Non-penetrative Sex

[dan_bionic]

I am thinking about an implant. I've been using a strong does Trimix for something like 5 years and it never got me all the way erect.

About 10 years ago my wife had a hysterectomy. Afterwards she doesn't want to be penetrated. I know this may sound weird and there are medications etc. I love her and respect her decision. There are things we do to pleasure each other.

I know that erection is different from orgasm but it sure does feel better with an erection.

So under these conditions is it waste of time and money to get an implant. This would be for me to feel better about myself.
I plan on seeing a doctor in the next month or so and telling him everything. My wife understands my feelings and is OK about it.
What do you all think?

Thanks

Steveg19,
if you suffer from ED and you start feeling despert about your self-confidence

his would be for me to feel better about myself

, then just go for it!

Look, I tell you, even if you don't think about having sex, you could if you wanted.
And even masturbation feels completely different, if you have a cock instead of a weenie.
You’ve got a superpower, something very, very few middle aged dudes have, you could fuck on demand, anytime, anywhere, for as long as you want it.
Your self-confidence will increase and you won't have this kind of feeling to not be a functional man.

Having a "sexual life" again, whatever nature the sex, you'll become functional again.

I just can tell you, go for it!
There are very few risk factors around the surgery (if you choose a good doctor), but the results will be around 90% satisfaction and success.
All the best
Dan

[Ephi82]

There are a lot of cheerleaders here, but there are a lot of downsides to the implant. You will lose the sensation of blood flow, you may damage some nerves, the IPP's will break and then you will be mechanically impotent and have to fight with insurance to cover new devices or go broke trying to fix your "bionic" penis.

I so, so , so regret this and I hope you think very carefully about it.

I think it’s important to have everyone’s perspective but it’s not fair for you to say “ you will lose the sensation of blood flow”. You may feel that way, but for me, and many others, I still feel the rush of blood into the head/glans of my penis when aroused.

It’s also important to note that nerve damage is a very rare complication of the surgery, and while IPPs have a lifetime, at 66 years old, I’ll enjoy the next 10 years of great sexual satisfaction and deal with the issue of revision when I’m 76.

[UpNorth]

Steve
No regrets here. I’m ten days post op and I started having positive feelings even before the bandages came off. The sensations are bringing back memories that I thought I had lost forever. I am impatiently waiting for the green light to say Hey Baby.

[cbinspok]

Steveg
I normally never comment on bros that can’t leave a signature
But this hit close to home for me, five years ago I had a conversation w my wife about making the leap to a implant. She said don’t do it for me I don’t need or want sex any more and didn’t think I should even think about it since she didn’t want it anymore. I said if my arm was broken I would get it fixed, a part of me, a very important part of me is broken! I need to get it fixed. I have zero regrets she even tried early on to have sex but her brain and body were just not into it. I have moved on sexually with out her, we love and are committed to each other but I occasionally step out when opportunity strikes to enjoy sexual passion. She doesn’t want to know details. Its not ideal but works for us. If a part of you doesn’t work and your brain desires sexual fulfillment, you have no choice. Fix your self.
Cheers brother and fill in your signature we have no idea your age etc.

[Kodixx]

steveg19, I agree with the thoughts above including full respect for Mark's. After reading the good, the bad, and the ugly in this forum, I still decided to take a calculated risk. My focus was on how this would affect the relationship with my wife. I figured if it went badly, we could still pleasure each other the ways we'd recently become accustomed to -- even if my level of sensation had decreased. And if it went well, we could again experience each other the way we had come to know for many years. Not to sound like a "cheerleader", but for me this is easily 100+%, even though I have reduced sensation and it takes longer to orgasm. I'm incredibly thankful that she and I are able to experience each other that way again. And this on-demand, reliable, last-until-she's-done-multiple-times erection really is next level stuff. I strongly encourage you to think thru this with your wife, and take the opportunity to explore what is possible for how the two of you might be able to experience each other going forward.

Nicely said, Duke, about the nature of medical interventions. Wow, there’s so much wisdom tucked inside a pill bottle. Thanks again for reminding about our 80% good discussion. Time’s ticking and “good” shouldn't become the enemy of the “best". Full respect to Mark's views during his rough journey. Mark my words (no pun intended) it's only going to get better with each passing day.

[Stevie Reno]

Plenty of good responses. I’ll give you my two cents worth. When the pills and injections stopped working for me, my wife and I still had intimacy - we just didn’t have penetration. But my wife is not comfortable with oral - giving or receiving - so it was always a hand job and those are difficult without an erection. I made the decision to get my implant because it would mean we would resume intercourse - we discussed this in length and she’s on board even though she has no sex drive (we’re 67). But I don’t know that I would have gone this route if it was just gonna be for hard jobs…and I don’t know that I would have gone this route if she was into oral.

One thing to be aware of and think about ahead of time. With an implant you will be able to get an erection anywhere, anytime. I have never cheated on my wife (or on my first wife)…I could claim sainthood but having struggled with ED for many years I suspect my fears had more to do with keeping me from roaming - especially in my first marriage. My wife isn’t very interested in sex but we have intercourse about twice a week…I’m very good with that. But if she suddenly decided that sex is over I’m not sure I wouldn’t find another outlet. I go to gym 3-4 times a week, stay in good shape and most people say I look at least 10 years younger than I am. I’m just not ready to be celibate.

Once you get an implant, you will be able to screw and with a wife who won’t let you in, the temptation is going to be extreme to find a willing partner. Even if it’s just to see how intercourse feels with the implant. Just something to think about.

[Secondchance!]

The original poster never left a signature and has not replied to any of us… in my opinion, it’s time to move onto other threads…