Masturbation during marriage

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby ETGuy71 » Mon Nov 19, 2018 9:50 am

Wow, 3-4 hours! And not ejaculate! I would think that would give you “blue balls” that old aching thing I used to get after heavy make out session with girl friends when young. That was uncomfortable!
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby Geronimo » Sat Dec 08, 2018 10:55 am

Hi, i first started to masturbate at 12 yo, now 67 yo, will never give in just love it.
72 yo England, ED 2011, PD 2015, VED & hand massage, given me a big fatter penis, , love the old wild west stories. fav song, "A day in the life" - Beatles.

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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby navy6587 » Sat Dec 08, 2018 11:27 am

Began around 13 and haven't stopped...well, except for the first two and a half weeks after being implanted on 11/8. All the same erotic sensations came back to my glans, shaft and scrotum (with the exception of about 1/4 inch on each side of the 4 inch incision (implant + penoscrotal webbing removal). Kept me sane during those long Med deployments after I got married! Looking forward a few weeks to cycling and then...the real reason I did this.
74; ED at 50. Fired by 1st doc (Szobota - VA Uro) too many q's & contact w/ Coloplast rep. New doc: Ellen (VA Uro) implanted 11/8/18. 22cm Titan + 2cm RTEs; moron docs, product rep, intake/ dischg nurses! NEVER again! L- 6.75"; G- 5.5" oval.

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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby niarceel » Sun Jan 26, 2020 2:23 pm

Masturbation is not just a solo activity. My wife and I are both over 70 years of age and we both masturbate frequently but rarely alone.

I recently remarked to my wife that after all these decades, from youth to senior, how remarkable it is that masturbation is still very important to both of us.

My wife masturbates whenever she feels like it. I do, too. We masturbate ourselves and each other, sometimes alone, most often together. We like to watch, we like to participate, we like to touch and see and taste. My wife likes to make/see my penis drip precum. I like to make/see her clitoris and labia swell.

But the one thing we rarely do when we masturbate, is cum. We save that for intercourse because we like to cum with each other.

Masturbation is an integral part of our love life. I can't imagine us not doing it.

If you haven't involved your significant other in your masturbation activities, I recommend that you try it. We find it to be highly erotic.
Born 1947. Live in Utah. Married 1995. 5'8". 160 lbs.
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Used Cialis (2003-2017), penile injections (2018-2019), 4 implants (2020-2021), now have an AMS 700 installed.
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby Lost Sheep » Tue Jan 28, 2020 5:01 pm

Does any couple here enjoy prostate massage? From what I have read here and elsewhere it is healthy and quite enjoyable. My girlfriend is intrigued. She and I are intending to try her massaging my prostate all the way to orgasm (if possible). We have tried with her hand, but her fingers are a little too short to reach my prostate easily, so ordered a massage tool.

Have yet to find the right time and mood.

I have masturbated her to orgasm a few times, but use masturbation on her mostly for foreplay. She has yet to masturbate me to orgasm by hand. When I get close she enjoys fellatio and swallowing. I do not object.
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby Agfa13 » Tue Jan 28, 2020 5:46 pm

Lol, you better not object, you are a guy!

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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby MARKOS2018 » Wed Jan 29, 2020 6:23 pm

Lost Sheep

You lucky to have the arrangement like that!

Great!!!

Agree with Agfa
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby vajim1 » Sun Feb 02, 2020 9:30 am

I LOVED it before they removed my prostate. They make lots of toys to do the job, it make take lots of practice to get to a happy bu=y massaging only but worth it! :oops:
76 year old fart. Prostate removed Oct. 9, 2017,Psa 30 days after .15 next Psa .2. 37 Radiation treatments for recurrent cancer, 1 year out Psa .033 ZERO ERECTIONS, implanted Sept 5 2019 Dr. Lentz Duke Raleigh N.C. Titan 22cm.

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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby stephen54 » Mon Feb 17, 2020 4:45 pm

Lost Sheep wrote:Does any couple here enjoy prostate massage? From what I have read here and elsewhere it is healthy and quite enjoyable. My girlfriend is intrigued. She and I are intending to try her massaging my prostate all the way to orgasm (if possible). We have tried with her hand, but her fingers are a little too short to reach my prostate easily, so ordered a massage tool.

Have yet to find the right time and mood.

I have masturbated her to orgasm a few times, but use masturbation on her mostly for foreplay. She has yet to masturbate me to orgasm by hand. When I get close she enjoys fellatio and swallowing. I do not object.


Short answer - yes indeed. Our experience has been that there are several extra gears just waiting to be found in the prostate. She's given me an orgasm I can't even fucking begin to describe. More like multiples all interconnected over a couple of minutes. Staggering power and a different rhythm and pace and way the orgasm travels. Bordered on frightening afterward (sort of hyperventilated and couldn't stand/walk for a bit). When my wife saw what was possible, she sort of became an obsessed technician with this. Wants to innovate and find different ways to tap into this crazy shit. Very highly recommend.
54 yrs. Blessed with highly sexual 52 yr old wife. Pills 10 years, then 9 yrs Trimix. 28 cm Titan Touch XL 2019, Laurence Levine, Rush Univ Med Ctr, Chicago. Implant = nonstop fun. Hypogonadal, so also 10+ years testosterone replacement.

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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby Martin6469 » Mon Mar 02, 2020 1:49 pm

Holding your wife close with your left hand while she masturbates with a dildo held in by your right hand is a wonderful bonding experience. See my post 3-2-20 in "This site is brutal for us smaller guys."
Age 78 in 2023. On testosterone replacement due to hypothalamus malfunction. (Attention depressed guys: low testosterone is a cause.) Healthy health nut but ED due to getting old. Like to keep enough cardiovascular ability to thrust for 30 min.


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