Use your Tongue

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?
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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby birdhunter » Sat Jun 01, 2013 3:06 am

May I jump in? I'm new and just getting acquainted with issues and comments by you fellows. About the tongue, I'm a devout practitioner as is my wife (her lips too). I'm 76yo, soon 77 (Aug 10), and my wife is 16 years younger. She's a hot little red head, an RN, Masters in Public Health and Ph.D. in health systems research, and I'm a medically retired psychotherapist. Her research interests are centered in health risks: STD, HIV, and AIDS, among stimulant users -- specifically SEX in its glory. We've been married 16-years and I'm enjoying the best years of my life -- even if I'm getting older. My ED came along slowly at first, then sped up in recent years.
There's nothing hampering my wife's libido -- which helps me greatly. I stay horny most of the time. So, now about "the tongue."
When my erections lessened but still functional, I became more attentive and gave my wife lots of oral loving. She appreciated that, and reciprocated gladly. Fact is, my wife savors "cum" and she wants every bit I can provide. I'm still able to produce cum, but not as much as in years past. I welcome any helpful guidance y'all might give.
I believe any man can learn to please his partner unless he tends to bite tender flesh. That's a real downer when engaged in good sex.
So, any suggestions toward more ejaculate volume and greater frequency will be greatly appreciated.
Thanks, birdhunter (one word, not hyphenated).

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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby trimix60 » Sat Jun 01, 2013 6:11 pm

I had a RP a little over two years ago and now engaged to the love of my life that is 25 years younger than me, I am 62 and she is 37 :-)

I have been dealing with ED since my RP and I have found that the "Tongue" is very important for the sexual satisfaction of my honey.... :D

We are working through my ED issues and making progress...but what I have discovered is that the "Tongue" is such a great tool to help with partner satisfaction !!!

My goal is to satisfy my partner and matter what it takes on my part. I have found that the act of stimulating her with my tongue actually makes me hard....what a great thing !!! a "Win-Win" situation :mrgreen:

Cheers !!!


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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby cwatt1 » Thu Jul 11, 2013 2:37 pm

My wife says using my tongue doesn't do anything for her. I have to use my fingers to get her off if I can't finish inside her. Anyone else have that issue?
Now on trimix --
alprostadil 20, phentolamine 2, papaverine 30

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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby ontopher469 » Mon Sep 02, 2013 7:03 pm

I’m a frequent visitor to the Chat Room. I’m surprised that most men apparently do not give (afraid to give) their partner oral stimulation using their tongue on her clitoris. They think using a finger will get the job done. Yet, these men expect their partner to give them oral. These men also generally think using a finger is adequate. Most of these men also say that their partners do not reach orgasm.

I have read many articles by sex therapists on the Internet and they all say women SELDOM reach orgasm WITHOUT oral stimulation of the clitoris or G-spot. The vast majority of men know little about satisfying their partners. They primary concern is ejaculating. Once their semen flows, sex is over!

Upon reading of the pitiful comments above, the responders obviously are reluctant to use their tongue on their partner’s clitoris. Yet, they expect their partner to suck their dick. Bambi’s intelligent comment was the best, i.e., “True, that”. I have no idea what the ‘f___’ that means!

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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby ontopher469 » Sun Oct 06, 2013 7:18 pm

Hi Flagman,

I’m 71 and have weekly sex with my wife. I use Edex injections. My weekly events with my wife are virtually identical with yours. The vast majority of men on FT think that oral sex is only for their wives to perform on the man, not the other way around. That’s the reason most older women nolonger want sex because the man doesn’t take her to orgasm, i.e., clitoris oral. EVERY MAN on FT needs to read your story!!!!!!

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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby ontopher469 » Sun Oct 13, 2013 8:01 pm

Skip the BS about alcohol (depressant), porno flicks and looking for erogenous zones. Read the great pieces above by Flagman and Norman. Both are right on the money. My weekly sex with my wife (74) are exactly the same and I (71) get the same results.

Start out by kissing her on the mouth, then the breasts. Next, I spread her legs, rub the insides of her thighs, cover the breasts some more and then finally get to the vagina. I start by carefully uncovering the clitoris, rubbing it very lightly and start French kissing. Once the clitoris starts to swell and gets wet, I alternate licking her juices from my finger and insert my wet finger into her mouth as well. We like this!

When her breathing starts getting heavy, I go down on her vagina. I’m on my stomach coming up between her legs. I alternate between sucking, licking and flicking her clitoris with my tongue. Within a short period, she does into a MAJOR orgasm. I continue sucking, licking and flicking until I get the desired orgasm I want. Then, I lubricate my dick and DRIVE it into her vagina, usually while she’s on top. I prefer this position because I can make her come down on me hard driving my dick into the bottom of her pussy.

What’s great about getting her started on her orgasm first is because I can then do anything I want with her, i.e., lick her wet pussy after my ejaculation, have her suck my wet dick while I lick her, etc.

Most men on FT think oral is what the wife is supposed to do to the man. Men also think women get orgasms while he’s having vaginal sex. This rarely happens! If you don’t believe Flagman and Norman, check out on Google what it takes to make a woman orgasm.

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Re: Use your Tongue

Postby WoodyJohn » Sun Dec 08, 2013 9:10 pm

Fingers also are quite useful in this... :mrgreen:

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