touble getting wife on board

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?

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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby Anonymous3 » Thu Feb 15, 2018 5:49 am

If last night was any indication, may not have to look out side. We had another round of talks/arguements. She still refuses to touch the pump thinks it gross. Does not fully understand why I got an implant.
Normally the talks end up just in an arguement, but last night ended up in some of tge best sex I have had in a while. If it last just on a weekly basis for now would be happy.

It was lets fuck type of sex. I explained to her that we are both still learning about and how to use my new dick and she has to tell me what she likes does not like if she needs it firmer or softer. She did last night. I did have to deflate a little. We went extremely slow at first then progress to ball slapping speed half way thru slowed down ans inflated a little more still while still in her slowed way back down to let her make sure was ok with me a little bigger. She was trying to hold off till I came ,but I convinced her it was not necessary. She came first, then right afterwards I did. Was not the dribble I normally do. She said I filled her up with cum.We had to stop at that point I pulled out slow and I was so senstive coming out actual got a little weak in the knees.I also hit her cervix a couple of times never did that before.

To all the other guys have similar problems. Talk , listen, go slow. One thing she said last night made me think I should have gone AMS instead of Titan she wishes I was more natural. She said my shape has changed, the feel has changed. I am total different now. We have to remember the ED fucked with them just as bad if not worse than it did us. For them it 100% mental they can't satisfy us they dont excite us.

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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby dg_moore » Thu Feb 15, 2018 7:44 am

When I had healed from the surgery I inflated to show my wife. She took a glance, nodded her head, and said "uh-huh." I said "go ahead - feel it." So she gave it a little poke with her finger and said "uh-huh" again. This was ten years ago and it was the first and only time she has ever had any kind of contact with it.
Dave, 75, Maryland - Implant (Titan) 2008 by Dr. Andrew Kramer - never used due to a stroke that, among other things, ended my sex life.
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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby Larry10625 » Mon Feb 19, 2018 2:43 pm

hturner12 wrote:If last night was any indication, may not have to look out side. We had another round of talks/arguements. She still refuses to touch the pump thinks it gross. Does not fully understand why I got an implant.
Normally the talks end up just in an arguement, but last night ended up in some of tge best sex I have had in a while. If it last just on a weekly basis for now would be happy.

It was lets fuck type of sex. I explained to her that we are both still learning about and how to use my new dick and she has to tell me what she likes does not like if she needs it firmer or softer. She did last night. I did have to deflate a little. We went extremely slow at first then progress to ball slapping speed half way thru slowed down ans inflated a little more still while still in her slowed way back down to let her make sure was ok with me a little bigger. She was trying to hold off till I came ,but I convinced her it was not necessary. She came first, then right afterwards I did. Was not the dribble I normally do. She said I filled her up with cum.We had to stop at that point I pulled out slow and I was so senstive coming out actual got a little weak in the knees.I also hit her cervix a couple of times never did that before.

To all the other guys have similar problems. Talk , listen, go slow. One thing she said last night made me think I should have gone AMS instead of Titan she wishes I was more natural. She said my shape has changed, the feel has changed. I am total different now. We have to remember the ED fucked with them just as bad if not worse than it did us. For them it 100% mental they can't satisfy us they dont excite us.



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51 years old, married 29 years. Implanted Mar 30/17 by Dr. Brock of London, Ont, CANADA. (AMS 700 CX 18 + 2). Had implant removed Apr 29/17 due to Septic Shock. Liposuction By Dr. Gan and re-implant by Dr. Brock (AMS LGX 15 + 2) Dec 14/17.

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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby rancherejim » Sun Apr 15, 2018 6:59 pm

I feel your pain. My wife shut down right after menopause. I just put up with it for 10 + years, I tried everything to try to get her back in the game. She won't even talk about it. Finely I told her if she didn't start having sex with me I would be finding it elsewhere. So after 50+ years of being faithful to her I started up with the hookers. Despite what people say about hookers I have met some very sweet women in this hobby. Now we have a don't ask don't tell policy in our home. I can't divorce her because she is handicapped and is completely dependent on me for everything.
I am looking forward to my surgery coming up in a couple weeks so I can get out and fuck anytime I want to. If everything go's well I should be able to make the 20 year old girls as happy as they make me. I am still as horny now at 77 as I was as a teenager. Actually maybe more so. Back then it was wham baam thank you mam, now I will be able to make it last for hours if I choose to.
77 years old, married 58 years. Had ED for the last 10 years or so.
May 2nd, 2018 Coloplast Titan implanted, 24cm with 1cm RTE's. All went well so far.

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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby Donnie1954 » Wed Sep 12, 2018 3:55 pm

Sadly,
After radiation, an implant or VED may be your only option. I was so damaged from radiation treatment my venous leakage was incurable.
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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby Larry10625 » Wed Sep 12, 2018 5:05 pm

dg_moore wrote:When I had healed from the surgery I inflated to show my wife. She took a glance, nodded her head, and said "uh-huh." I said "go ahead - feel it." So she gave it a little poke with her finger and said "uh-huh" again. This was ten years ago and it was the first and only time she has ever had any kind of contact with it.



Hey Dave, certainly NOT to seem like a smart ass, does your implant even work anymore or do you know? Just curious what would happen if your wife had a change of heart. :)

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51 years old, married 29 years. Implanted Mar 30/17 by Dr. Brock of London, Ont, CANADA. (AMS 700 CX 18 + 2). Had implant removed Apr 29/17 due to Septic Shock. Liposuction By Dr. Gan and re-implant by Dr. Brock (AMS LGX 15 + 2) Dec 14/17.

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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby Larry10625 » Wed Sep 12, 2018 5:13 pm

My situation on this topic is bizarre to say the least. My wife (who is only 52) has not really been interested in sex since we got married in 1989 (she was 24, I was 22). This has caused a great number of fights over the years, some I am surprised our marriage lasted. After I had the implant, just out of the blue, her interest perked up (I am pretty sure she is menopausal... now, she is the one that initiates sex most of the time. Before I would practically have to beg for a 10 second blow job and now, she initiates at least three times per session and some times she has polished me off that way. I don't get it but, I am sure as hell not complaining. :D ;) :D

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51 years old, married 29 years. Implanted Mar 30/17 by Dr. Brock of London, Ont, CANADA. (AMS 700 CX 18 + 2). Had implant removed Apr 29/17 due to Septic Shock. Liposuction By Dr. Gan and re-implant by Dr. Brock (AMS LGX 15 + 2) Dec 14/17.

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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby dg_moore » Wed Sep 12, 2018 5:24 pm

Larry10625 wrote:
dg_moore wrote:When I had healed from the surgery I inflated to show my wife. She took a glance, nodded her head, and said "uh-huh." I said "go ahead - feel it." So she gave it a little poke with her finger and said "uh-huh" again. This was ten years ago and it was the first and only time she has ever had any kind of contact with it.



Hey Dave, certainly NOT to seem like a smart ass, does your implant even work anymore or do you know? Just curious what would happen if your wife had a change of heart. :)

Larry

It still works fine - I asked Dr Kramer and he said it would be good to inflate "now and then to keep things stretched and healthy." So I pump it up every two or three weeks for a minute in the shower and it seems to be be ok. As to a change of heart, I don't know - the idea of sex now doesn't appeal to me at all. I rarely feel very well, and never well enough to be interested in sex. I thought growing old would take longer :?
Dave, 75, Maryland - Implant (Titan) 2008 by Dr. Andrew Kramer - never used due to a stroke that, among other things, ended my sex life.
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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby alfa88 » Sat Oct 06, 2018 2:14 pm

MSN has an article from Readers Digest espousing the health benefits of at least one sexual encounter with your mate per week. Who could argue with that? :D
53 years old, married 32 years. Lifetime ED & PE. Tried Viagra W & W/O T-Shots, Levitra and Cialis, Edex with poor results. VED is a last resort.

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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby Robert51 » Tue Oct 09, 2018 4:06 am

Well i can bring a chuckle to this post after years of ed i discover this site tell the wife her reply was a classic. SHE SAYS YOU KNOW WE ARE OLD NOW ME 67 HER 59 AND SEX IS NOT IMPORTANT AND A REAL MAN WOULD realize that being a good provider is what is most important to the family
66 years old married 14 years on my 3rd wife /////// had a major operation at 51 hernia below belly bottom ed got really bad after that .. Tried pills not much and side affects.. trying alprostadil without a lot of success but only 3rd time


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