After having read my predecessors' posts on this thread, my post may seem redundant. Their thoughts were so thorough and complete.
I'm going to say things my way and hope they contribute something.
My first marriage lasted 27 years, produced 2 children. Some crucial element(s) was(were) always missing. We could never get it to work. Even though we loved each other, every day was like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. With great pain, I divorced my first wife. I have never been able to fully identify exactly what was wrong with the marriage; we both tried very hard to make it work.
My second wife and I have been a couple for 28 years, married for 23 years, this year. We are both in our 70's. (Our marriage is also her second.)
About 2 years after I met my wife, I began to fully realize who and what she was. She was a Divine gift. I had never experienced Joy, a Divine emotion, until I met her.We're different people but inseparably close, a bonded, binary soul. We have some ultra-important things in common that bind Us like a weld:
> We both wanted to be in-love with someone when we were very young. It was a life goal for both of us. I enunciated this clearly to my parents when I was 5 years old; they did not understand me, could not comprehend that a 5 year old boy could say or want such things.
> We both love our romance. It and our marriage are the most cherished things in our lives.
> We love each other completely.
> We trust each other completely.
> We always communicate fully and completely, at all times, under all circumstances.
> We have no secrets from each other nor from the world.
> We live squeaky clean lives.
In spite of the above list, having wonderful things in common is not enough to recreate what we have. More is required. If you want an incredible marriage/relationship, do the things I/We do:
> Create your relationship as a romance.
> Make your marriage and your romance the most important things in your life. Let nothing be more important nor interfere with them.
> Love your wife. Love her more than you love yourself. Deny her nothing. Offer her everything.
> Talk to her. Tell her how and what you feel. Share yourself and your experience of living with her.
> Make your sex life your love life. Make sex a simultaneous expression of passion, lust, and love. Create this expression of your love as a Divine experience. If it is wonderful enough, you will know that it is Divine, for only God could create something so wonderful.
> I have made it my life's work to make and keep my wife happy, in an endless state of Joy and ecstasy. Doing this has made my experience of living indescribably wonderful.
It would be a serious understatement to merely say that we love each other dearly. I have struggled to find the right words to describe Us for years. I don't think they exist.
I can only say that my experience of Us, of loving her, has been Divine. Only God could have made something so wonderful as Us and the love we share. After 28 years, we are still very much in-love with each other, a phenomenon that usually only lasts 2-3 years from its inception. (Prior research said 2-3 years, 7 years at most. More recent research has studied the phenomenon of long term romantic, being in-love relationships: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/thriving101/201102/brain-study-reveals-secrets-staying-madly-in-love
. Yes, people can stay in-love, like us, for decades.)
My experience of being in-love with my wife could be described as a non-stop, emotional intoxication. I am high all the time about her, about having her in my life, about having her as my wife, about being her lover, friend, and confidant, about the miracle that she has a body that I can touch, and that she enthusiastically wants me to ravish. I never stop telling her how much I love her (because I can't stop), how beautiful she is, how much I adore her and her body. I cannot keep my hands off of her. I touch her every chance I get. I love every moment I am with her, even if it is just to lay beside her at night to sleep.
My wife is the Great Miracle of my life and I will forever thank God for giving her to me.
What I just shared with you is far beyond happy. It is Joy.One last thing to share with you:
We may be telepathic, for lack of a better term to describe what we experience. We both know this and experience it the same way, but don't know how to explain or describe the phenomenon. All I can tell you is that We are always connected to each other, no matter the distance between Us. We always know what the other is thinking and feeling, and always feel each other's love.
, thank you for your post. Your post and this forum have given me the opportunity to tell the world the absolute truth about our marriage and our love affair, something I have wanted to do for years.
The experiences of Joy, Love, lust, the wonderful and insatiable cravings we have for each other physically and spiritually, and all the other things We share for which there are no words, I wish for everyone who wants them. They, our romance, and our marriage, are the crowning pinnacle of our lives.