses me, but it doesn’t happen.
She really wants to get married and I’m thinking about it hard. Part of me doesn’t want to tell her at all because it just doesn’t come up and she doesn’t seem to care. The other part of me says, what if I need a revision one day and need to disclose this to her?
The other thing is, I like the way she looks at me and I like her not knowing as I wouldn’t want it to change the way she looks at me.
Would It be appropriate to just never disclose this information ?

[dan_bionic]

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted or visited the site. I guess you could say I’m one of the ones happy out living life. This implant has been one of the most life changing things I’ve ever done. Dr. Clavell did a wonderful job sizing to me to where I didn’t lose any size and even gained some girth. When I went for the implant, I kinda felt like what do I have to lose ? After 2.5 years with this thing I actually now know what great sex is and am supremely confident in bed.
Ive been dating my gf for now about 10 months and the sex is off the charts. She tells me all the time “ I love your dick”. She says it’s the best sex she’s ever had. We have sex on days we see each other atleast twice a day. We kinda feel like nymphos if I’m being honest. Not only is the sex amazing everything else is great including our emotional connection.
There is one caveat, she has no clue I have an implant and never asks questions. I was thinking I’d tell if her if she ever presses me, but it doesn’t happen.
She really wants to get married and I’m thinking about it hard. Part of me doesn’t want to tell her at all because it just doesn’t come up and she doesn’t seem to care. The other part of me says, what if I need a revision one day and need to disclose this to her?
The other thing is, I like the way she looks at me and I like her not knowing as I wouldn’t want it to change the way she looks at me.
Would It be appropriate to just never disclose this information ?

Franklin,
Great read, congrats to you, really, you are at the same time after implant as myself and we both seem to have the best sex of our life, the only difference is that I have nearly every day another new young chick and you have one beautiful partner that is admiring your bionic dick and you both enjoy great sex!

Now, I think, there will be no answer to you question, as both ways have a risk, telling her about your bionic dick might change her view on your wonderful dick, even if she seems one to tell the story.
If you don't tell, you risk that one day, when you need a revision, she will be disappointed, that you have hided a secret thing to her.

Ok, let me tell you, what I would do, after 10 months being with a girl, having that great sexual life and want to merry her, I would not disclose anything now, I would not like to risk this relation-ship and the great sex you have with her. I would just continue to enjoy the best sex of my life as long as I could. If one day you'll need a revision, it'll be still appropriate time to tell and explain her her the story and I think, she will understand your point and support you.
Enjoy sex and YES, merry her, she's worth it!!!

Bionic brothers, this is a good topic to hear others opinion...

[Franklin22]

Thanks Dan!
I’m glad to hear life is going so well for you too. And congrats to all the sex you are having with all of the young hotties.
I appreciate your response, and honestly it was the way I was leaning. Our lives are a little complex with our kids and living situation so atleast getting engaged and not necessarily married right away would be really make life simpler. I could always reserve the right to tell her if the timing is right, but there literally has been no opening to tell her because it just doesn’t come up.

[dan_bionic]

Thanks Dan!
I’m glad to hear life is going so well for you too. And congrats to all the sex you are having with all of the young hotties.
I appreciate your response, and honestly it was the way I was leaning. Our lives are a little complex with our kids and living situation so atleast getting engaged and not necessarily married right away would be really make life simpler. I could always reserve the right to tell her if the timing is right, but there literally has been no opening to tell her because it just doesn’t come up.

Franklin, whom do you tell that?
I was married and divorced 4 times, cause the sex sex was awful after the kids were born, wifeys focussed on the kids and I was left alone with my desire for sex and developed finally ED.

So keep with that GF and enjoy sex, it's the best you can do noys
Dan

[Nick74]

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted or visited the site. I guess you could say I’m one of the ones happy out living life. This implant has been one of the most life changing things I’ve ever done. Dr. Clavell did a wonderful job sizing to me to where I didn’t lose any size and even gained some girth. When I went for the implant, I kinda felt like what do I have to lose ? After 2.5 years with this thing I actually now know what great sex is and am supremely confident in bed.
Ive been dating my gf for now about 10 months and the sex is off the charts. She tells me all the time “ I love your dick”. She says it’s the best sex she’s ever had. We have sex on days we see each other atleast twice a day. We kinda feel like nymphos if I’m being honest. Not only is the sex amazing everything else is great including our emotional connection.
There is one caveat, she has no clue I have an implant and never asks questions. I was thinking I’d tell if her if she ever presses me, but it doesn’t happen.
She really wants to get married and I’m thinking about it hard. Part of me doesn’t want to tell her at all because it just doesn’t come up and she doesn’t seem to care. The other part of me says, what if I need a revision one day and need to disclose this to her?
The other thing is, I like the way she looks at me and I like her not knowing as I wouldn’t want it to change the way she looks at me.
Would It be appropriate to just never disclose this information ?

Hey brother, welcome back to your bionic brotherhood . What you wrote is powerful, and I’m truly happy for your success both in your relationship and in the amazing intimacy you’re sharing with your girlfriend.
Personally, I don’t believe everything is just about sex. If you have real feelings for her, honesty matters.
If it were me, I would take her out to a beautiful dinner and speak to her openly. That would be the most honest and respectful thing you could do for her.
If she chooses to walk away, that would be her decision—but if she truly loves you, I don’t believe this would change how she sees you.
I think honesty builds trust, and trust is what allows two people to build a truly beautiful life together.

[stewie77]

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted or visited the site. I guess you could say I’m one of the ones happy out living life. This implant has been one of the most life changing things I’ve ever done. Dr. Clavell did a wonderful job sizing to me to where I didn’t lose any size and even gained some girth. When I went for the implant, I kinda felt like what do I have to lose ? After 2.5 years with this thing I actually now know what great sex is and am supremely confident in bed.
Ive been dating my gf for now about 10 months and the sex is off the charts. She tells me all the time “ I love your dick”. She says it’s the best sex she’s ever had. We have sex on days we see each other atleast twice a day. We kinda feel like nymphos if I’m being honest. Not only is the sex amazing everything else is great including our emotional connection.
There is one caveat, she has no clue I have an implant and never asks questions. I was thinking I’d tell if her if she ever presses me, but it doesn’t happen.
She really wants to get married and I’m thinking about it hard. Part of me doesn’t want to tell her at all because it just doesn’t come up and she doesn’t seem to care. The other part of me says, what if I need a revision one day and need to disclose this to her?
The other thing is, I like the way she looks at me and I like her not knowing as I wouldn’t want it to change the way she looks at me.
Would It be appropriate to just never disclose this information ?

My two cents....I'm new to the community and will be an official member in February. I've noticed many people have this "winner's shame" (my words) in regards to telling their partners about the implant. While I understand the hesitation of facing judgement, I think it's important to remember the HELL of the journey that you endured, that led you to where you are now. I imagine your partner knows intimate information about you and your past and family etc. If you can share those sensitive elements about you, fear not of sharing the knowledge of your implant. Like everything else you've shared, your implant is a part of you. The implant lifestyle is a major factor in your lifestyle. Keeping the secret of having an implant defeats the purpose of having one because of the stress it brings on. Relieve yourself of that stress! You didnt endure all that HELL, just to now STILL be stressed about your penis. If you're giving her the best sex ever and more importantly she truly cares about you...it shouldnt matter to her if your penis gets filled up with cotton candy or saline......if shes the one for you she will be accepting of it and YOU.

[dvdvdv]

Man, if you love her tell her THE TRUTH!
The sex is great you say? Why would she walk away if she loves you? ED is an embarrassing topic and really tough to deal with as a man. Hell, ashamed even. Explain it to her honestly and then go fuck her brains out.

[erik821]

Go for it - she probably won't think you're any less of a stud.

[edjohn]

Why would she walk away if she loves you? ED is an embarrassing topic and really tough to deal with as a man. Hell, ashamed even. Explain it to her honestly and then go fuck her brains out.

All this but if you are truly unashamed you don’t take her to an expensive restaurant to “confess” anything. I don’t “admit” that I had a huge fart right before jumping in the car to pick her up, and in the same way it doesn’t occur to me to tell her every detail of my medical history until it comes up or has implications. If she brings it up, then I have zero hesitation and say something like “well I am bionic it’s a super-natural dick what did you expect” but completely chill and positive. When you don’t show your anxiety or fears about it making you less of a man, she has nothing negative to agree to. Women mirror your level of optimism.

[Franklin22]

Thank you for all of the replies! I think ultimately I'd like to tell her, but as EDJohn said I don't want it to feel like a confession. I actually told my last gf after a few months, and her response was "so you have a super dick?' And that was that. We lasted nine more months after that.

I honestly don't think it would be a dealbreaker for her as she seems pretty all in. I guess I thought at this point she would be a little more curious as to how I stay hard all the time and am always ready.