Use your Tongue

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?
Norman
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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby Norman » Wed Dec 28, 2011 11:35 am

When my erections were getting weaker, I needed something to get me more aroused so my penis would engorge with more blood. I started going down on my wife's pussy, tickling her clit with the tip of my tongue, then following up with a tongue massage by licking her clit with the flat top of the tongue. All of that really got her stimulated and shortly she was pressing her clit hard against my tongue and undulating her pussy to get the most pleasure. That all started her flowing too, so her pussy got nice and wet and slippery. Meanwhile the excitement of it got my penis very stiff, and with her lubrication I was able to slide my penis all the way in. Now its a regular activity and we really get some good fucking.

trimix60
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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby trimix60 » Wed Dec 28, 2011 2:54 pm

Sounds like a really good path to go down, great you are having a good time and I am glad you figured out something that works for you !!!! that would work for me also :-)

Cheers

acer55
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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby acer55 » Tue May 01, 2012 8:52 am

any recommendations getting a hesitant wife to allow this? my wife has never allowed me to "go down". a deep rooted hang up i guess? i feel like we are both missing out. any suggestions?

antelope
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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby antelope » Tue May 01, 2012 9:43 am

I'm no expert, but here are my thoughts.

She needs to be relaxed. Start with a glass of wine and lots of cuddling--before you get to the bedroom. Avoid "slam bam lick you ma'am" at all costs. A woman's body has numerous errogenous zones besides her crotch. Explore them gently in creative ways using your lips, tongue, and fingers. Try massage oil (warming and tingling). Let her know how you feel about her--and her fabulous body--with verbal and non-verbal cues. By the time you work your way down to the Golden Triangle, she should become receptive to this amazing sexual phenomenon. Don't expect a home run the first time and don't give up. Utlimately, she'll be glad you were persistent.

Best wishes.

G
Born 1948, wed 1969. BPH & Type II Diabetes at age 35. TURP-2002; ED even before that--diabetes. Cardiac valve surgery: 2007 & 2019. Poor results with pills. Started trimix injections in Nov, 2010. Great results from the very beginning.

MIDBOB293
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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby MIDBOB293 » Tue Jul 10, 2012 11:36 am

Acer55: Just a suggestion - We rented an x rated adult video as just kidding around and found that watching it while having a drink changed the mood into a more relaxed and erotic evening. Since then we usually use this as a prelude to going to bed to screw around. Seeing the videos with a lot of licking and sucking as well as intercourse, has greatly made my wife more comfortable with doing everything we see on the video. It is just us and it works for us. Good luck. I am interested to hear if she ever came around to allowing you to satisfying her orally.
Had external beam radiation and brachytherapy 2010 with some ED soon after. Viagra works, Some loss of sensation at times but overall sex has returned We are very oral and that helps a lot.

reynell
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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby reynell » Sun Aug 05, 2012 6:24 am

I agree
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trimix60
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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby trimix60 » Sun Aug 05, 2012 9:20 am

reynell wrote:Oh boy yes! MY wife loves to squat over my face :D on one knee. I lick her cunt while i play with her nipples or tickle her belly with one hand. I slowly lube the thumb of my other hand (to build the suspence) and slowly rim and then (only partially) enter her ass. She wont do anal so i dont go all the way in. This drives her NUTS ! I can make myself cum at the same time without even touching myself. :o I can get her to scream every time !!!



Wow, sounds like both of you have figured out the ultimate two way sex where both of you win !!! I hate it when your partner is just like a log while you try and please.

Good for you !!!!!

MIDBOB293
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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby MIDBOB293 » Sat Aug 18, 2012 10:42 am

Trimix: Tried to send you a mesage but not sure it got through. In any event wanted to comment that your process is similar to mine with my wife and without the tongue susytem, i would not have much going for me. Bob
Had external beam radiation and brachytherapy 2010 with some ED soon after. Viagra works, Some loss of sensation at times but overall sex has returned We are very oral and that helps a lot.

flagman
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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby flagman » Sun Sep 02, 2012 11:07 pm

As a mature man, I find I enjoy pleasing my partner as much as myself. Yes, the tongue. I start with mouth kisses, no tongue... move to breasts. I change techniques like gentle flicking but also use my tongue to trace shapes over her nipples... stars, circles, zigzags... When I head down... I do not pretend that I can give a woman an O. Rather I am the motor but she is the driver. I free her to move her hips to control the action. I alternate long licks with flicking here also.
I LIKE pleasuring my partner... sometimes I get lost in pleasing her. I can even lose focus on myself... temporary loss of erection... not to panick. Laying on my belly pleasuring her is more comfortable without a stiff erection jammed into the mattress. If it was there in the first place, he'll come back with TLC when it's his turn.
It's second hand knowledge but my partners have all indicated they throughly enjoyed themselves. My current wife, prefers to cut the action short & finish with intercourse (sometimes a mutual O... or at least close togeher). This is a mixed blessing... if the pressure hits just the right spot (the head) then I can cum rather quickly... if not I can go to exhaustion & not get there. If SHE has had an extensive O, she may not be recovered enough to squeeze to put pressure there.
51 with Secondary Progressive Multiple Sclerosis (since 2002)...

cannonfield
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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby cannonfield » Sat May 18, 2013 8:27 am

Oh my goodness! And I have always thought the tongue was made for licking ice creams!


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