Cruel and Hurtful Statements

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Nocturne
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Cruel and Hurtful Statements

Postby Nocturne » Tue Jan 01, 2019 6:36 pm

What is the cruelest and most hurtful statement that a woman has ever made to you WRT your ED? My wife is a peach and has never hurt me this way, not intentionally. and she easily could have.
Genetically sky-high Lp(a) of 390 led to various heart diseases. Ultra-low testosterone of 120 (now 480 with Clomid) also contributed to ED at age 41. Managing with daily Cialis, but for me, the implant is a "when", not an "if".

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Re: Cruel and Hurtful Statements

Postby FreddyFree » Wed Jan 02, 2019 9:37 am

"You are much smaller, now. Both length and girth"

She said that after our first session with a new undersized implant. :cry:
1954 AMS 700 CX 18cm. x 12mm. With 3cm. RTEs. 10/10/18

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Re: Cruel and Hurtful Statements

Postby alfa88 » Wed Jan 02, 2019 1:56 pm

I heard this 2nd hand. Hubby was feeling particularly amorous and decided to completely shave down there. When the wife caught sight of his shaved manhood she says, "oh! how cute". His manhood turned to boyhood if you know what I mean. :oops:
In my case I've advised wifey that talking about Moms, Fathers, etc. is a mood killer to me but she still doesn't get it. :x
53 years old, married 32 years. Lifetime ED & PE. Tried Viagra W & W/O T-Shots, Levitra and Cialis, Edex with poor results. VED is a last resort.

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Re: Cruel and Hurtful Statements

Postby Lost Sheep » Wed Jan 02, 2019 2:25 pm

FreddyFree wrote:"You are much smaller, now. Both length and girth"

She said that after our first session with a new undersized implant. :cry:

Much depends on the tone of how she said it, her expression and what she did afterwards, how supportive she is and willing to take fullest advantage of your current "assets".

You mentioned in another thread that you were able to hit her cervix, which she found uncomfortable. She might prefer you a bit shorter and was actually expressing appreciation for your more compact size. Sports car vs dump truck.

There are positions that take advantage of the smaller penis. If she is willing, try them out. One of the simplest is a variation on the "Missionary Position". Instead of you being between her legs, spread outside yours, you start out that way, but she moves her legs in between yours. This closes her thighs for more friction, even with a smaller girth. There is less depth of penetration, but the extra friction to her vaginal opening more than makes up for that. There are various other positions, too. The possibilities are nearly endless and the infinite "loiter time" made possible by an implant makes searching for the best ones quite an adventure. Of course, getting your wife on board for the research is essential. If she enjoyed sex before, take advantage of those warm memories to entice her to help research (on the internet is very easy) and to do the "lab work" in the bedroom.

Good luck. Your implant is a gift, and great gifts can come in small packages as well as large.
Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 implant Nov 6, 2017 by Dr Tavis Shaw. Spent 14 months researching in effort to optimize outcome. After 30 yrs of progressive unrecognized ED I will do this RIGHT; no second chance with one's first.
Anchorage, Alaska, USA

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Re: Cruel and Hurtful Statements: What was the INTENT?

Postby Lost Sheep » Wed Jan 02, 2019 2:28 pm

alfa88 wrote:I heard this 2nd hand. Hubby was feeling particularly amorous and decided to completely shave down there. When the wife caught sight of his shaved manhood she says, "oh! how cute". His manhood turned to boyhood if you know what I mean. :oops:
In my case I've advised wifey that talking about Moms, Fathers, etc. is a mood killer to me but she still doesn't get it. :x

Well, how she said it could make a huge difference. I hope he did not misinterpret her remark. Simple misunderstandings can be tragic. I, myself, have killed a mood with an off-hand remark (meant to be a compliment) that went in the wrong direction by the time it hit my lover's ears.

Did she regard his manhood as infantile (unless she likes that particular fetish) or "cute - like a puppy, cuddly and kissable".

My girlfriend and I have been experimenting with grooming styles and having fun while doing it. A couple weeks ago, we trimmed each other. She trimmed me extremely close (less than 1/16" / 2mm) - as close as we could get without risk of the clippers cutting into my skin - we did not want to use a razor and I had clippers with plastic "guides" for controlling length of hair, so we used a setting of zero).

I will be letting my hair grow out and over the next few weeks let her decide just what length she likes. Nearly slick and smooth, peach fuzz, velvety fuzzy, on up to full curly. The sensations I get when she fondles me are subtly different as well. Sex sure is fun! and it is not all about the erection, either. Not worrying about the erection (or the size of it) frees a couple to explore a wider range of appreciations for one another.

The foregoing digression brings me to my point: If a remark was meant kindly or sympathetically, that is something a relationship can build on to become better and healthier. Even if the expression of it was initially received as disappointing, cruel or hurtful. On the other hand, if the original intent was actually unkind in nature, then the relationship definitely needs some adjustment
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Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 implant Nov 6, 2017 by Dr Tavis Shaw. Spent 14 months researching in effort to optimize outcome. After 30 yrs of progressive unrecognized ED I will do this RIGHT; no second chance with one's first.
Anchorage, Alaska, USA

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Re: Cruel and Hurtful Statements

Postby alibaba » Wed Jan 02, 2019 2:30 pm

"This thing is completely useless now. So glad we spent $28,000 for this" . First implant.
LGX 21cm .Milam 01/13/16. Horror; both service and surgical outcome. hated infrapubic installation. Kramer revision 03/01/17. 22cm Titan +1.5cm extender. Those who think their opinion is the only one that matters are a danger to themselves and others.

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Re: Cruel and Hurtful Statements

Postby Larry10625 » Wed Jan 02, 2019 5:23 pm

alibaba wrote:"This thing is completely useless now. So glad we spent $28,000 for this" . First implant.



OMG :( :( :( :( :(

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51 years old, married 29 years. Implanted Mar 30/17 by Dr. Brock of London, Ont, CANADA. (AMS 700 CX 18 + 2). Had implant removed Apr 29/17 due to Septic Shock. Liposuction By Dr. Gan and re-implant by Dr. Brock (AMS LGX 15 + 2) Dec 14/17.

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Re: Cruel and Hurtful Statements

Postby alibaba » Wed Jan 02, 2019 10:44 pm

Woman cursed the doctor every day for 14 months. Literally.
LGX 21cm .Milam 01/13/16. Horror; both service and surgical outcome. hated infrapubic installation. Kramer revision 03/01/17. 22cm Titan +1.5cm extender. Those who think their opinion is the only one that matters are a danger to themselves and others.


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