Dating with injections while young

[Throwawaya320]

Currently using injections and they work great. However, I’m in my late 20s and I’m worried how women my age will react. Should I just go for the implant? It’s easy to be discrete for a one night stand but for a relationship, it’s something I’ll have to discuss. Anyone here my age using injections and having success in the dating world?

[ElbowRoom]

It kind of depends what you're looking for.

If you're doing a lot of one night stands and casual sex, you might have to just excuse yourself to the bathroom to shoot up.

If you are looking for a relationship, then tell her up front since she'll find out anyway at some point and you don't want to ambush her with this issue.

These are some of the big downsides with injection therapy -- it's hard to be spontaneous and it can be difficult to conceal the fact.

Good luck and enjoy yourself!

[jwjwjw]

I think Elbowroom has given you the perfect advice........ however I will throw this idea out to you.....if you find a girl you really, really like .....do her a time or two secretly using Trimix.

You probably will give her the best sex of her life and thereafter she may want more and will not care how you are able to do it ....LOL

[GoodWood]

There aren’t very many guys in their 20s who have used shots for a while. I was using shots in my 40s, but I also know what it was like to date in my 20s so Maybe this will help.

Shots definitely have their limitations although they can be really effective. I missed some opportunities to hook up because I didn’t have a shot with me. And having to wait a day between shots was sometimes a drag.

When we first meet someone we don’t tell them ALL our most intimate information right off the bat. That would be weird. It isn’t until we have been seeing them for a few weeks and it looks like things are getting more serious that we might share some of that most personal stuff.

Only then do we share (examples) “my parents have a really abusive relationship. I rarely see them.” “My brother is severely mentally ill and is institutionalized.” “I was addicted to pain pills and was treated to get over that.” “My uncle molested me when I was a kid.” “I had legal trouble when I was in college.” Whatever it is, nearly EVERYONE has SOMETHING that is deeply personal and only shared with those closest to us. We don’t share that stuff on those early dates.

I used shots for nearly 10 years in lots and lots of hookups and NO ONE ever knew. There was no reason for me to tell them. If I thought I might hook up I brought a prefilled syringe with me in a syringe case that was the size of a marker or a pen. I carried it in my coat pocket/backpack/briefcase/pants pocket. Wherever. When things started to heat up I excused myself to the restroom and injected. I did this for nearly 10 years. At no point did anyone ever say anything about it. Several were amazed I could stay hard for so long and was such a great lover. But no one ever suspected that I used the shots.

When it comes to sharing the intimate/personal information about using shots for ED, I can only extrapolate from other personal/intimate things I needed to share. I was already married in an open marriage when my ED became a problem. But my experience has been that once things started to get serious I told them the bare basics of that intimate fact. If they asked for more details I could share that then. But often sharing the basic information was enough for that first step. (In this case it might be: “I really care about you and it seems like things are getting more serious. A while ago I started having problems with ED and my doctor prescribed some medication that has been really effective.” If they asked what it is I might reply “It’s called Trimix and I take it just before we are going to have sex.” In many cases people don’t need (or even want) ALL of the granular details (I inject 17 units into the corpus cavernosum with a 29g 5/16” needle). Over time the details may get shared.

Once things start to get serious being trusted with intimate information is a gift.

My advise would be: if shots are effective, continue with shots. Keep it to yourself until it looks like the relationship might develop into something. Then share the basic information. If she rejects you because of it, the problem is her, not you, and you dodged a bullet and can more on to find someone who is more humane.

[Irish Lad 34]

Hi mate, I suppose each individual is different. It depends on how you feel about the shots more than anything. I'm not much older than you, 34 going on 35. If shots worked really well for me I might consider using them for a while longer but I feel like personally I might eventually get fed up with them.

My circumstances and how I feel about the shots are:

For me they don't work well enough, I don't get a guaranteed long lasting erection from them because my penis damage is just too severe, but I did have a few occasions where they did work.

Big downsides of the shots for me are:
You're not meant to inject more than 3 times a week or more than twice in a 24 hour period. Also getting a prescription in Ireland where I am is frustrating. Urologists will give you a prescription for 1 - 2 shots a week, you might eventually get 3 shots a week if you can find a GP that will write you such a prescription, but getting more than that is complicated. If you want more you can order them off a UK website but they're expensive that way, about €60+ for 2 injections, so long term the cost of them is very annoying, for me anyway. Then there's the possibility of them being out of stock, you may not be able to get them when you need them. Then there's the psychological aspect of injecting into the penis, this is an aspect that has always made me feel weird about getting an erection. Even mixing the solution can be a bit upsetting, there's something unnatural about the process.

For me if they actually worked well I would personally try to make sure I have a massive stock of them for peace of mind, like 50 shots in my apartment lol. Having 1 or 2 shots would make me feel like I can't be spontaneous, like I have to be so strategic with rationing them. I would also be willing to break the 3 shots per week rule, and I would also be willing to break the maximum 1 shot in a 24 hour period rule. I would not have any confidence or peace of mind trying to initiate a relationship or a fling with someone if I knew I've got a maximum of 1 erection with the timer set at 45 minutes after shooting up. That would be one of the big mental barriers for me, for my confidence. I would want to know that I am capable of having passionate romantic sex 2, 3, or 4 times in a weekend if needs be. Twice in a night of twice in an afternoon if needs be, like a regular young man's functioning penis. Realistically as a young man entering into a relationship you might find yourself being expected to perform more than once in a 24 hour period. I'm not suggesting you need to be rock hard 10 times a day every day, but most young lads will get a horny cock more frequently than 1 - 3 days a week if they're spending a romantic week in a hotel with a new lover, I think most women will expect a cock that works more frequently than the recommended dose of Caverject.

So it boils down to how you feel about it personally. Personally if they worked for me I'd stock up on tons of shots and I'd have a premixed shot in my pocket every now and again in case I needed it. I'd also break the 3 shots a week rule if I had to, like I'd go way overboard if I needed to. I'd do 3 shots in a night if I was with someone that wanted it. If they worked well for me like that I'd probably use them for a few years if I could get enough of them, even though the psychological aspect of injecting frustrates me. If they started failing me I'd get off them and go to the implant.

If you don't want to break the rules then you need to ask yourself how you feel about that. Do you think you can get out into the world feeling confident on a limited number of erections every day or every week? If so - great, the shots might be the best solution ever for you. Are you OK paying the €100+ every few weeks for them? If so, great. Are you comfortable injecting, mentally? If you answer yes to all questions then ride out the injections for as long as you can. That's what I would do anyway, but everybody's circumstances are different.