Gay Male 27, wondering what is like having a MALLEABLE implant

[Italian.98]

Hello everyone!
I’m 27 and developed some degree of ED after taking antidepressants for about a year. I plan to wait another year before deciding whether to get an implant or not, but in the meantime I’d like to gather as much information as possible — just to keep a bit of hope alive.

I’ve been particularly interested in the malleable implant, because the inflatable one seems a bit too mechanical and unnatural to me. I used to have a lot of NSA sex (I was honestly one of the few decent tops in my city before the antidepressants), and I’d really like to get back to that lifestyle. But I just can’t imagine inviting a guy over and then suddenly having to start pumping up my dick in front of him — there’s no way he wouldn’t notice. That’s why I’m curious about the malleable type.

Here are my questions:

1) How discreet is a malleable implant? What are the chances that a guy I hook up with wouldn’t realize it’s artificial? Would he just think, “oh, he got hard just from kissing”? Also, when you have to position it “up,” doesn’t it look obvious that you’re using your hand to make it stand instead of getting hard naturally? How do you guys handle that moment without making it noticeable? Can you do it subtly, like while kissing or undressing

2)How HARD is it, really, on a scale from 1 to 10? My erections used to be around an 8.5 before antidepressants; now, even with meds, I’m about a 6 — which isn’t enough for penetration. Would the implant make me harder than that?

3)What about the glans? How do you guys manage penetration if the head stays somewhat soft? Is that actually a problem, or is it manageable in practice?

My main concern is that, as you probably know, anal penetration requires more rigidity than vaginal sex, so it’s really important to be firm enough.

Honestly guys, I’m just so done with bottoming — I wanna go back to being a TOP again.

[DaveDempsey]

Just some observations from someone who had an inflatable implant last November after 7 years of complete impotence.

Your ED seems to stem from your use of an antidepressant. Before going through irreversible surgery, have you talked about other medication options with your psychiatrist? Can you decrease the dosage so that Cialis or Viagra would be enough to get you hard? Implant surgery is serious. No sex for up to a month while recovering (it's at least tw before you feel healed enough to use it), and the pain is intense. While I'm happy I chose to get an implant, I would never have done so if there were other options for me.

I know very little about malleable implants, but the main downside is loss of erection size post-surgery. It's my understanding that your erection would be the same size as your dangle length, although once installed your dangle length might increase. The inflatable ones are billed as more realistic; whether that's appearance, function, or mechanics, I'm not sure. I imagine with both types of implant you're going to have to get used to the feel, particularly when flaccid.

With the inflatable implants, you don't have to pump up in front of anyone -- you can do it beforehand or excuse yourself before sex and inflate in the bathroom. Once you've climaxed, it really is pretty easy to grab your scrotum discreetly and let some of the fluid out, mimicking the way a penis naturally goes down from an erection. You can even roll over (or do it under the blankets) and give the shaft a squeeze to completely deflate without the other person knowing. No one has actually "discovered" the pump in my scrotum and commented on it, which is something I am self-conscious about. That said, if I had a boyfriend or steady sex partner, I'd want them to know.

I'm pretty sure, all implants are rigid enough for anal penetration, some models more so than others.

Don't worry about the glans. If the implant is done properly there won't be any issues.

You're very young, and this sounds like a common side effect to psychiatric medication. (Another common side effect is the inability to reach orgasm even when your erection and everything else is working properly.) Mental health professionals hear about drug-related sexual problems all the time. That's why they'll keep trying new medication until they find one that works for your brain but doesn't interfere with your junk.

I think most guys here would caution you against getting any kind of implant until you've exhausted all other options. I'm just sharing based on my own experience. Please talk to your doctors (shrink, PCP, and urologist) about these questions. They're good ones and deserve a proper medical explanation.

[Italian.98]

Just some observations from someone who had an inflatable implant last November after 7 years of complete impotence.

Your ED seems to stem from your use of an antidepressant. Before going through irreversible surgery, have you talked about other medication options with your psychiatrist? Can you decrease the dosage so that Cialis or Viagra would be enough to get you hard? Implant surgery is serious. No sex for up to a month while recovering (it's at least tw before you feel healed enough to use it), and the pain is intense. While I'm happy I chose to get an implant, I would never have done so if there were other options for me.

I know very little about malleable implants, but the main downside is loss of erection size post-surgery. It's my understanding that your erection would be the same size as your dangle length, although once installed your dangle length might increase. The inflatable ones are billed as more realistic; whether that's appearance, function, or mechanics, I'm not sure. I imagine with both types of implant you're going to have to get used to the feel, particularly when flaccid.

With the inflatable implants, you don't have to pump up in front of anyone -- you can do it beforehand or excuse yourself before sex and inflate in the bathroom. Once you've climaxed, it really is pretty easy to grab your scrotum discreetly and let some of the fluid out, mimicking the way a penis naturally goes down from an erection. You can even roll over (or do it under the blankets) and give the shaft a squeeze to completely deflate without the other person knowing. No one has actually "discovered" the pump in my scrotum and commented on it, which is something I am self-conscious about. That said, if I had a boyfriend or steady sex partner, I'd want them to know.

I'm pretty sure, all implants are rigid enough for anal penetration, some models more so than others.

Don't worry about the glans. If the implant is done properly there won't be any issues.

You're very young, and this sounds like a common side effect to psychiatric medication. (Another common side effect is the inability to reach orgasm even when your erection and everything else is working properly.) Mental health professionals hear about drug-related sexual problems all the time. That's why they'll keep trying new medication until they find one that works for your brain but doesn't interfere with your junk.

I think most guys here would caution you against getting any kind of implant until you've exhausted all other options. I'm just sharing based on my own experience. Please talk to your doctors (shrink, PCP, and urologist) about these questions. They're good ones and deserve a proper medical explanation.

Hello!
Thank you so much for taking the time to reply! I didn’t really explain my situation thoroughly in my post, so you’re absolutely right not to encourage me to get an implant at such a young age when there are still other options to explore.

Unfortunately, the issue is that I stopped taking antidepressants a while ago, but the sexual side effects have remained. This condition is called PSSD, and there aren’t many studies about it yet — we only know it can last for a few months, or sometimes even for a lifetime.

Like most people affected by PSSD, I don’t respond well to ED medications such as Cialis or Viagra. That’s probably because the problem lies more in neurotransmitters than in blood flow. I also haven’t noticed much improvement with supplements or lifestyle changes. With Cialis, I can get about 60% rigidity, which still isn’t enough.

That said, I’m definitely not rushing into getting an implant. I plan to wait at least another year to see if things improve on their own. I’m just gathering information now because I want to believe that — while I wait — even if my erections don’t recover, there’s still a last bit of hope left.

I’m honestly not sure how I’d feel about having to go to the bathroom to pump up my dick every time I want to have sex. In most cases, it would probably kill the mood; and if it’s with the same guy, it’d feel awkward doing that every single time. And of course, there would be times when I just wouldn’t have a private space to do it at all, such as saunas or car sex or random encounters.

Thanks again for your time and kindness