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Prostate massage: Four questions from a novice

It is becoming clear to me that prostate massage is good for physical health, sexual health and is helpful for connecting with a partner. This brought some questions to my mind.


First question:
As a brand-new practitioner, I wonder whether it is better to be done solo or with one's romantic/sexual partner. I figure that there may be different answers depending on if one's reason for the prostate massage is purely for prostate health (or rehabilitation after a health problem), sexual gratification or relationship growth.

Please discuss (in depth - no pun intended), with a mind to illuminating the reasons for participation of a partner or by yourself.


Second question:
Use of a tool vs finger(s) (yourself or by a partner) Fingers can be rough, but might more easily find/manipulate the prostate. Tools can reach well but (especially used by a partner) may have difficulty finding the right spot. One or the other might be easier to use for the extended period of time it takes to reach a prostate orgasm.

Third question:
How long does it take (number of tries/sessions) to reach a prostate orgasm the first time.

Fourth question:
How long does it take (in minutes) to reach a prostate orgasm (first time and as you gain more experience)? With a partner or by yourself?

Thanks to the couple of men who have been so generous thus far in my education (mostly in private messages).

I am posting this in "General Discussion", "ED and Gay Men" and "Penile Physical Therapy" for better coverage. I will be monitoring all.

Ok, I can help in this department, but 1st let me say, 'To each his own, and whatever floats your boat"
But let me qualify myself. I am not a doctor, but I have a Bachelor's in Psychology. I took Human Sexuality, and that is where I came up with my thinking...gay up top, as in mind and I know who I want to settle down with, but bisexual  below the waist (esp. now with my bionic dick, once I can start using it, lol).
(I tried to quote you to save some typing on my part, but failed miserably. I can sometimes get the quote thing going, other times, I just suck at it and my patience is not there to figure it out).

As a brand-new practitioner, I wonder whether it is better to be done solo or with one's romantic/sexual partner. I figure that there may be different answers depending on if one's reason for the prostate massage is purely for prostate health (or rehabilitation after a health problem), sexual gratification or relationship growth.

Answer to 1st Q: Prostate massage comes in some different forms. In digital, as in your fingers, vibrators, dildos, or an actual cock (gay, bisexual, your call). I have tried them all, and have come across only two that fits me perfectly, one of which is in Spain right now, lol. If you have ever seen the str8 porn movie Deep Throat, you know what I am talking about.I am 56 and know what I like, and its definitely not dildos (I have a bunch here and it does nothing for me).

Second question:
Use of a tool vs finger(s) (yourself or by a partner) Fingers can be rough, but might more easily find/manipulate the prostate. Tools can reach well but (especially used by a partner) may have difficulty finding the right spot. One or the other might be easier to use for the extended period of time it takes to reach a prostate orgasm.
2nd Q: Manipulate the prostate? As far as I know, all you can do is rub against it. When you rub against it, if feels like you want to take a dump./piss. This is precisely why it is hard (no pun) to find the right instrument (again, your call). Too hard, feels uncomfortable, too light, and its 'meh'. too long, etc...

Third question:
How long does it take (number of tries/sessions) to reach a prostate orgasm the first time.
3rd Q: I was able to reach a prostate orgasm only once in my life, and that was way back in my late 20s Never got to find out with the Spain guy.

Fourth question:
How long does it take (in minutes) to reach a prostate orgasm (first time and as you gain more experience)? With a partner or by yourself?
Q4: This can only be answered through trial and error and by you!

I know you did not ask about this, but beforehand, use an enema (I preferably use it an hour before). This avoids any accidents. You will find out why *I* prefer to do it an hour or so beforehand. Do this esp. if you plan on going for a while

Agfa13 wrote:(edited for focus)
I know you did not ask about this, but beforehand, use an enema (I preferably use it an hour before). This avoids any accidents. You will find out why *I* prefer to do it an hour or so beforehand. Do this esp. if you plan on going for a while

Thank you for your thorough and understandable (on a subject that is so subjective) answers.

I did not ask about internal cleansing because I already figured that out. The "ick" factor is one I am sensitive about, so do a thorough wash externally and rinse (anal douche) internally.

I hope your Spanish friend and you are able to have a happy reunion soon.

OH heck no! I wish!

Yeah, the 'ick' factor is a part of life, but hey, you do what you have to do. My best friend has 3 dogs, 1 yapper (Chihuahua) and 2 poodles. HE walks them because if I walk them and have to pick up after them, I start gagging. I still do it, but if I had a choice...
Male or female, if they are dirty, just ruins the mood.

I do want to add to my previous. You will find out what you like, whether fingers, toes, dildoes (with vibes or not), or even cocks (if your bi). Like life, you will just have to go through quite a bit to find out. If you find out fast, great, I am happy for you. If not, join the club, lol

Get yourself one of these:

CalExotics Dr. Joel Kaplan Premium Prostate Massager - Waterproof Vibrating Sex Toys for Couples - Wireless Adult Anal Vibrator - Black

https://www.amazon.com/CalExotics-Kapla ... EKD3RMQ36C

inexpensive and a good workhorse, waterproof, its slender enough and has a good knob on it. It's good to use solo but also with a partner.

The boyracer is absolutely spot on with the suggestion to buy Dr Kaplan's vibrating massager! Yes, it is easy to use, does what you want and is indeed perfect with a partner or solo. Great suggestion!

May I add...use lube! My preference is for silicon, but most people use water-based, which dries out too quickly when you are just doing the prelude stuff. And even quicker when actually playing!

Just found an article today while looking around for info on something else. I am feeling like I did my 1st surgery, so I am flowing backwards.
Read this:
https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a2 ... um-orgasm/

Never heard of it and not in a position (no pun) to try it today.