Psychological Effects of Being Implanted

[Ephi82]

That dark cloud of worry about my ability to get and hold an erection is gone, just pure warm sunlight.

Eliminating this source of devastating anxiety has made me incredibly happy.

Just imagine how great one feels as a 67 year old having the sex drive and the equipment of my 20 year old self, AND an erection that lasts as long as my partner needs it to, and always ready to do it again!

[Kodixx]

JiminFL, the implant became a source of restored confidence. It took awhile, but knowing, accepting and anticipating that I can really be hard whenever I want, and stay that way as long as I want no matter what conditions or distractions, really was a game changer -- something that far exceeds the capability of the original equipment. Not only did it erase the nagging stress and lack of confidence associated with ED, but over time it became a huge boost to confidence with a ripple effect throughout my marriage.

- Chuck

[TANGERINE]

the positive psyche effects of the implant are profound. Now, 8 years after implant, I feel like a different person due to my happy confidence in sexual matters. As LMCatman once said here on this forum:

"Knowing I can F..k her is life changing,
will she let me ?, well, that's a whole other thing "

I think about that all the time when you meet a woman, she might throw sexuall energy your way as a test, but know matter how much she throws, you can confidently up the ante with the knowledge that you can outperform nearly any other guy in the room.

My wife has also gone through a transition, now, 8 years later, we are oth attractive fit people, because we have sex, we like sex, and we want to feel sexy. The impact on the marriage has been great, and as I have said a number of times before, I often feel like the guy in the viagra or cialis commercials: "confident/attractive/self assured/sexy"

[ColoplastTitanUpOver]

I have to say that my post-implant confidence level with women beyond the bounds of marriage has blossomed into something remarkable. It's a deep inner validation for me. When in fleeting moments at my business meetings, or happy-hour parties, I meet their gaze with a genuine smile that I can do what a 20 year old can do and go faster and harder, on-demand. That alone is a huge psychological boost for me. I can be a superman in bedroom, walk like I own the sidewalk and can put pornstars to shame if needed. Only regret - not doing this 10 years earlier and not choosing this on-demand confidence boost much earlier in my life.

[Gringoinparadise]

Perfect timing reading these posts, as I’m sitting in the waiting room, preparing to go in for my implant surgery. The anxiety of ED has loomed over every date I’ve had in the last 5+ years. I find myself already worrying in the morning if I am going to be able to get it up that evening. So frustrating, to not be able to be in the moment and enjoy a woman’s company because all I’m thinking about is what’s going on between my legs. So yeah, I’m ready for this. The recovery is going to suck, I’m sure… but the light at the end of the tunnel is going to lead to a new stage in my life, with a new sense of confidence, pride and masculinity. I can’t wait!

[Kodixx]

Gringoinparadise, since you probably won't read this until after being implanted -- welcome to the bionic brotherhood !
It sounds like you have a healthy perspective on this. Yes you have great things ahead. And yes, for a lot of guys recovery really really sucks.
But as they say, "this too shall pass". And when you get to the other side, well, just re-read the posts above

- Chuck

Perfect timing reading these posts, as I’m sitting in the waiting room, preparing to go in for my implant surgery. The anxiety of ED has loomed over every date I’ve had in the last 5+ years. I find myself already worrying in the morning if I am going to be able to get it up that evening. So frustrating, to not be able to be in the moment and enjoy a woman’s company because all I’m thinking about is what’s going on between my legs. So yeah, I’m ready for this. The recovery is going to suck, I’m sure… but the light at the end of the tunnel is going to lead to a new stage in my life, with a new sense of confidence, pride and masculinity. I can’t wait!

[Gringoinparadise]

Thanks Chuck! Yes, it’s hard to think much about sex right now, 8 hours postop…. but hopefully in 4-6 weeks I’ll be ready to take it for a test drive. My surgeon said the case went beautifully, so hopefully the recovery goes the same. Fingers crossed!

[Kiwias]

Thanks Chuck! Yes, it’s hard to think much about sex right now, 8 hours postop…. but hopefully in 4-6 weeks I’ll be ready to take it for a test drive. My surgeon said the case went beautifully, so hopefully the recovery goes the same. Fingers crossed!

I had my implant 10 days ago. First week no thoughts of sex. Last 2 days I'm horny as hell.
I'm counting down the days till I can take it for a test drive.
Good luck with your recovery. It's an interesting process. At the start every day is different and you will experience all kinds of symptoms. They are all nothing to worry about. But just ask if you are worried about anything.

[Nick74]

My two cents: getting implanted at an older age definitely messes with the normal order of things!

Most guys our age are slowing down when it comes to sex. My experience talking to my friends is that sex becomes non-spontaneous or non-existent for a lot of guys, regardless of ED.

I found that prior to implant, as I aged and my married sex life essentially ended, I found other things to care about. I had relatively empty relationships with other middle-aged parents, I cared more about work, I found social status in pursuing material wealth, etc. Mostly I was filling the emptiness I felt inside by convincing myself that expensive experiences were a substitute for adventure, romance, human connection.

Now, I definitely spend a lot of time thinking about sex, haha! Societally, that’s probably not a good thing. Society wants stable older men that are settled down and focused on improving their families, not guys competing for women with younger guys. Old guys are supposed to be focused on slowing down and passing the torch to the next generation.

Not me, though. I am not going gently into the night.

I find the single greatest psychological impact of my implant is my ability to believe in possibilities again. Before, I was resigned to my life: I was approaching 50, and felt that if I broke out of my sexless marriage that I might regret what I did. It was difficult to believe that at that age with ED I was going to find a relationship that was fulfilling ever again.

But with my implant, the opposite is true. I find I am spoiled for choice. It has completely remade me. The possibilities that open up due to my confidence and ability to follow through are crazy. It’s now very easy to imagine all kinds of different future paths for myself.

It’s not without pains. I am shedding my old life and building a new one. Certainly there are things that are lost.

But the opening of possibilities outweighs any losses. And for me, that is the ultimate mental health game changer. I had little hope for how I was going to find joy in the backstretch of my life. Now, I know that joy is attainable.

Eventually I probably will want that sex and love filled partnership. But right now, the ego boost that comes from feeling desire from a hot twenty something is simply incredible. It’s rejuvenating. It is finally filling the hole I have had in me my whole life. The implant has been a game changer for me.

I love hearing how it is a game changer for the rest of my brothers, too!

Be well, Leto

Brother, I’m honestly happy you finally hit the happiness you deserved.As for me? My whole mindset about the implant is this I want to give my wife the kind of sex she deserves. She stood by me at my absolute lows so now that I’m rising, I’m taking her with me.
I plan to make up for every dry year we had.
And I hope, man, that you find that same fire and joy with someone who truly loves you. Stay blessed, brother…

[Buckbuff]

60 here..its a daily thing. Wife's a good sport so to speak. These things rock for sure.