So many doubts and frightenings

[Nunanor]

Hi everyone and thanks for your messages sharing your experiences.

First of all, sorry for my english.

And now. I'm 35 years old. I had suffering Ed since 5 o 6 years ago.

In the beginning, I felt a lack of libido, but blood test were ok, so the doctors told me that my problem was psychogenic. I tried psychotherapy but didn't work. Then tried TRT because an andrologist told me my testosterone was near the lower limit and must be the cause. Didn't work. I get a Doppler from an urologist wich only contained blood speeds and, the worst, It has been taken with no prostaglandin, so was useless for me, but the physicians treated me based on it, so Cialis had to be the treatment.

Many years passed with worst symptoms, the fist years I was able to go with Cialis 5mg, but it lost effectiveness gradually. Then I found another urologist, get another Doppler, a complete one, revealing that my penis have an structural issue, the cavernosum arteries are atrophied and don't supply blood as well. Doctor said it's congenital. I have a diagnose, vasculogenic ED.

It's not a common ED, so I cannot find so many help as if I had venous leakage, or peryone.

First, any of you can explain me if a lack of blood pressure, one wich causes your penis not be able to get hard without pills, can be mistaken with a lack of libido? I mean, you can think about sex, or get some soft sexual arousal, but you penis doesn't react, so your libido can't develop, stops with first pleasant feelings... It's so difficult to explain in other language, but I need to know if this can make sense or I'm going crazy.

At this time, I can get hard with pills, using 20mg of Cialis I can get hard but getting stimulated, so much stimulated in comparison with the first years and 5mg cialis. I need to rub my glans and masturbate almost at the point to having an orgasm to get a full erection. Same with 100mg Viagra. It's a very hard erection, but the time it's take make me afraid of try an intercourse with a woman. I have no sex for a year at this point. Must i feel an automatic reaction with pills to consider it working? I had that automatic reaction during the first couple of years using Cialis 5mg, even with no stimulation I could have spontaneous semi erections and morning woods, but not now. Well, some times (not very often) I have erections in the morning after taking pills, but not a total erection like then, and I have no spontaneous reactions during the day, no reactions indeed without stimulation.

So my sexual life is a disaster, I thought about the implant, but the fact I can get a total erection make me doubt. What if I'm wrong? What if I have another problem interfering with the pills or any other cause? What if I cannot accept my self with an implant? what if women refuse me for it? Im afraid of size lost, floppy glans, weird shape, to much time inflating, and above all, afraid of taking the incorrect decision.

I want to say too, that injections are not an option for me.

I don't know if someone can help me, but maybe someone can understand me. Thanks for reading and please forgive my English.

[KeithC]

I used to say injections were out of the question too. Then I decided to try them and they worked pretty damn well for 11 years. I could have sex for hours if I wanted. At times I felt like Superman.

I quit the injections recently after scar tissue buildup and got an implant but I am 66 years old.

If sex is as important to you as it is to me you will learn to live with that jab. I also hated those damn pills!

Yes at first giving yourself an injection seems like a big deal but after a while you will get used to it. I estimate I injected over 2,500 times! (Including many shots of phenylephrine to stop the erection)

[tomas1]

Your situation seems to follow the usual trend here.
The next step would be to try injections.

They would probably stop working over time, but could delay the inevitable.
They also sometimes cause problems though.

I don't think I've ever heard of ED reversing itself, but I could be wrong.

[Nunanor]

That's for the replies, but I don't really want to use injections. I cannot figure out how to handle it since I'm 35 years old and single.

[Rider1400]

I had the same trend you are having but 10 years later in life. Pills worked for 10 years then injections for a little over a year at this point I decided it was time for implant. It’s your decision. Just be committed to doing it before you start process and find a good qualified Dr who does more than a couple a year. Experience is key with Drs.

[Nunanor]

I had the same trend you are having but 10 years later in life. Pills worked for 10 years then injections for a little over a year at this point I decided it was time for implant. It’s your decision. Just be committed to doing it before you start process and find a good qualified Dr who does more than a couple a year. Experience is key with Drs.

And how was felt the decreasing effectiveness of pills? You recognize the sensations I described? Maybe some irregular effectiveness before becoming useless? Thanks

[Old Guy]

I started using Viagra until it didn't work anymore and gave me migraines after using it. Knew no other way to get erections until I saw an ad for Men's Clinic. They introduced me to Trimix injections. At first it was no way am I sticking a needle in my dick, but they used an autoinjector. The loaded needle goes in the injector and you don't see it. The shot itself does not hurt like I thought it would. I used Trimix for maybe 3 years until it didn't work anymore.
Never knew about implants until I saw an ad from a doc who does them. Knew nothing more about implants other than it would allow me erections again when I scheduled surgery.
I had doubts, and I was scared. I knew if the surgery failed my penis would never work again. I never had a surgery as an adult so that had me nervous as hell. But the fact that there was no sex in my future like I was, it was go through with it or give up sex. Fortunately, all turned out fine and my implant is great.

[KeithC]

That's for the replies, but I don't really want to use injections. I cannot figure out how to handle it since I'm 35 years old and single.

What’s being single and 35 have to do with it? I was single the entire 11 years I used it and had a very active sex life.

I never tried to hide it and was upfront with the women about it. At least in my case they appreciated the honesty and kept coming back for more when I lasted longer in bed than any man they had ever been with.

Think outside your box…

[Lost Sheep]

That's for the replies, but I don't really want to use injections. I cannot figure out how to handle it since I'm 35 years old and single.

What’s being single and 35 have to do with it? I was single the entire 11 years I used it and had a very active sex life.

I never tried to hide it and was upfront with the women about it. At least in my case they appreciated the honesty and kept coming back for more when I lasted longer in bed than any man they had ever been with.

Think outside your box…

That is what I have been posting for the entire time I have been a member. On a dating site (even before I was implanted) my honesty about my impotence was described as "refreshing" and "courageous". In truth it was desperation, but that is beside the point.

Women are incredibly supportive if they feel respected, trusted and safe. And especially if they feel loved, or at least special.

[KeithC]

That's for the replies, but I don't really want to use injections. I cannot figure out how to handle it since I'm 35 years old and single.

What’s being single and 35 have to do with it? I was single the entire 11 years I used it and had a very active sex life.

I never tried to hide it and was upfront with the women about it. At least in my case they appreciated the honesty and kept coming back for more when I lasted longer in bed than any man they had ever been with.

Think outside your box…

That is what I have been posting for the entire time I have been a member. On a dating site (even before I was implanted) my honesty about my impotence was described as "refreshing" and "courageous". In truth it was desperation, but that is beside the point.

Women are incredibly supportive if they feel respected, trusted and safe. And especially if they feel loved, or at least special.

No risk no reward. You’re a brave man.