Lost Sheep wrote:harrypro21 wrote:Hi guys i am bit confused with my situation so i did not had sex for 5 years and also i was porn addicted for like 2 years. finally 2 days ago i went to a escort, after first round of sex I was just unable to get an hardon.yesterday I went again and the same thing ,(i can easily have a rection but just after first round I couldn't get hard)i had an instant regret of my addiction and i want to cure myself. Open for tips and suggestions I don't know if I have erectile disfunction or not
Souds like a normal refractory period. When I was in my 20s it took 15 minutes to a half-hour to get an erection after orgams/ejactulation. for a third orgasm, it took 30 to 45 minutes if I was well-rested. To have a fourth orgasm/ejaculation in one night was rare.
In my later years. the refractory period was hours for the first repeat, if there were to be one.
Indeed, it does sound like a normal refractory period. Some guys have very short ones congenitally and others have longer ones (sounds familiar doesn’t it
). I was once seeing a guy who could have multiple orgasms, to my amazement. He literally had no refractory period and could ejaculate 2- 3 times in a row (as a very young man), by the third time very little semen actually came out, but he experienced 3 orgasms. This is very rare, but there are men out there who can do this! It shows how varied we can all be.
The refractory period is very interesting to study. A researcher by the name of Dr. Jacob Rajfer has published some very interesting articles/papers on the topic of the aging penis, specifically the loss of smooth muscle. His research talks about the change in the refractory period that men experience as they age and he postulates that the first indication that smooth muscle content is beginning to change in the penis coincides with this lengthening men notice of the refractory period. It is the first sign of ageing in the penis, brought on by oxidative stress. He also notes that young healthy men who use PDE5i who have healthy strong erectile function, only usually notice one thing: that their refractory period is shortened, they generally do not notice any improvement in actual erectile function because it is already working optimally.
Of course not all men go on to experience noticeable erectile dysfunction in mid-life, what they do experience is that they need longer and longer in-between ejaculations. Eventually however, if they live long enough, the decline in smooth muscle will reach the point of causing CVOD and ED ensues. Some of us experience this much sooner than others and much of this is apparently to do with how our bodies cope with oxidative stress. The penis seems to fall prey to the effects of oxidative stress much sooner than other parts of our peripheral vascular system due to its high dependence on strong efficient smooth muscle function and the complex nature of this in the penis. Dr. Rajfer conjectures that only a 15% loss of smooth muscle is required in the penis for CVOD to begin.
Another thing we should consider is that each and every penis is different in design, shape and function, therefore some may be more susceptible to fail with regard to venous occlusion due to only a small loss in smooth muscle content than others. Some men can start to experience this loss of smooth muscle as early as the third decade of life, hence why males are considered to reach their sexual peak at just 18!
Lost Sheep, here are links for two of Dr. Rajfer’s articles which you may find a good read:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4713217/https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5313305/