Getting Back In The Saddle

[vincentarpino]

Hi All:

Well, I am now three weeks post-surgery and things are healing nicely. I've been pulling down the pump into my scrotum as suggested and actually using Dr. Perito's method for this. I'm scheduled for my urologist to activate the pump and start cycling on Christmas Eve, but he also said that if I had no pain, soreness, swelling and/or discomfort, I could come in and see him as early as next week.

Today it has felt different. As I've previously written, I am not partially inflated. Today, it feels as if the cylinders have been saying to me: "Let's Go, Pal! It's time to pump...you up!" There is almost like a pressure in my penis that feels like it wants to grow and/or get hard. Anyone else feel that during your healing process?

Okay, now a big question. My wife has been totally supportive and has started talking to me in a sexual way again. She's beautiful and sexy and we were pretty sexually active up until the last couple of years when I was battling cancer...twice. So, we just kinda turned off the "sex machine" for almost two years. Not even foreplay or anything because it was just too frustrating with my hard/flaccid state from chemo, diabetes, etc.

So, now we are a couple of weeks away from activation and maybe three weeks away till I'll be ready for a test drive. I'm going to plan a trip somewhere warm so we can lighten the pressure of re-entry .

My question (well looking for advice, actually) is how did those of you who are married handle this? How did you get back into a sexual life with your wife? I could use some direction/suggestions here.

And, as always, thank you for your positivity and insight.

[Valdekio]

On Nov.4 I got the go ahead for sex and we made a go of it that night. It was awkward and somewhat uncomfortable but since then it has gotten better each time. We have done it probably about 8 or 9 times since. Maybe more and even twice in one day. That hasn't happened in years. My length has increased from 4 1/2 to 5 inches. I am hoping for at least 5 1/4 since I was at 5 1/2 in the vacuum. It keeps increasing slowly. Overall I couldn't be happier.

[dan_bionic]

Hi All:

Well, I am now three weeks post-surgery and things are healing nicely. I've been pulling down the pump into my scrotum as suggested and actually using Dr. Perito's method for this. I'm scheduled for my urologist to activate the pump and start cycling on Christmas Eve, but he also said that if I had no pain, soreness, swelling and/or discomfort, I could come in and see him as early as next week.

Today it has felt different. As I've previously written, I am not partially inflated. Today, it feels as if the cylinders have been saying to me: "Let's Go, Pal! It's time to pump...you up!" There is almost like a pressure in my penis that feels like it wants to grow and/or get hard. Anyone else feel that during your healing process?

Okay, now a big question. My wife has been totally supportive and has started talking to me in a sexual way again. She's beautiful and sexy and we were pretty sexually active up until the last couple of years when I was battling cancer...twice. So, we just kinda turned off the "sex machine" for almost two years. Not even foreplay or anything because it was just too frustrating with my hard/flaccid state from chemo, diabetes, etc.

So, now we are a couple of weeks away from activation and maybe three weeks away till I'll be ready for a test drive. I'm going to plan a trip somewhere warm so we can lighten the pressure of re-entry .

My question (well looking for advice, actually) is how did those of you who are married handle this? How did you get back into a sexual life with your wife? I could use some direction/suggestions here.

And, as always, thank you for your positivity and insight.

vincentarpino ,
congrats on your great recovery!
You'll start your new sexual life soon, so thats good.
Just remember how you had sex with your wife before the cancer.
Show her how you love her and admire her, how sexy she is and how she turnes you on, kiss her, kiss her breast, go down on her and make a nice oral, that will stimulate her.
During this, pump your dick to something like 70%, take her hand and let her touch your new dick, let her do some oral, while you pump your dick to 80 or 90% and start fucking, if it feels good, you'll bang her more and more and she'll be thankful for your new super-power and from that on you both will enjoy sex to the fullest and even many times a day or a night.
That's all and take it easy, relax and don't be too scared, it will be good.
All the best
Dan