What To Do? You Like Erotic Sex and Your Wife is Plain Vanilla

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?

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Re: What To Do? You Like Erotic Sex and Your Wife is Plain Vanilla

Postby justanotherdrumber » Mon Mar 26, 2018 8:35 pm

A mismatch in libido , while never a good thing; is not the same thing as "Erotic Sex" vs: "Vanilla Sex" .

Vanilla sex is like Missionary position intercourse in the home bedroom. Ho-humm ...

Erotic [Kinky] Sex is like Multiple position intercourse; while swinging from the chandelier; her dressed as a Senioretta and you dressed as a Spanish Cowboy. Yee-haw ..... !

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Re: What To Do? You Like Erotic Sex and Your Wife is Plain Vanilla

Postby dotcom » Mon Mar 26, 2018 11:37 pm

hturner12 wrote:Newtoed
I fully agree. In some ways the ED is worst on them. We can get it up or stay hard they think it them. The loose intresest start thinking why try it will not result anything happening. We get fixed by what ever means. Our lbdio comes back or get stronger because we know we can perform now. However on their side the have accepted no sex, their mind has been conditioned to not need sex anymore since any attemp will end in failure. Some overcome it some dont

I fully agree!
I had psycological ED for many years, when I was younger, I could have ED for several weeks, then was able to overcome and for several months sex was fine... then again same story. But when I became older (late 40's), it became more and more difficult to overcome ED. I used Viarga, Levitra, Cialis.....no help. Lately, I started penile injections and now mostly I have erection after injection.... but my wife kinda lost interest in sex. When I try to initiate sex, she telling that I'm "concerned too much about sex".
Last 2-3 years, the only places we had really wild sex , was in Desire (LS friendly resort in Cancun). At this resort many couple have sex everywhere anytime, as this place have a huge sexual vibe.
51 y.o. , married 23 years, Toronto,ON. Have performance anxiety. Dr. Aquino from Ontario Men's Health prescribed injections of
1. mix of papaverine 17.5, chlorpromazin 1.923, atropine 0.23 (total 0.09 cc) and 2. 0.91cc PGE1 alprostadil

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Re: What To Do? You Like Erotic Sex and Your Wife is Plain Vanilla

Postby CTR5000 » Mon Mar 26, 2018 11:59 pm

I once heard a simple explanation for the differences between Erotic Sex and Kinky Sex. It's easy to remember because there aren't many variables involved:

Erotic Sex is when you use a feather.

Kinky Sex is when you use the entire chicken!
Name: Colin - Legally married gay male - suffered with Venous Leakage since my mid-30's - AMS 700 LGX (Length-Girth-eXpansion!) Inflatable Penile Implant "installed?!" April, 2015 - I should've done it YEARS ago!!

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Re: What To Do? You Like Erotic Sex and Your Wife is Plain Vanilla

Postby justanotherdrumber » Tue Mar 27, 2018 12:11 am

CTR5000 wrote:I once heard a simple explanation for the differences between Erotic Sex and Kinky Sex. It's easy to remember because there aren't many variables involved:

Erotic Sex is when you use a feather.

Kinky Sex is when you use the entire chicken!

Using the whole chicken is Beastiality !
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Re: What To Do? You Like Erotic Sex and Your Wife is Plain Vanilla

Postby Larry10625 » Tue Mar 27, 2018 6:57 am

dg_moore wrote:My wife is a master of "the look." I don't see "the look" very often, but I'm sure if I were to suggest any amorous activity she would unleash it.



Is that the Care Bear Stare?? :lol: :lol: :lol:

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Re: What To Do? You Like Erotic Sex and Your Wife is Plain Vanilla

Postby Minnscooter » Fri Apr 06, 2018 7:57 am

hate to say it but you get use to it..I stopped having sex and using trimix as I was only getting Duty sex less than once a month ( with the answer " We just did that" if I wanted more often) ..started in her later 50's and I gave up when she was about 60..she's 74 now and I'm almost 71..if I'm fantasizing now it's about jerking off
70 MM married 48 years, live in Minnesota type 2 diabetes caused ed in my 40's went on trimix with great results but when wife had menopause sex got less and less so just wasn't cost effective so no sex since 2002.

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Re: What To Do? You Like Erotic Sex and Your Wife is Plain Vanilla

Postby adbass » Mon Apr 09, 2018 10:28 am

My wife and I went together for 2 years in high school and got married soon after graduation. We’ve been married for over 51 years now. At first we had a vigorous sex life. Then boredom seemed to set in. We attended a couple of orgies and enjoyed them but felt it might be too dangerous for our relationship. We have both had a couple of flings in our life and enjoyed them as well. (We even use the experiences as fantasies when having sex to this day) Then in my 40’s I just lost interest in sex. She still was horny but I wasn’t interested. It wasn’t until I had a blood test during a physical exam that it was discovered that my testosterone level was extremely low. I started on testosterone therapy and my libido came back with a vengeance.
Then several problems cropped up. With so little sexual activity for such a long time, my wife’s libido was now low. Plus, ED almost immediately set in. Viagra worked…then didn’t. Cialis never did. Levitra worked, then didn’t. Bi-mix worked, then didn’t. Tri-mix worked, then didn’t. Titan implanted Oct. 2017. Wow. Everything is working well now, except my wife! And, well, I’m at fault also. She isn’t as enthusiastic about sex, or when once a month she is, I’m not! We try to have sex at least once every two weeks, but we’re usually so worn out by day’s end that we have trouble meeting our goal. (We have a large property to care for…too large!)
We have discussed swinging to boost our enthusiasm level and spice things up and at this point in our lives it wouldn’t be a danger to our relationship. But after attending a swingers club and meeting with one couple, we decided it might be too late in life to play the game.
Any other suggestions on improving sexy-time? (We've discussed downsizing as we know we can't run this place forever!) But, in the meantime...
69 yo ED for 12 yrs. Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, Bi-Mix, Tri-Mix, Implant!! 10/2016
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Re: What To Do? You Like Erotic Sex and Your Wife is Plain Vanilla

Postby Larry10625 » Mon Apr 09, 2018 10:43 am

adbass wrote:My wife and I went together for 2 years in high school and got married soon after graduation. We’ve been married for over 51 years now. At first we had a vigorous sex life. Then boredom seemed to set in. We attended a couple of orgies and enjoyed them but felt it might be too dangerous for our relationship. We have both had a couple of flings in our life and enjoyed them as well. (We even use the experiences as fantasies when having sex to this day) Then in my 40’s I just lost interest in sex. She still was horny but I wasn’t interested. It wasn’t until I had a blood test during a physical exam that it was discovered that my testosterone level was extremely low. I started on testosterone therapy and my libido came back with a vengeance.
Then several problems cropped up. With so little sexual activity for such a long time, my wife’s libido was now low. Plus, ED almost immediately set in. Viagra worked…then didn’t. Cialis never did. Levitra worked, then didn’t. Bi-mix worked, then didn’t. Tri-mix worked, then didn’t. Titan implanted Oct. 2017. Wow. Everything is working well now, except my wife! And, well, I’m at fault also. She isn’t as enthusiastic about sex, or when once a month she is, I’m not! We try to have sex at least once every two weeks, but we’re usually so worn out by day’s end that we have trouble meeting our goal. (We have a large property to care for…too large!)
We have discussed swinging to boost our enthusiasm level and spice things up and at this point in our lives it wouldn’t be a danger to our relationship. But after attending a swingers club and meeting with one couple, we decided it might be too late in life to play the game.
Any other suggestions on improving sexy-time? (We've discussed downsizing as we know we can't run this place forever!) But, in the meantime...



You are probably going to have to downsize anyway some day. You have a good reason NOW. How is your testosterone level? How is your wife's estrogen level? Maybe try seeing a sex therapist... The same thing happened to my wife and I but I think she is going through the change because for many years I was lucky to get it once a month and now we are back to 3 or 4 times a week. Maybe try having sex in the morning while you both are well rested and in bed anyway. Hope this helps. :)

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Re: What To Do? You Like Erotic Sex and Your Wife is Plain Vanilla

Postby adbass » Mon Apr 09, 2018 6:14 pm

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color=#FFFF40]You are probably going to have to downsize anyway some day. You have a good reason NOW. How is your testosterone level? How is your wife's estrogen level? Maybe try seeing a sex therapist... The same thing happened to my wife and I but I think she is going through the change because for many years I was lucky to get it once a month and now we are back to 3 or 4 times a week. Maybe try having sex in the morning while you both are well rested and in bed anyway. Hope this helps. :)
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Larry: Testoterone levels are now normal and have been since the implant. Don't know about wife. She had a hysterectomy in her early 30's so that could be something to check out. It's not that she's cold or anything, and we love each other very much. When she's in the mood, she is as good as it gets. Likes to give oral but not receive. Likes toys and has multiple orgasms. Is bi-sexual, but hasn't had a partner in many years and says it was a passing thing she's not wanting to revisit. I thought it was hot!!
Problem with downsizing is we have a daughter, her husband and grandson who live in a separate house on our mini-farm. We are very close and babysit a lot since they own a couple of businesses. Nice to help them out, but keeps us very busy.
We just seem to be exhausted so much of the time. Wife's a dynamo and doesn't hit the kill switch until 8:00-9:00 or later each night. I'm more laid back...so probably more time to think :D Maybe I need a tranquilizer dart gun :D
69 yo ED for 12 yrs. Viagra, Cialis, Levitra, Bi-Mix, Tri-Mix, Implant!! 10/2016
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Re: What To Do? You Like Erotic Sex and Your Wife is Plain Vanilla

Postby Larry10625 » Mon Apr 09, 2018 6:24 pm

adbass wrote:[
color=#FFFF40]You are probably going to have to downsize anyway some day. You have a good reason NOW. How is your testosterone level? How is your wife's estrogen level? Maybe try seeing a sex therapist... The same thing happened to my wife and I but I think she is going through the change because for many years I was lucky to get it once a month and now we are back to 3 or 4 times a week. Maybe try having sex in the morning while you both are well rested and in bed anyway. Hope this helps. :)
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Larry: Testoterone levels are now normal and have been since the implant. Don't know about wife. She had a hysterectomy in her early 30's so that could be something to check out. It's not that she's cold or anything, and we love each other very much. When she's in the mood, she is as good as it gets. Likes to give oral but not receive. Likes toys and has multiple orgasms. Is bi-sexual, but hasn't had a partner in many years and says it was a passing thing she's not wanting to revisit. I thought it was hot!!
Problem with downsizing is we have a daughter, her husband and grandson who live in a separate house on our mini-farm. We are very close and babysit a lot since they own a couple of businesses. Nice to help them out, but keeps us very busy.
We just seem to be exhausted so much of the time. Wife's a dynamo and doesn't hit the kill switch until 8:00-9:00 or later each night. I'm more laid back...so probably more time to think :D Maybe I need a tranquilizer dart gun :D



Ok, try morning sex when you are fresh as a daisy. :)

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51 years old, married 29 years. Implanted Mar 30/17 by Dr. Brock of London, Ont, CANADA. (AMS 700 CX 18 + 2). Had implant removed Apr 29/17 due to Septic Shock. Liposuction By Dr. Gan and re-implant by Dr. Brock (AMS LGX 15 + 2) Dec 14/17.


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