Married but interested in men

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Asquared65
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Married but interested in men

Postby Asquared65 » Thu Jun 09, 2022 11:01 pm

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56 nerve sparing radical cystectomy after diagnosis of Bladder cancer survivor, 2 yr plus. Pills and trimix did not work, VED Plus cialis, working for now. Interested in others experiences in getting implants.

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stmfttr
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Re: Married but interested in men

Postby stmfttr » Fri Jun 10, 2022 12:34 am

A,
Sent a PM.
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77 yo. Married 54years - Coloplast Titan, 22cm and no RTE's - Installed June 2019 Nebraska Medicine Dr. Deibert (urologist/surgeon)
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Leebert
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Re: Married but interested in men

Postby Leebert » Sat Jun 11, 2022 8:16 pm

Actually I have, when im inside my wife I can't feel anything since my implant. Now its been about 3 months since any sex. She's having issues with uti's and eyes and stenosis in jugular and bad headaches, so she's out of commission. I'm finding myself looking more at male solo porn that m/f kind and i can get more stimulation by hand. I've had men earlier on in my marriage and thinking what would it be like again.
I'm 65, heart attack w/stent 10 yrs ago, mod.HBP, married 46 yrs, retired.2 strokes.No damage, except start of Ed, Live in Ada Michigan. implanted by Dr. Wise in Grand Rapids mi. Implanted on 9/2/21 with 15 cm + 5cm rte. Ams 700 cx ms pump

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Re: Married but interested in men

Postby Lost Sheep » Wed Jun 15, 2022 12:59 am

Asquared65 wrote:Just wondering if anyone else on FT is married but interested in the possibility of hooking up with another man? I’m intrigued by the thought of being oral and more with another man. There are some great looking pictures of dicks posted! How easy or difficult is it to hook up with another man? Wanting to learn more.

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A

I believe it is fairly easy to hook up with another man, especially if you don't set your standards too high. (Mostly joking there)

I will caution you that bringing a third person into a relationship can be fraught with danger. Even if the presence of the third is completely unknown to your primary partner, it changes the dynamics of your relationship; because YOU know..

I will also mention that life partners (especially sexual partners) tend to be accepting of their partner's foibles and fantasies. Have you considered talking to your wife about what she enjoys about fellating you? I have spoken to my girlfriend about that. I still don't understand it, but since I never tried it, it is still just a speculation about how the experience would be for me.

I wonder how it would be to bring a penis to erection in my mouth, to feel it prying my jaws apart and to feel the pulsing, squirting hot, thick slick semen into my throat and taste the flavor of it. The closest I come to that is when I go down on my girl and feel her orgasmic response, such as it is; since female orgasms are largely internal, I cannot feel it much. I wish she could articulate better what she feels when she orgasms and when I orgasm into her mouth. Perhaps if you shared your curiosity with your wife, you could learn more from her?

Just an idea that might satisfy your curiosity without the risk of a extra man and one which might deepen and strengthen your relationship with your wife. Or pique her interest in a threesome?

(edited to add these thoughts: Of course, being an implanted man and therefore technically impotent, my penis does not have the ability to spread her jaws apart all by itself. And filling her mouth with expanding girth by pumping up just does not seem to give quite the same affirmation to her as a spontneously growing erection. Yes, a straight man can have such thoughts and curiosities.)
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Re: Married but interested in men

Postby vajim1 » Wed Jun 15, 2022 8:48 am

Well said Lost Sheep, I still think about playing with another guy and rarely watch some gay porn but it does stimulate me and help me orgasm when I have a tough time getting there.
I have not been with a guy since way before getting married but that urge has never left.
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Re: Married but interested in men

Postby jaddxxt » Wed Jul 20, 2022 4:53 pm

I've been married for many years and have been dealing with this ED problem for the last 5 or so. The wife really isn't into sex anymore and since I finally got down the right mix of Trimix and testosterone, I'm horny a lot of the time. In NYC, the gay scene is like it was in the 70's and maybe even worse since there are all these new apps that get you instant access to "dick". My concern would be diseases like Monkeypox and the new strains of gonorrhea that are resistant to antibiotics. Since I'm not getting much or really practically anything at home, I find myself living in fantasy with D/S thoughts which cross over the line of my traditional straight monogamous lifestyle. Don't want to say too much here but PM me if you want to hear more......
65 NYC; ED for 5 yrs.; married in-shape gym junkie; pills no longer work; taking weekly Testosterone shots for libido and using Trimix injections...which are working well, but are a hassle to manage and... to get the timing just right!

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Re: Married but interested in men

Postby Anonymous FT Member » Wed Jul 20, 2022 11:43 pm

jaddxxt wrote:My concern would be diseases like Monkeypox and the new strains of gonorrhea that are resistant to antibiotics.


Yes and more diseases will likely come around. Unfortunately many people have done things to their immune systems in the last couple of years. And everybody knows when your immune system is down, compromised or in some other way altered that's when people tend to get sick.

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Re: Married but interested in men

Postby Happy Toy » Thu Jul 21, 2022 9:48 am

vajim1 wrote:Well said Lost Sheep, I still think about playing with another guy and rarely watch some gay porn but it does stimulate me and help me orgasm when I have a tough time getting there.
I have not been with a guy since way before getting married but that urge has never left.


All of my sex as a teen and early 20's was with guys, it was all oral and hand jobs. Love oral with a guy and know the feeling of taking it in flaccid and it becoming hard in my mouth :P . Got married at 23 and have not had any contact with a dick since then. Wife and I still have sex but she will not do oral :cry: . I have not and will not cheat on her but know that if something were to happen to her I would seek out sex with a man, really do miss it.
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Re: Married but interested in men

Postby jaddxxt » Thu Jul 21, 2022 10:55 am

Same here, Happy Toy....if something were to happen to my other half, I'd get on PrEP, get the Monkeypox vaccine and probably let loose a bit!
65 NYC; ED for 5 yrs.; married in-shape gym junkie; pills no longer work; taking weekly Testosterone shots for libido and using Trimix injections...which are working well, but are a hassle to manage and... to get the timing just right!

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Re: Married but interested in men

Postby Anonymous FT Member » Thu Jul 21, 2022 12:51 pm

jaddxxt wrote:I'd get on PrEP, get the Monkeypox vaccine and probably let loose a bit!


PrEP don't protect from everything you know. Also I wonder what are the long term effects of being on those medications?


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