Wife's lost interest, but still jealous.

[Bigdave]

No-one else has this problem???

[Kimball]

Hormone replacement therapy has turned many older wives around 180 degrees, to women who are enthusiastic about sex again. Search for this term or "HRT" here in FrankTalk and you will find guys who say this.

The hard part, of course, is getting her to a gynecologist or endocrinologist. For women who have pain during sex, advising them to see a doctor because, "It might be a physical problem," might get her foot in the door.

At age 80, my wife thinks "eighty is the new forty" and has several orgasms a week. I can only do her once a week, but she has "boyfriends" in the form of big dildos. She is enthusiastic about medical science and all it can do.

When my wife was in her mid-50's she began experiencing pain during intercourse, despite the use of lube, foreplay, etc. These symptoms are associated with the female disorder called vaginismus. Due to her pain, we stopped having sex about 13 or so years ago, and my ED became chronic. She refused to take estrogen, due to fear of cancer.

Last year, I discovered that there are vaginal dilator kits for women with problems such as her's. The devices start out extremely small, and gradually increase in size. The thickness of the dilators is more important than length, for our purposes, because it's the opening that is the main problem. She did not think that this would work but, after reading positive experiences about it online, ordered two kits of silicone dilators which contained eight dilators, and a tube of recommended lube. She started doing exercises with the dilators every day, starting with the smallest, slowly advancing to medium and then larger dilators. After about 8 months of her using the dilators and eventually dildos, in the spring of 2025, I was finally able to put my penis in her, albeit briefly.

Before long, we were able to have short sex sessions. Now, with some limitations of positions, we have PIV sex for average lenghs of time, sometimes longer if we feel like it, with no discomfort for her. She still exercises with dilators and dildos, usually before we have sex, rather than every day as she had previously been doing, and she recently was able to move up to the second largest size of a collection of 8 dilators - a size which would have been unthinkable for us just two years ago. My erect penis is about the same size as dilator #8, but as human skin is more pliable than silicone or other materials it can squeeze into places that a similarly sized dilator or dildo can't.

The dilator technology has changed our lives, for the better.

[frank66665]

No-one else has this problem???

Yes, Bigdave, I don't know how to get out of this, in the meantime I go to have sex every week for a fee

[Martin6469]

Yes, Bigdave, I don't know how to get out of this, in the meantime I go to have sex every week for a fee

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[UpNorth]

I sympathize with you guys; your relatively young wives should be in a better circumstance.

This is what I was thinking. Some of you guys are younger than I am.
My wife encourages me to find a part time playmate but “Try that in a small town”.

[Old Guy]

Lost interest doesn't describe my wife. She never thinks about sex. If I want any it's up to me to initiate, and although she is usually agreeable there are also times when some illness (real or faked) keeps her from agreeing. Then it's always the same thing, she has to be cuddled, kissed, run her clit buzzer while I finger her. She'll have an orgasm that way then immediately wants dick. I get no stroking, no oral, no nothing but pussy and it's in the same position every time.
I can't tell you how many times this has been discussed between us. It usually ends up with her saying she is sorry, crying, promises to change, but change never happens. Oh well, I could be single and get none.

[ElbowRoom]

No-one else has this problem???

I posted that I did, and even sent you a DM about it, and got zero response.

[Bigdave]

I sympathize with you guys; your relatively young wives should be in a better circumstance.

This is what I was thinking. Some of you guys are younger than I am.
My wife encourages me to find a part time playmate but “Try that in a small town”.

I'd be thrilled if my wife told me that.