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Re: Known Causes of Anorgasmia

Posted: Mon Aug 24, 2020 5:04 pm
by Stew52
Stew52 wrote: . . . And I'm wondering out loud how much DE has to do with a "tight hole". DE seems an affliction more in older gents with older women who may have bore children and are a bit boggy now maybe? Has anyone done any anecdotal study on a tight versus a boggy receptacles?

This was not meant to disparage our wonderful older women, wives and girlfriends, in any way. Married here 48 yrs. Glad to see that many or most are still wanting a great experience. They so know what they want now and how to get it. But after having kids and, getting drilled a thousand times, and age, things stretch. We do too, witness ED and DE/anorgasmia. Just wondering if this makes a difference for those who also experience tighter things.

Re: Known Causes of Anorgasmia

Posted: Sat Aug 29, 2020 8:35 am
by Up4Real?
Just call me naive, but I / we have experienced the opposite effect. With the aid of me using a VED my wife finds sex very uncomfortable..... “too big”. On the recommendation of urologist, she uses esterase to help compensate for the loss of elasticity. So far no success. We are both 73years old. Any suggestions?

Re: Known Causes of Anorgasmia

Posted: Thu Sep 10, 2020 2:26 pm
by Martin6469
In my single days I met a real 40-year-old virgin! She wanted to start her sex life, so we did but she had vaginismus (pain on penetration due to nervousness) after the first time. So I gave her a set of dildoes I picked out from a sex toy store, of various sizes, the "medium" size being my size, and told her to masturbate at home with the thinnest one first, while fantasizing that it's me (or anyone else who comes to mind), and slowly work up in size over weeks or months.

Re: Known Causes of Anorgasmia

Posted: Thu Sep 10, 2020 10:35 pm
by Stew52
Up4Real? wrote:Just call me naive, but I / we have experienced the opposite effect. With the aid of me using a VED my wife finds sex very uncomfortable..... “too big”. On the recommendation of urologist, she uses esterase to help compensate for the loss of elasticity. So far no success. We are both 73years old. Any suggestions?


Cant win!! My lady is a bit big (and used to be very, very wet) and that with occasional small touch of PE was problematic. But now after 3 1/2 years of injections and some mild VED, it has helped the girth immensely. It is very "full"-filling now (pun intended).

But the age and/or PGE is causing DE now and I've tried a silicone ring to eliminate the PGE, but the unit gets too big (especially he head) and too hard and is very unpleasant for my lady. She actually prefers it at 90%. So I use it intermittently. The injection always works but no ejaculation. Can't win. Keep on experimenting and testing, it's frustrating and fun. Just finish off well.

Re: Known Causes of Anorgasmia

Posted: Tue Sep 22, 2020 11:44 pm
by Stew52
I'd mentioned above that I had a Uro appt upcoming to discuss DE.

First is was a quite superficial even though the PA was the practice's dysfunction expert. But he was earnest. A brief ED/DE history overview, followed by a description of the DE onset.

Did not discuss or question any drug taking (Rx. OTC or recreational) that might have caused or contributed to DE now or in the past (causing damage). Saw in records from my normal Uro that I had marginal Low-T and was being treated to a goodl range,

A brief debrief here.
1. Suggested that good vaginal contact was important:
- suggested small maintenance dose of Cialis to promote penile infusion and growth (was doing this occasionally but now regularly with good benefit),
- did not mention VED and I did not bring it up (which I do moderately several times a week),
- suggested we try different positions to make better contact (doggy, lazy doggy, WOT which doesn't work for me unfortunately)
- suggested partner try inserting a finger in front over the clit and in to tighten contact up (my diameter is pretty ample)
2. Suggested that sufficient lube in an older woman was important (she's still pretty wet and I have a lot of precum), suggested coconut oil which was a big fail as it gets sticky and needs constant renewal; water lubes only (Ed. but beware of numbing agents in them like aloe, even in organic Astroglide)
3. I brought up possibility that TriMix may cause or exacerbate DE, he concurred with trying to reduce dose and try just PGE again, but had no real info.

So that's it. Thank God for FT. Thanks guys for your expertise. More later as the journey continues.