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Matthew
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frustrated

Postby Matthew » Sun Dec 09, 2012 10:54 am

Well after a year and half of severe peyroines, a two doctors recommendation I got an implant. I could always orgasm and with Cialis I could get an erection with a terrible headache. Now I have a great on demand erection that lasts and I cannot cum. I have tried some stuff like pygem, Larginine and a host of other stuff. Am I cursed lol. I guess its psychological? I dont know. One thing starts and the other stops. We have had sex three times this week for long bouts and I have not orgasmed. So frustrated.

radiodec
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Re: frustrated

Postby radiodec » Sun Dec 09, 2012 2:06 pm

Strange results indeed. I too have an implant, just 4 and a half weeks out form surgery and I can cum. It is a sry orgasm as I have had a prostectomy and therefore no ejaculation, still good orgasm anyway just like before implant and post prostatectomu before injections failed.

Was your implant via scrotal or abdominal incision. Abdominal incision has advantages but can damage the nearves in the top of the penis. The PD corrections are another complicationg factor. Maybe somebody with an implant and PD will reply.

Radiodec
70 - married 47 years: RP - 2000, injections till 2012, AMS700LGX with 21cm tubes 2cm extenders 11/7/2012, failed 6/5/2017 --- Re-implanted 8/18/2017 with AMS 700CX -- Implants by Dr. David Morris, Hendersonville,TN

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Re: frustrated

Postby Frank Talk Admin » Sun Dec 09, 2012 10:13 pm

It could be physical - but we also find many, many men end up with arousal issues. It is a bit of a mind game. But force yourself to stop watching yourself, looking, waiting, analyzing, etc. Also, do something to send stimulation through the roof. Try sex toys on yourself. Use an Aneros during sex...a Body Wand vibrator on your perineum, have her tie you up, get CRAZY. Lose yourself in fun sex. You have been a patient and science project for so long that you're very likely still in that mode. But talk to your doctor...have him do a penile sensitivity exam. Can you climax while masturbating? lots of questions, I know.

Matthew
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Re: frustrated

Postby Matthew » Mon Dec 10, 2012 12:15 pm

I like your advice about losing myself in sex.Never had this problem before. I think it is phycological to some extent. I hope I can get back to good orgasm without whips and chains lol.

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Re: frustrated

Postby Anonymous2 » Tue Dec 11, 2012 3:09 pm

Matthew wrote:Well after a year and half of severe peyroines, a two doctors recommendation I got an implant. I could always orgasm and with Cialis I could get an erection with a terrible headache. Now I have a great on demand erection that lasts and I cannot cum. I have tried some stuff like pygem, Larginine and a host of other stuff. Am I cursed lol. I guess its psychological? I dont know. One thing starts and the other stops. We have had sex three times this week for long bouts and I have not orgasmed. So frustrated.


Hi Matthew, OK Psycholoical, its a word that a lot of guys like to throw around when it come to ED, once you get that in your head you start to beleave it, just try and forget that bit, mat be hard now though,
To orasm, is something a lot of men have trouble with, and like some women go through there whole lives and never have one, its a mood thing for some of us.
You say you have tried some herbs, if you can get the mix right then they will work. I have a whole list I'll try and get the ones I have listed, and post it,but it seems these days that they just keep coming up, and some are just simple things.
Good Luck
Your Penis is Affected by Every Aspect of Your Physical, Mental and Emotional Life.

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Re: frustrated

Postby Matthew » Wed Dec 12, 2012 5:32 pm

anyone use testosterone cream? Wondering if that would help. I have an appt with my doc to test testosterone levels and maybe get something to use.

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Re: frustrated

Postby bluis6214 » Tue Dec 18, 2012 7:19 pm

Matthew,
I was having a problem cumming after my implant. It would take me at least an hour on several occasions which was exhausting my wife. I tried masturbation and would give up. So I asked my doc if maybe nerves had been damaged during the implant surgery. He sad highly unlikely. Tested for low T and found me at 199. Said I should be at least 600. So started Testopel in early Nov. Tested T level early Dec. Now at 700+. Feeling great and can come in 15-20 minutes with a pretty hefty amount of ejaculate. Get tested for low T. Only drawback testicles shrinking, but for me worth the trade off.
55 years old. ED since 2002 total venous leakage after penile fracture. Tried all the pills and injections all failed to help. Some success with VED, but felt too unnatural to both of us, seldom used. Implanted 06/21/12. Trying to wear IT out.

yogi82562000
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Re: frustrated

Postby yogi82562000 » Thu Dec 27, 2012 7:24 pm

Cialis gives me a good erection but major problems with ejaculation. I feel your frustration

seeking info
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Re: frustrated

Postby seeking info » Thu Dec 27, 2012 8:32 pm

Sometimes I feel that the strength of the ED meds interfere with the ejaculation process. Also alot has to do with what the original cause of your ED! When the medicines I take fir my health problems finally caused me problems with my ability to msintain an erection the doctor gave me Viagra 100mg to take. Well it worked but I could not climax. I was hard as a brick and my wife could ride me tell she was exhausted and I would never orgasm. I would try to finish by hand but my hand would give out. I told my doctor and they decreased the dose and then things started flowing. Each individual person eill react differently to the same drug. Its a tough road, you want to get hard but you also want the reward too. My pain Dr said orgasms were the best pain meds anyone could have because right after you shoot your load your body releases all these natural endorphins!
Good luck I wish you much success.
Medically retired. Due to very bad back issues..multiple surgeries. Implanted pain infusion system on long term opiodal meds; hypogonadism and hypothyroid as a side effect from intrathecal pain infusion system. Use low dose generic V

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Re: frustrated

Postby Dave48003 » Fri Dec 28, 2012 12:06 pm

One suggestion I can offer. I was numb on the bottom of my penis from the scar of my circumcision down past the vertical scar from my implant. I spent a lot of time in hotels in the months after surgery, so had a lot of time on my hands. I would pump up as the AMS people recommend for expansion of the LGX, and I would stimulate myself to try to achieve and maintain a high level of sexual arousal. This stimulates blood flow which promotes healing, etc. I was by myself, so I used porn (which my wife hates so don't tell her) and some lotion. Inevitable I would climax, and the endorphins released helped relieve the pain of my throbbing boner, as I had it pumped as hard as I could stand it. Call it rehab or just wanking, but I believe it helped.

Good luck and here's to wild orgasms!

Dave
Charter member of the Brotherhood of Bionic Boners.
68 YO with a venous leak since puberty, made worse by meds & diabetes. Tried pills, a VED, and injections before my AMS 700LGX was implanted 3-17-2011. A life changing event!


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