New Member - Loss of Sensation

[Ross400]

I am a new member to FrankTalk. I have experienced a loss of pleasure sensation following treatment for in 2016 prostate cancer (androgen, external radiation, brachytherapy) and subsequent treatment in 2020 for radiation scarring (urethroplasty). I have also had an implant. Multiple urologists have told me that the cause is multifactorial - the original disease and all the treatments cumulatively - and that there is no remedy for this condition. Seeking thoughts and guidance from others who may have experienced this situation: how to navigate this loss? how to manage the deep feeling of deprivation?

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[Ross400]

This is a complete loss of pleasure sensation (not pain, though, as surgeon explained, pain nerves are more important -protective-than pleasure nerves). This presented after recovery from urethroplasty, but before implant (which I had misguided belief might help restore some sensation). I am married (42 years) and this has had a significant complication to that relationship, which we are also now trying to navigate.

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[Cernfan]

Take it from me, one who works in the medical field in the field of pain management, nerves take many years to recover from trauma. You may find that your pleasure sensations begin to return and bud new sensory nodules as time goes by. For example, sometimes after spinal surgery, the nerves may take up to three years or more before they begin to reconnect with sensation in some areas. The nerves for pleasure in the penis run very close to the skin so I am hopeful for you that in the years to come your pleasure will return. Try to be patient but reassure yourself that they will return. You may even find heightened sensation in some areas of your penis that are new to you. Please don't give up hope. I have seen nerves regenerate themselves. I think yours can too.

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[Never_Enough]

This is a complete loss of pleasure sensation (not pain, though, as surgeon explained, pain nerves are more important -protective-than pleasure nerves). This presented after recovery from urethroplasty, but before implant (which I had misguided belief might help restore some sensation). I am married (42 years) and this has had a significant complication to that relationship, which we are also now trying to navigate.

Just something in trying to understand from people with the Psycological effect of sexual dysfunction.

In what way has it had a significant effect on the relationship?

[Martin6469]

Ross: While your nerves are coming back, you might do what my wife and I do: dildo play.

Hopefully this will satisfy her somewhat in the interim.

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[Spontaneous1]

I'm glad I have the understanding, wise, and loving one. She's always #1 in my world, and I am in hers.