Do women like prosthetic penises?

[Tuskun]

I'm 23-24 years old, and I've been ED since I was 18-19. I've never had sexual intercourse before. Just because of ED. Will women dislike this surgery?

[Gringoinparadise]

The consensus seems to be “keep it to yourself and they won’t know the difference.” Honestly, I don’t think most women know much about how the penis works anyways so I don’t think most are gonna ask many (if any) questions. In my experience, most are just expecting a hard dick. I don’t think they care how it comes about. But, as you know, they certainly care when it’s NOT hard. That is what brings on the questions :/

[JohnnyBorg]

Hey Tuskun welcome to the forum! I’m sorry you're dealing with ED so young.

First, some general recommendations:

- If you haven’t already, you should see your GP and a urologist to pinpoint the cause of your ED. There are many causes of ED from physical to mental to both together.
- After you pinpoint the cause with your doctors, they will be able to help you take some initial steps to treat it. First line might be pills like Viagra, Cialis, etc. Many men see success with these for many years before needing any kind of implant surgery. If pills dont work, the shots are an option as well. Im not a doctor, so work with a doctor you trust on a treatment strategy that would work best for you especially considering your age.
- The implant is the last option if previous treatments don’t work. Your younger age shouldnt prevent you from getting one if all else fails, but top surgeons will want to ensure you have tried other options and that you truly need the implant since you’re young. So it’s very important you start with the basics first (get a diagnosis, try first line treatments, collaborate with your doctors and surgeon).

Onto your actual question - im not yet implanted, but the general consensus is that women prefer a functioning penis - implanted or not - over a non-functioning one. If you read many of the experiences here on the forum, most women don’t even realize the man they’re with is implanted unless the man tells them so.

Sex is not all about penetration / PIV (penis in vagina) sex either, so i think most women prefer a man who is sexually confident and a generous partner. But having an erection you can depend on helps with all of that from a confidence standpoint too

[Gt1956]

"Do women like prosthetic penises?"

I sure don't know if they all do. But I'm pretty sure lots of them like a dick that works as it should. Especially if she likes you. How you get it to work might be debatable but hard is the first thing they expect.

It has been my life experience that basically after puberty hits. That most of them have heard from older girls about erections. Thus whether or not they like an erection. They know one might eventually show up. As they get older, not having an erection at some point in time is out of the ordinary. That is where they start to know something is wrong. Btw, no erection in a relationship is frequently seen as a failing of her sexuality. They think the problem is with them. Not wrong with the penis.

Point of reference. My 49 year old divorced daughter is now dating. Frequently Mr Erection will show up when he shouldn't.

[Gringoinparadise]

Maybe my first response came off a little blunt, but I still stand by it… at least from the standpoint of dating and new relationships (obviously the guys here in marriages/long term relationships where the ED came on years later due to age, disease, medical interventions, etc, are a different story). But in the world of dating and hookups, I feel like most women think the default male setting is “getting an erection.” So when there’s no erection, they are taken aback. Usually once or twice can be excused (nerves, alcohol, sleepy, etc) but eventually even the most patient and understanding woman will start to have doubts about you and your abilities. And then it’s a vicious cycle of expectations and disappointments until the finally relationship ends. This is from a lot of personal experience. And these experiences prevented me innumerable times from initiating or pursuing relationships (casual, longterm or otherwise) throughout the years. And ultimately what led to my decision to find a permanent solution.

Of course, see a doctor, see a few, get the workups, try a sex therapist, investigate all the other less invasive treatment options. Maybe you can find something that will work well enough to satisfy your needs. Implant surgery is a one-way street and having it at a younger age all but guarantees the need for repeated surgeries down the road (also consider that implant technology will continue to advance and future devices may have better functionality and longer lifespans).

[Kiwias]

To answer your question directly. I'm only 2 weeks post implant and not even able to use it for PIV sex yet.
My wife already loves it and is very attentive to it, if you get my drift

[LGXDownunder]

I'm 23-24 years old, and I've been ED since I was 18-19. I've never had sexual intercourse before. Just because of ED. Will women dislike this surgery?

Hello. I'm 23 years old and have been experiencing erectile dysfunction for the past four or five years. Years have passed since the pandemic and bipolar disorder. At first, I thought it was due to my bipolar medication. The doctor changed my medication over the years, but the problem was physical. I had a venous leak and erectile dysfunction. The doctor found it with a Doppler. I'm definitely going to have surgery in 2026, but since I have no experience, am I at a disadvantage and a latecomer? I'm really worried.

Would not having had any sexual intercourse cause problems? If I didn't have erectile dysfunction, I would have a sex life, but I don't.

Welcome Tuskun. First I'm so sorry that you are facing this at your age.
I copied your other post here from the Young Members section as it gives us a better idea of where you are at.
It appears you may already be committed to an implant but I agree with much of what has already been said.
I suggest first trying the more proven conservative approaches such as pills, injections, VED, constriction rings etc and see if any of those work for you.

[GoodWood]

Welcome to FrankTalk. I hope you get the support and information you are seeking. I have found it really helpful as I struggled and ED and have found a solution that I really love (implant).


The consensus seems to be that women love their boyfriends or husbands. Not a body part. Being able to enjoy the physical intimacy and share the pleasure of sex with the man they love is really important, but they love HIM, not his penis.

Men in general are more body part focused than most women.

As for telling someone you meet/date, it’s the same guideline as any other intimate detail. Take your bipolar for instance. Its probably not something you mention the first moment you meet. But you might mention it in simple terms early on if the relationship looks like it is going somewhere. Then get into more detail as the relationship developed and she asks for more information. The same is true with your ED and your implant. You don’t need to mention it right away but if the relationship looks like it might get serious you’ll find ways to tell her in a general way at first (“I had issues with my erections for a while, but I saw a doctor and got it sorted out.”). By then she might have experienced sex with you and enjoyed the fact that you could stay as hard as you needed until you were both satisfied. As time goes by you could introduce her to greater and greater detail as necessary and as she indicates interest in knowing more specifics.

It’s the same with any other health issue, childhood trauma, delicate family situations, or financial details. Important to share with a serious girlfriend, but not stuff you share on the first date.

Regarding getting an implant when you are young, if your penis isn’t working sufficiently and a good doc recommends an implant I would proceed. Life is too short to waste precious years. Get this sorted out and enjoy having relationships and a sex life. Pursue the things you have dreamed about. Fall in love. Get married. Have kids. Whatever it is that you desire. Don’t let a plumbing issue keep you isolated and alone.

Best wishes to you. We are here to help.