Self Esteem

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Artist
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Self Esteem

Postby Artist » Tue Sep 14, 2021 9:52 am

We all came to this site because of ED. I myself was blown away, as well as my wife, the first time I “went flat”. Back then I thought, I’m too young?? Throw in more health issues and ED was mind bending!

My first trial of Viagra brought a great feeling that I could perform and great self esteem. More health issues and side effects brought me to a VED.

Whenever I pump it up, snap the band and have an erection, I feel great about my self.

Do others feel good about themselves once they are erect regardless of the means, be it VED, implant, or the other methods?
71 years of age, afflicted with ED in my late 40’s and treated with Viagra. Started treatment for hypertension at the age of 50; diagnosed with PC at age 50, RP at age of 51 years.

tomas1
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Joined: Tue Jul 23, 2013 5:12 pm
Location: Tempe, AZ

Re: Self Esteem

Postby tomas1 » Wed Sep 15, 2021 4:34 pm

Yes but never with a VED.
That just didn't work for me.
Injections were my best artificial erection maker until the implant.
85 years
Inject testosterone weekly.
Implant on 1/22/19 by Dr Avila.
Scrotal, hor. incision just over 1"
18cm AMS 700 CX, 3.5cm RTE 100cc res
Gleason 6 prostate cancer. Monitoring it for now.
Update: On my last biopsies the cancer wasn't found.

Rider1400
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Joined: Sun Dec 06, 2020 4:23 pm
Location: Benton Arkansas

Re: Self Esteem

Postby Rider1400 » Fri Sep 17, 2021 1:55 pm

Definitely right on target with me also. When I first started having ED I was in my mid 40s and blood pressure issues with the prescription that helps it lead to ED… Cialis was my friend for about 10 years and man did it make me feel great to perform great again. 10 years later I started having serious issues again where Cialis even high doses wasn’t keeping me up long enough to finish me or my wife. Talk about self esteem issues…. Almost lead to a divorce before I convinced my wife it was an issue with my dick rather than with her!! Injections have brought that animal under control again along with my and my wife’s self esteem! Been doing injections for 10 months and am now using double the dose I started with. I’m 56 and hope to get at least another couple years out of injections, but am ready to proceed with an implant as soon as I stop seeing results or if it gets too painful or of course if I see any sign of scaring.For now all is well w me and the wife and I’m willing to do what ever it takes to keep it that way.
58year old ED started mid 40s pills failed after 10 years. Injections works but diminishing results with pain. Implanted 5-22 Baylor,Scott,and White Dallas.Dr Michael Wierschem, infrapubic Coloplast 20cm and 1cm RTE. Going strong and loving it!

tomas1
Posts: 1956
Joined: Tue Jul 23, 2013 5:12 pm
Location: Tempe, AZ

Re: Self Esteem

Postby tomas1 » Fri Sep 17, 2021 2:11 pm

It has to be tough being so close to Medicare unless you have good insurance to cover an implant.
When I injected and the dosage got very high with the strongest formula I could get the end came pretty fast.
I really liked injections when they worked though.
85 years
Inject testosterone weekly.
Implant on 1/22/19 by Dr Avila.
Scrotal, hor. incision just over 1"
18cm AMS 700 CX, 3.5cm RTE 100cc res
Gleason 6 prostate cancer. Monitoring it for now.
Update: On my last biopsies the cancer wasn't found.

aonman
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Joined: Mon Feb 01, 2021 5:55 am
Location: UK

Re: Self Esteem

Postby aonman » Fri Sep 17, 2021 2:30 pm

Yes. I had prostate radiotherapy in 2016 then used viagra with limited success and erections firm enough for penetration being hit and miss. I think it was made worse by thoughts of "will I get hard enough and if so will it last long enough to work like before".
I then tried a VED and constriction ring with great success and the confidence boost makes sex great again for us both. Sometimes I still take a viagra which can enhance things and also make me capable of performing the morning after too which is nice at weekends when there's no rush to get out of bed in the morning.
It is a great feeling after initial fears that I might have ED forever and so fulfilling to get an active sex life back. My wife has always loved sex and enjoys multiple orgasms every time which works wonders for her and boosts my own self esteem.Long may it continue for all of us lucky enough to achieve this regardless of the method used.
Born 1956, married late 70s and still happily married.
Radiotherapy for PC 2016 left me with ED. Viagra not good enough on its own so experimented with VED, result biggest hard-on and staying power. My wife loves it and can't get enough, happy days again!

Lost Sheep
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Re: Self Esteem

Postby Lost Sheep » Fri Sep 17, 2021 4:17 pm

I found I had less problems with my self-esteem (being unaware that I had E.D. helped in my obliviousness and protected my self-esteem) than with my willingness to initiate sex. Repeated poor performance in in sex did not diminish my self-esteem in other areas but devastated my sexual self-esteem-for a long time and the effects still linger today.

Once I discovered that my tongue, toys and hands could please a woman to orgasm, my self-esteem remained at the level it had been since my teenage years. (Of course, many boys' self-esteem during those years takes a beating for other reasons than erectile functioning, as did mine.)

But new, almost 4 years after getting an implant (with the attendant reliability and durability of erections) I still find initiating sex to be challenging.

I suppose I developed my reticence out of consideration of my partners' expectations and a lingering lack of confidence in my penis. Replacing that confidence with confidence in my implant has proved to take longer than anticipated.

All this is to say that my self-esteem as a man, a professional, a human being is as intact as it ever was. My confidence in sex is still being rehabilitated.

So, I post this to observe that there is a difference there. Subtle, perhaps, but distince - at least for me.
Lost Sheep
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Pre-op VED therapy helps. Post-op is another matter


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