Can't get off :-(

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Re: Can't get off :-(

Postby PSSDorAmINormal » Sat Oct 29, 2022 10:44 pm

I can probably relate a little here. You mention your arm/hand getting tired because of the difficulty reaching orgasm. I may have a suggestion for you to try. Do you do anything with your free hand you know the opposite one you are stroking with?

Sometimes when I feel like I am having difficulty or not getting there fast enough I kind of flex or clench the muscles down there. I guess it is basically the kegal exercise. Also strongly flexing the glutes might help. And lastly you can always take your other hand and apply a little massage or pressure to your perineum area. If timed just right, the last method sometimes makes me squirt and the orgasm feels very intense. The last thing I would say is just enjoy taking your time. Allow time for yourself and just enjoy the process.
SWM/never married. 40 years and not experienced. Injuries/trauma at young age due to lack of guidance and good sex ed. Low libido, loss of sensitivity/numbness. Possible PD and probable PSSD. No tests or doppler. Offered tadalafil, clomid and sildenafil

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Re: Can't get off :-(

Postby Growinjim » Sat Nov 05, 2022 11:58 am

I don't know if you and wife are open to this but I too have
anorgasmia. What works for us after a good while at
intercourse, my wife massages around and into my
anus sometimes reaching the prostate. Fantastic, long
lasting orgasms. Best in my life.

I started a thread on prostate massage which explains
more. Others report very positive results. Anal toys
don't work as well as her fingers.
78 yrs, ED for 4-5 years, currently using Trimix, Giddy

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Re: Can't get off :-(

Postby seekonk » Sat Nov 05, 2022 2:18 pm

No wonder, you hate the the porn. Stop watching bad porn. There is better porn, for example amateur stuff that is much more real.

And what on earth getting called a perv for wanting a fleshjack? She has no right. Everyone has one. Just don't ask and don't tell man.

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Re: Can't get off :-(

Postby Alan810 » Fri Nov 18, 2022 6:01 pm

Somewhere on FT I saw a posting for Adam and Eve Make Me Cum. Having difficulty with sensitivity, I had nothing to lose if I tried the product. I have now used if for intercourse 3 times and I think it helped some. I'm unable to orgasm during sex because of our position, but it seems that I can achieve an (retrograde) orgasm easier and quicker than before. I apply it at the same time I apply lubrication just before using the VED.
83 yrs old. Married 40 yrs. On meds for B/P, Cholesterol and BPH. Greenlight procedure yrs ago. 30 yrs ED w/Retrograde Ejaculations. Tried Pills, Injections & different pumps. Excellent results with ErecAId pump & Beige D & Gray D rings.

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Re: Can't get off :-(

Postby JonG2020 » Wed Nov 23, 2022 12:37 pm

I just received my Tenga spinner “Tetra”. This thing is unreal. My wife is not into BJ’s, but I certainly remember how they felt. That feeling is back. This Tetra is amazing. Feels so realistic. It does spin as you move it up and down. It works for sure. You can increase the suction by squeezing the air out as you slip it on!! Check out their website for more info. Different sizes etc. $25 on Amazon.
69yo.RP2013.No ED prior to surgery.Post used V,C,TriMix.All w initial success then progressively less.Use Cialis now to maintain blood flow.Decided to pump prior to an IPP. IPP surgery on June 8, 2022. 22CM Titan. Dr. Symbas

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Re: Can't get off :-(

Postby SteveSW » Wed Nov 23, 2022 1:21 pm

It takes a lot to get me off. My Tenga's never let me to speak LOL.
20 years of severe Peyronie's plaque, 90 curve, hinging and ED. Cost me 1.5" L and 1" G.
Implanted 2/18/21, AMS CX, 18 CM + 3 RTE, penoscrotal. Have gained 3/4". Gay, married, age 68.

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Re: Can't get off :-(

Postby persopp » Tue Dec 20, 2022 9:07 am

Hi retraité65,

Like you I had a total prostatectomy (in 2011), like you my wife is not passionate about sex and like you I have erection problems.
I'm seriously thinking about getting an implant, but in the meantime, and have been doing this for over 15 years, I've been practicing electrostimulation, which provides incredibly powerful orgasms almost every session.
Electrostimulation has been practiced by tens of thousands of people for many years and the US forum was the reference for a very long time until it disappeared due to the death of its two administrators.

In the meantime, with their agreement, I had created the French forum to promote electrostimulation in French-speaking countries. And today, many US forum users have joined
I therefore advise you to look at this forum in which you can find all the advice you need to practice estim, know what equipment to buy commercially, as well as tutorials, diagrams and nomenclature to create your own box and be able to finally discover the incredible sensations of an orgasm without hands (HFO as Hand Free Orgasm).

Everything is free. The only obligations are to introduce yourself, send (or respond to) 4 or 5 posts to access all the sections of the forum and add a French translation in your post if you write in a foreign language.


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Re: Can't get off :-(

Postby HappyAgain » Tue Dec 20, 2022 11:04 am

Anti depressants are seratonin inhibitors, they’re known to delay or completely block orgasm. I started one with my first wife and I could go for an hour. She of course thought it was because I’d lost attraction to her. Thankfully I’m not with her anymore.

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Re: Can't get off :-(

Postby Howling8 » Sun Feb 05, 2023 11:07 pm

So Coreg is a culprit? I take 3.25 mg x 2 per day. Used to be 12.5 x 2 per day. I have a tough time coming on my own sometimes and haven't with my wife since before my abdominal aneurysm repair. That was by masturbating to the trigger point and resuming, which I finally accepted. Now not even that. Feels great, I'm really into it and just can't blow. Sometimes I can in 5 to 10 minutes by myself but having frequent difficulty with that too. Hoping the eggheads come up with something that ensures an orgasm lol. It'd be big biz so I hope I live long enough to see it lol.
67 yr old, married 20 yrs,
Cialis, Trimix since 2004
MIA in 2004
Implanted by Dr Guise on 10/28/21
Pre-op: 6.3" length 6" girth
14 mos post op: 6.5" lento and 5.75 girth on shaft and 6" at the base

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