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Rmezgo1025 wrote:Greetings everyone,

I come to you man to man, humbly seeking
advice for my ED battle and hope to help a few
guys on the way with my story.
no need to be humble here. Every one here has gone thru the same thing. Our partners the same.

I am 56 years old
and have been battling this for the past 5 years.
I have tried a multitude of 'T' supplements and
have also tried viagra and cialis without success.
I've read that ED triggers anxiety after the first
episode and that level of anxiety can multiply GREATLY
every time I even anticipate having sex with my wife...
Really?? How can I stop this viscous circle??
My wife told me that she can feel my anxiety
In bed now... Now we are both anxious before sex!!
This sucks.
I'm in relatively good shape for my age although
could lose 15-20 pounds and trying to focus more
on my core.
About 18 months ago I had lumbar fusion on three
vertabraes in my low back about a year ago.
Prior to the surgery I was on 50 of mg oxycodone
for about 5 months to control pain; while I was
still working. I completed the surgery and after a
VERY painful 12 week recovery I returned to work
completely off ALL pain meds!! I've never taken
a lot of medication. I now only take nexium for
acid reflux.
Realizing that stress and anxiety can trigger ED
I started daily weight training with mild cardio
to get in better physical shape and control stress.
My wife is beautiful and very attractive.
Now she blames her self for my inability to get or
maintain a strong erection like I did less than five
years ago. We talked recently and I explained to
her that this was entirely an issue of my own and
only asked her for her patience and support to
help me identify the problem and seek some answers.
My wife is very supportive but always blames
herself over time. Like most couples suffering with
ED, 'We only want to get our sex life back!'
Even half as strong and frequent would be satisfactory!!
Before my surgery, I discussed my ED issues with my
family doctor. We ran labs and he told me my T levels
were normal for my age (300?) but my blood pressure
was bordering high. He basically told me I was fine
and in great physical health and that I needed to to
stop worrying so much... Really doc??
I've also read that a lot of literature on blood flow
to the penis, the small penile arteries, blockage,
etc. In relation, I also read that there could be
heart related issues and related arteries that
could be blocked, causing blood flow issues
throughout, etc. sheesh...
NOW, all this said, I am now preparing to get
a second medical opinion from another family
Doctor and also getting new labs, and scheduling
to see a Urologist. I will also see a cardiologist
Just for safe measure. I AM DESEPERATE for an
answer to my ED! My wife is sweet and supportive
although this problem has brought a lot of question
In to our relationship. I simply cannot, WILL NOT
back down until I have found a healthy solution.
Honesty most family docs do not shit about ED. When you look for a uro find on that specialize in mens reproductive health, some one that is current in latest produres to cure it.
I am open to any comments. Fire away and thanks
for having the courage to open this MUCH NEEDED
forum! Sorry for the novel...

Oh it novel. Explore the differant boards, ask questions, read stories, get to know people.

Start researching and discussing an implant now. That is the final cure. Here is the kicker for insurance to pay you have to have documentation that the,pills, pumps and injections can not or did not work,


Loose all modesty and any hangups about talking about your dick other people seeing and touching it. Your wife needs also, most of the medical staff are nurses they see them all day
Please create a signiture on user profile. Look at other signatures for example

Rmez

radioradio wrote:Rmezgo,

Welcome to Frank Talk. I hope you find it as helpful as I have. It is a wonderful resource. As Hugh said, we've all experienced this in our own ways. ED is shitty and the effects it can have on our relationships and mental/emotional health are huge. You're to be commended for facing up to this reality and making the decision to go to battle against it. And you're fortunate to have an understanding and supportive wife. It is not easy for partners, either.

Best advice has already been given -- seek out a great urologist who specializes in male reproductive issues. I don't see the need to find a new family doctor. From personal experience, I can also say it is very easy for your world to now revolve around your dick; as easy as it is for that to happen, it's unfair to your wife and may get in the way of her continued support. I didn't come up with this observation -- my wife did.

My wife tell me exact samething

You have an "interesting" path before you with lots of options and decisions. Please lean on us here at FT, both by reading our posts, and by asking questions -- either by posting or sending private messages (PM's).

Best wishes for a successful outcome.

Bob 2.2

scgunslingers wrote:Hello I am a new member, but a long time reader.
I have a question about trimix injections. It seems that I achieve better results injecting into the right side of my penis than injections to the left side. Has anyone else had this problem? If so what is the correction to be made? Thanks for any and all comments.

scgunslingers wrote: It seems that I achieve better results injecting into the right side of my penis than injections to the left side. Has anyone else had this problem? If so what is the correction to be made?

wstephens3 wrote:Hope I'm doing this right-- if not kick me off and tell me how to what I'm supposed to. Anyhow this is me-- 84 years old---hey, time flies when you're having fun! Beautiful and luscious wife--we've been together 64 years! I had surgery in 1994 and radiation treatment as a follow up a couple of years later for slowly rising PSA. She and I keep trying!`--no way are we giving up yet!!