What to tell people during recovery?

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HardTimes26
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What to tell people during recovery?

Postby HardTimes26 » Thu Jan 08, 2026 4:45 am

I deal with the public in my job. Lots of meetings. (Lots of hard seats!) Many of the people I interact with know me fairly well. Some will be curious if I'm walking slow or canceling meetings.

Any suggestions for clever excuses during the first week or two in recovery, when I expect discomfort, icing, etc., will require taking it easy?

Aside from the Bionic Brotherhood, I'm not keen on sharing this very private surgery with anyone, including family. Not now, anyway.

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GoodWood
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Re: What to tell people during recovery?

Postby GoodWood » Thu Jan 08, 2026 6:49 am

“Hernia surgery”.

It’s neutral. Not embarrassing. Explains why you are moving gingerly. And doesn’t lead to further questions.
57yo, NYC. ED started at 40. Pills, then shots for 10 years. 24cm Coloplast Titan XL w/classic pump by Dr Eid 3/25/2025. Will meet for show & tell.
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Re: What to tell people during recovery?

Postby riseagain » Thu Jan 08, 2026 7:11 am

Agree with Goodwood, That's the best explanation to give. After about a week or two you should be fine.
67 yrs old. Married 41 years to an awesome wife. Implanted on 8/4/2022 Titan 24cm XL. Dr Hakky. Loving the implant so far.

cbinspok
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Re: What to tell people during recovery?

Postby cbinspok » Thu Jan 08, 2026 10:05 am

Agreed with the other brothers
Hernia surgery, I asked my doc what I should say, his advice was to tell no one, in recovery you’ll be concerned with lots of stuff, there will be plenty of time down the road to choose who to tell.
67years,fighting ed for over twenty years. A sever break, vit E, pataba, Viagra, massage Ved cilas, and I'm tired- throwing in the towel, Op for implant Mar 18, 2021 AMS LGX 18 x12 + 1 3cm RTE, gained girth and length, very glad I took the hard step.

Ephi82
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Re: What to tell people during recovery?

Postby Ephi82 » Thu Jan 08, 2026 10:17 am

Hernia.
67 years old. Long term progressive ED. Pills and injections no longer the solution.
Implanted 4/4/2025. AMS 700CX 21cm with .5 extenders

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SWorks17
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Re: What to tell people during recovery?

Postby SWorks17 » Thu Jan 08, 2026 10:37 am

Yup, that’s what I told all the people around me a hernia.
I didn’t get any more questions.

SWorks
Age 67, Garden Ridge Texas, Boston Scientific Rezum procedure for benign enlarged prostate 19 May 21, AMS LGX 18cm with 3cm RT's installed 5 Nov 2021 by Major Dr Shane Barney, BAMC, San Antonio, Texas, Married 36 years.
DOD Pg 131, Faces Pg 27

Old Guy
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Re: What to tell people during recovery?

Postby Old Guy » Thu Jan 08, 2026 11:30 am

I told people had a tumor removed from my testicle. No one asked any questions.
Nov. 8, 2019
5+ years, Coloplast Titan OTR
Married 37 years to my beautiful young bride
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Re: What to tell people during recovery?

Postby Time2Change » Thu Jan 08, 2026 12:35 pm

I told people I was having hernia surgery.

I think the typical time to be out of work is two weeks.

At my two-week follow-up appointment, my doctor deflated me.

At that point, I was able to wear loose pants. I think I walked bowlegged for a little while because the implant was so stiff that it felt like a stick down my leg. Also, and most distressing, was that I had a little incontinence for a while.

But I don't recall anyone seeming to notice these things.
56; ED for 24+ years; Coloplast Titan implant on 10/26/20; Dr. Martin Gross; Happy to share my experiences in private messages

HardTimes26
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Re: What to tell people during recovery?

Postby HardTimes26 » Thu Jan 08, 2026 5:06 pm

Thank you, Gentlemen. Hernia is the way to go in the little white lie department. Unfortunately, there were some complications in today's surgery. A catheter for 10 days will make things a little messier.

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SWorks17
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Re: What to tell people during recovery?

Postby SWorks17 » Thu Jan 08, 2026 7:34 pm

HardTimes26 wrote:Thank you, Gentlemen. Hernia is the way to go in the little white lie department. Unfortunately, there were some complications in today's surgery. A catheter for 10 days will make things a little messier.


Hardtimes, sorry about the complication, saying a prayer that everything works out and you don’t have any more bumps in the road.
I would say the Hernia is still a good answer, everyone is different and some people have long healing times from hernias.

Hang in there buddy,
SWorks
Age 67, Garden Ridge Texas, Boston Scientific Rezum procedure for benign enlarged prostate 19 May 21, AMS LGX 18cm with 3cm RT's installed 5 Nov 2021 by Major Dr Shane Barney, BAMC, San Antonio, Texas, Married 36 years.
DOD Pg 131, Faces Pg 27


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