Please any advice i ll marry after 2 months only

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Ali34319
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Please any advice i ll marry after 2 months only

Postby Ali34319 » Wed Feb 03, 2021 5:18 am

Iam 30 years old..... My issue is a venous leak it is happened only for 8 months ago. Now i take cials 5 mg daily i have erection but not like before and goes down after seconds. And i get a hard erection only when i have high excitation or when only i masturbate with my hand but when my hands off it goes down after around 40 sec also morning erection is gone ni morning erection :(
Can i marry with my situation also i cant tell my wife about that issue.?
Is there anyone here married with a venous leak and doing well in sex life....?
Anyone tried only penis ring and it success with you.? Not vacc device just only ring
Any advices plz

Lost Sheep
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Re: Please any advice i ll marry after 2 months only

Postby Lost Sheep » Wed Feb 03, 2021 12:24 pm

My advice is: You must not marry if you cannot tell your bride.

You definitely CAN marry and should marry if you love each other.

My reasoning: If your relationship is not strong enough to share important facts about yourself, it is not strong enough to support a "real" marriage. Exception would be if marriage is for reasons other than an intimate relationship (something like they did in the old days "Marriage of Convenience", to combine royal families, prevent wars, combine family fortunes, businesses, etc). If you love this woman, and she loves you, you owe it to her and to yourself to be honest. Secrets within a marriage spell doom.

Women are incredibly supportive and accepting if she feels respected, desired, trusted and safe. Keeping a secret of such importance undermines all those. Trust her.

Also note that good sex can still be had even without a working penis (unless there are religious, legal, moral etc reasons against using your hands, tongue or "toys" to satisfy your wife - and for her to satisfy you).
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phallus
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Re: Please any advice i ll marry after 2 months only

Postby phallus » Wed Feb 03, 2021 1:14 pm

Venous leak can not be cured and there are no effective treatments.
Your old penis is gone.
If i remember correctly, you have serious VL (>10cm/s).
Time to adapt.
Go to your doctor and get injections.
Talk to your wife.
Born 1995
Possibly VL since 16.
Experimenting with PGE1 injections
which occasionally works too good and other times,
too poorly. Confusing situation.

Nadie123
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Re: Please any advice i ll marry after 2 months only

Postby Nadie123 » Wed Feb 03, 2021 6:54 pm

I suppose they have not had sex, therefore she is not aware of the situation ... You should tell yourself what is happening with total sincerity, if you think you do not have the courage to do it (I understand because I am also young and it is not "normal" to have erectile dysfunction at our age) try things, viagra, diets, daily cialis and try intercourse, there is no choice, unfortunately
25 -year-old Colombian ... Psychological ED for life, I use viagra spontaneously with ex cellent results, it stopped working and developed a leak ... cialis + viagra work halfway in one position hate mi life but I am struggling to get an implant

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Re: Please any advice i ll marry after 2 months only

Postby Txagq8 » Wed Feb 03, 2021 11:36 pm

It all boils down to maturity and courage.

I told my son and other kids from single mom household that”adopted” me as a male role model (my wife was a teacher) that if they could not walk into a store and buy condoms they were nowhere near mature and responsible enough to have sex.

If you can’t honestly share the fact you are dealing with E D with your bride to be you have no business marrying. If you tell her the truth, and let’s be real....E D is highly treatable, it’s not a stage IV terminal cancer of the everything.....so it’s not a sentence to no sex without parole.

Conquering it (E D) is easier with love, cooperation, and moral support from wife. If she rejects you because of it, you’re beter off finding out now than in a year or two when you catch her in bed with three of your best friends and a pony.
Robust, adolescent 65 year old. Venous leakage forever. Used shots, shots+pills 30+ years. Married to same wife ~35 yrs. Implanted 31Dec2019 in Austin Tx. AMS 700 LGX 18 cm with 5 cm RTE.


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