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hi guys,

next week, I have a date with an old high school crush that I ran into again recently, and all indications are she is open to some intimacy after dinner. Let's just say I have wanted to sleep with this woman for as long as I can remember, and she was the subject of many of my sexual fantasies in those days.

Obviously, I really want this sex to go well, but I am worried about the excitement of being with her will make me climax too soon. And I haven't had sex in a while.

I know all about the techniques and ways to make the evening last longer, but I am looking for some medication to help. I have Cialis, and I have access to some Zoloft, prozac, and Lexapro (don't ask).

I was thinking of taking like 10 mg of Zoloft for the next few days, and then maybe 50 on the day of the date. I was also thinking of 2.5 mg cialis (the daily dose) for the next few days, then my usual 20 mg on the day of the date. I am thinking that the Zoloft will help me hold off, but if I do climax too soon, the cialis will help me get hard again.

Please, no lectures about playing doctor and prescribing to myself. If this date goes well and we get together, I will go to a professional for advice, but I need help now.

GG,
If you care for her so much, why not start out with a little honesty? This is how I started my relationship with the most wonderful woman I've known and I have no regrets.

Best wishes,
Mike

I appreciate the advice, and I may do that.

But I don't really know if his will become a relationship, or one chance to have sex with someone I have desired for a long time.

I've been taking 50mg Setraline(Zoloft) daily for PE and the word is that it takes about a week to start seeing effects. Sometimes it does the job sometimes not. I found that masturbating a day before helped quite a bit. One of the side effects is that Setraline(Zoloft) diminishes libido so I have to be REALLY in the mood. Of course a bit of honesty and openness will take some pressure off.

mikestap wrote:GG,
If you care for her so much, why not start out with a little honesty? This is how I started my relationship with the most wonderful woman I've known and I have no regrets.

Best wishes,
Mike

Absolutely!

I met my girlfriend and was up-front about my impotence. Women are incredibly supportive if they feel trusted, respected and safe. If she runs away from the truth about yourself, you are better off having dodged that bullet.

Now, if all you want is one roll in the hay, I will quote President Harry Truman. "If all a man wants is a little honey on his stinger, then he has a different problem..."

next week, I have a date with an old high school crush that I ran into again recently, and all indications are she is open to some intimacy after dinner. Let's just say I have wanted to sleep with this woman for as long as I can remember, and she was the subject of many of my sexual fantasies in those days.

So, what is it you want from this woman in whom you have invested to much thought? A real relationship that might be truly wonderful or a quick relationship that may or may not be satisfying for one night and blow all your fantasies...and hers?

Since she has already indicated she is receptive to physical intimacy, she will not mind the truth if you are attentive to her needs (and there are many ways a man can attend to a woman's needs). Against that, I did lose a few relationships because I could not "get it up" satisfactorily, but at the time, I was not savvy enough about relationships to have addressed the problem up front. Hence, my advice.

I also point out that one woman told me, when I told her of the practice of masturbating before a date so when I got inside her, my erection would last longer (being the second time in a day). She asked, "Why would you deny me the joy of experiencing your first orgasm?" Of course, she was a gal who liked her lover's orgasms and was willing to stick around through my refractory period. A keeper, she was. Alas, other factors intervened. But that is a different story.

gg1974 wrote:hi guys,

next week, I have a date with an old high school crush that I ran into again recently, and all indications are she is open to some intimacy after dinner. Let's just say I have wanted to sleep with this woman for as long as I can remember, and she was the subject of many of my sexual fantasies in those days.

Obviously, I really want this sex to go well, but I am worried about the excitement of being with her will make me climax too soon. And I haven't had sex in a while.

I know all about the techniques and ways to make the evening last longer, but I am looking for some medication to help. I have Cialis, and I have access to some Zoloft, prozac, and Lexapro (don't ask).

I was thinking of taking like 10 mg of Zoloft for the next few days, and then maybe 50 on the day of the date. I was also thinking of 2.5 mg cialis (the daily dose) for the next few days, then my usual 20 mg on the day of the date. I am thinking that the Zoloft will help me hold off, but if I do climax too soon, the cialis will help me get hard again.

Please, no lectures about playing doctor and prescribing to myself. If this date goes well and we get together, I will go to a professional for advice, but I need help now.

Get a hold of some Promescent or Stud 100 desensitizing spray. Both contain Lidocaine. It works.

NeedleD wrote:Get a hold of some Promescent or Stud 100 desensitizing spray. Both contain Lidocaine. It works.

Probably good to use a condom so the desnsitizing Lidocaine does not make HER desensitized.