touble getting wife on board

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?

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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby dg_moore » Mon Mar 13, 2017 3:42 pm

Cigar56 wrote:
AnotherOldMan wrote:
If you both want sex, or neither wants sex, everything is fine. It's that middle ground where everything goes south.


Very true! My feeling is that she more or less set the time, place and frequency(with few exceptions) when we were "in our prime". If for any reason she wished to shut
it down at this stage then that is what we would do and I would do my best to make it seem like a mutual decision.


Well, I am 61 and my sex drive seems higher than ever. At this point I would not stop having sex if my wife simply decided to quit. If she did that I would exercise my right to masturbate in private, which of course is a form of sex. Whether that would be enough would be something we'd have to determine.


Nothing wrong with sex with someone you love! :lol:
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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby Cigar56 » Mon Mar 13, 2017 3:50 pm

Yeah, the late comic Richard Pryor once said he never had pussy better than his right hand.
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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby AnotherOldMan » Mon Mar 13, 2017 7:46 pm

Yeah, the late comic Richard Pryor once said he never had pussy better than his right hand.


Yeah but that was before Fleshlights!
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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby Gordon » Sat Mar 18, 2017 9:14 pm

I'm in same situation but fortunate enough to have a buddy that is in same situation. His wife also has lost interest. We have been best friends for years so we are now taking care of the situation and enjoying it. Sex is sex and I just get it where I find it.
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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby Cigar56 » Sat Mar 18, 2017 11:28 pm

rick61 wrote:I'm in same situation but fortunate enough to have a buddy that is in same situation. His wife also has lost interest. We have been best friends for years so we are now taking care of the situation and enjoying it. Sex is sex and I just get it where I find it.


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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby bldoink » Mon Apr 10, 2017 10:30 pm

Get a good vibrating toy and use it on her. See what happens. I'm not an expert on the subject but I'm sure you could get some good suggestions if you want.
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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby rode2nowhere » Tue Jun 06, 2017 8:28 am

I understand your pain, very disappointed in my wife

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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby newtoed » Fri Jun 09, 2017 2:02 am

When my wife 22 year of my junior stopped having passionate sex with me and made me feel not wanted after a year of trying to reestablish our love I left her and don't feel bad at all. I have one life to live. I don't want to live one minute unhappy and Unsatisfied. If she doesn't care why should I. I am not an asshole and made extra effort to bring out her sexuality and she enjoyed sex like never before. Lost interest for whatever reason,too bad.
Now I'm having sex with girls in their 20's and 30's every day almost and feel like a man (I'm 52). I have a 15 inch scar on my stomach, a hernia, no navel, no butt hole and wear a colostomy bag on my stomach. The girls are beautiful and love me like crazy. I have never been so happy and content. We man can move mountains, fly to the moon and soon to other planets. We are born to get whatever we want!
All the best friends.
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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby Anonymous3 » Mon Feb 12, 2018 5:04 am

After 4 months wife still not on board. I still love her but I need sex so I am on a NSA dating site. Meeting first woman tomorrow for coffee. If I was looking for a relationship not sure, but it just for sex . She is not getting sex from her husband.
The problem I have found with alot of those sites is alot of them are pure scam with fake profiles and bots

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Re: touble getting wife on board

Postby DonDon » Wed Feb 14, 2018 12:08 pm

My wife and I have been through ups and downs in sexual desire and convenience. Now she is spending time with the grandkids and frequency suffers (per me.) Thirty-nine years ago we realized our drives were different, and even before marriage. We agreed that she would do her best to satisfy me, even without intercourse, and has kept to the deal. But she also gave me permission to masturbate anytime I needed it and she wasn't keeping up. Our sex life is great, but over the years, about 50% of my orgasms came from masturbation. She enjoys sex tremendously, just not the frequency I like. But our deal stands and we are both happy with it. I usually feel horny most nights and if she is asleep or busy doing something, my pleasure comes in the morning in the shower. RP and ED put our sex life into very low gear for about 2 years, but we are back to our regular pace. Menopause caused some bumps in the road, but we discovered lubrication and we use it every time. We used to keep hand towels under the bed for cleaning up MY mess, but now, with no ejaculate, we use them for wiping away the lubrication afterwards. "Overcome and adapt." Good luck with your extramarital engagements, I went through that phase in my younger years. It worked during a slack period we had when she went back to school for her MBA. She deserves a better man than me, but we are doing fine now.
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