equusAz wrote:Well, I never thought I'd be in this place in my life. My entire life I've had healthy erections up until about a year ago. Started having very minor ED and got some cialis. All was fine until my PSA's jumped to 10. Long story short, due to my relatively young age (47), I went with RP. Last thing I need is to undergo a RP after radiation, or to possibly get other cancers due to radiation.
While 'in there' the urologist removed one of the nerves due to possible incursion. There wasn't any but its better to be safe than sorry and the good news is - looks like everything is out - Prostate removed with no spread beyond, not even in the lymph nodes.
So I'm dealing with the slowly worsening depression. I am happily married (to a man) and we had lot of discussions prior to and post surgery about ramifications. However...I've had zero erections since the surgery. Not even morning wood. I was warned this was a possibility, and even with one nerve removed I only stand about a 40% chance of getting any kind of erection back, but...being warned and facing reality are two different things.
This absolutely sucks. I still have sexual urges and needs, but...I don't have a physical response. I'm abit nervous to try to reach orgasm yet. Also...and this may seem to be a bit personal, but I was not 'averaged' sized. Well above average really (7.5x6.25 non-bone pressed). And well, I can definitely tell I've lost length - which is a bit of a kick in the teeth too.
I don't know just felt like venting here is all. I certainly didn't ask for this in life and I get it life can throw you curveballs, but man. This sucks.
I was diagnosed with grade 4 prostate cancer in January 2023/ I am 60 years old so my urologist recommended I undergo RARP. The surgery went ahead 7th March 2023, but he had to cut into some nerves as the cancer was very close to them. The surgery went well and I mostly have been given the all clear as my PSA is not quite as low as he would like. I to am married to a man. my husband has been a pillar of strength for me. I had full bladder control at the eight week mark. I started using a Vacurect as soon as the catheter was removed 7 days later. I have lost a little bit of length due to the surgery but have not lost any girth, I use the VED device daily to help restore and maintain the length I have got till surgery. I as well have had no erections what so ever since the surgery. They put me on trimix but the dosage was increasing and the mixture felt like a like a kick in the nuts. So after a lot of research and stumbling onto this terrific website I have decided to go bionic, the surgery is schedule for 13 September 2023. When I asked my husband what does he think of me getting an implant he replied "Its your dick" with a smirk on his face.
My approach to life and always has been is this, yep. life likes to throw you curve balls, but don't like back at the past, that is behind you a road already travelled, keep looking forward and keep pushing ahead, where there is a will there is a way.