Psychological Impact After Penile Implant

[defiant]

Hello all!

Please could you kindly share what impact having the penile implant had upon your life?

Both in the short term immediately post surgery and in the longer term also.

Thank you!

[beachbum]

Kind of easy to answer, for myself anyway. Right after the procedure it was kind of like WTF HAVE I DONE TO MY DICK!!! wasn't bad and that feeling didn't last long at all. After that it was , OK, this is great, I've got a working dick again. Then the regret of not having done it 15 years earlier. Now, best thing I've done for myself in many years. The mental part of having fixed a physical problem like ED has been well worth any pain, discomfort, adjustments needed. I'd do it again in a heart beat if needed.

[defiant]

Kind of easy to answer, for myself anyway. Right after the procedure it was kind of like WTF HAVE I DONE TO MY DICK!!! wasn't bad and that feeling didn't last long at all. After that it was , OK, this is great, I've got a working dick again. Then the regret of not having done it 15 years earlier. Now, best thing I've done for myself in many years. The mental part of having fixed a physical problem like ED has been well worth any pain, discomfort, adjustments needed. I'd do it again in a heart beat if needed.

Good to know.

I have other issues going on right now that have deeply affected my sexuality and connectedness to sex and intimacy but the base root has always been ED and fear of keeping an erection.

I’m glad to see it’s helped you. It’s a story I’ve read many many times by men similar to you.

[abhishek26]

Hello all!

Please could you kindly share what impact having the penile implant had upon your life?

Both in the short term immediately post surgery and in the longer term also.

Thank you!

Bro why don’t you try injections before thinking about implant?

[Lost Sheep]

Good to know.

I have other issues going on right now that have deeply affected my sexuality and connectedness to sex and intimacy but the base root has always been ED and fear of keeping an erection.

I’m glad to see it’s helped you. It’s a story I’ve read many many times by men similar to you.

Reflecting on abhishek26's post, I present to you this bit of wisdom that helped me.

Cure problems with your connectedness to other people (women) in your life. Intimacy BEFORE sex improves the sex immensely. When approaching intimacy with a woman, I just tried for a connection of our minds and developing the ability to communicate, heart-to-heart. I may have lost out on the number of sexual encounters in my life, but the quality of the relationships was/is much better. And while the sex may not have been coital, it still was very satisfying (I got a lot of fellatio in comparison to coitus, but who would complain about fellatio?). My women were satisfied with my efforts to satisfy them (hands, toys, tongue) once they understood that is was not them with the problem. Women are incredibly supportive it they feel desired, trusted, respected and safe.

[Old Guy]

Hello all!

Please could you kindly share what impact having the penile implant had upon your life?

Both in the short term immediately post surgery and in the longer term also.

Thank you!

It was a life changer for me. I was always in high gear sexually until mid 50's when ED hit. Having a younger wife it was necessary to figure out a way to satisfy her. Pills worked for a while, injections worked for a while. It was terrible when the drugs began to fail because it was like going through the ED phase again. When it got to the point that nothing was working and the wife was getting frustrated, I searched for a local urologist.
The surgery went well but I hurt for a long time. I'm a slow healer and don't handle antibiotics well. Now after 2 years of being implanted it's the best thing I ever did for both of us. No interruptions to go inject or wonder if it's take a pill night. When the mood strikes it's pretty much like before ED, except for having to inflate.

[defiant]

I’m just not and never have been on board with the idea of injections as a relatively young single man. I find the notion of skipping off to the bathroom when things are getting intimate and injecting one’s penis, waiting for the mechanism of action to kick in and then getting going; what with all the cost, supply and storage issues, to be most unpalatable. There’s a lack of spontaneity there also. Finally, long term injection usage can lead to all sorts of other issues you wouldn’t really want for yourself.

The implant on the other hand, whilst it is final and has its risks and drawbacks has the highest rate of satisfaction, offers much more spontaneity and will never let you down. You just know it’s there to stay. It’s a real mental uplift and I’ve read more than enough testimonies to know that what it can do for someone’s state of mind is priceless. Injections just perpetuate a losing battle, almost.

As to what you’re saying Lost Sheep, again, I understand where you’re coming from but men derive a huge amount of self esteem, worth and identity from their sexuality and ability to perform. Without it, realistically speaking, the damage being done to one’s psyche is just horrifying and emasculating.

I’m not quite there yet but I’m so done with the mental anguish of ‘will it stay up’ and trying so desperately to finish quickly so it can get done. I’m tired of not chasing who I want to chase. I’m tired of ED dictating literally every damn decision of my life.

[abhishek26]

I’m just not and never have been on board with the idea of injections as a relatively young single man.

Ah I see bro, makes sense. But the term “defiant” definitely suits you well here.

[Lost Sheep]

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As to what you’re saying Lost Sheep, again, I understand where you’re coming from but men derive a huge amount of self esteem, worth and identity from their sexuality and ability to perform. Without it, realistically speaking, the damage being done to one’s psyche is just horrifying and emasculating.

True, true.

My erectile capacity was not a reliable source of self-esteem, so I HAD to turn to my other attributes, such as they were.

Now that I CAN get erect (and SUSTAINABLY so), I am getting a bit of an ego boost (mitigated by the fact of my age and the knowledge that it is due to a hydro-mechanical device). It is joyous, though.

If I was on the dating scene, the story might be different. "Cruising" for partners might become a fun activity and boosting to my self-esteem and confidence. But monogamy has always been a characteristic of mine, so I don't.

This thread, below, might have some food for thought.
"Personality changes with sudden restoration of sexual ability?"
viewtopic.php?f=3&t=7002

[Time2Change]

For over four months after surgery, I didn't feel much better about myself.

That's because for two months my doctor's instructions were to leave my dick alone. And then for another two-plus months sex wasn't that great due to still healing and adjusting to my new state.

Then sex started to feel good, and that's when my mental state started to improve. My overall state of thinking is more positive; I'm more confident; and my attitudes about sex are better.

I still have a long way to go. My ED has definitely done damage to my thinking, and that's not going to change completely in nine months. But I'm in a much better place today than I was 13 months ago.