Masturbation during marriage

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby oldbeek » Mon Sep 10, 2018 1:17 am

goodwoodnow wrote:So, I agree with everyone who has replied. Masturbating is good, and done right, slowly savoring every sensation, taking as much time to gradually increase the arousal, it's wonderful. a spectacular way for us older guys to "stay in the game", our systems charged.

But.... it seems that too many still need to almost "make excuses" for masturbating, mostly on the idea that we men have more sexual needs than our wives and that we need to do it to relieve sexual tension. I do agree that it is a way to have sex with another person...yourself.

I no longer get many spontaneous erections that need to be "relieved". But I love the sensation of getting erections even if now I am so far from "horny" that I need to inject medication to get that feeling I it "horny" That it has to be induced like that takes nothing away from the pleasure masturbating gives me. No excuses. I love how it feels to make love to myself. My wife understands and often participates or just watches, which I especially enjoy.

I agree with you 100%. It feels good just to stroke my dick when I control all the action.
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby rbrown » Mon Nov 19, 2018 9:39 am

I have been married 37 years and have always masturbated. I started when I was eleven and have never stopped. As I got older I did i less, but when I got my ED and fixed it, i started learning tantra, and since my wife has virtually no libido I now do prolonged, 3-4 hour masturbation sessions several times a week (only ejaculating once a week or two)...tantra has actually taught me to enjoy masturbation much much more--and taught me new and exciting ways to orgasm!
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby ETGuy71 » Mon Nov 19, 2018 9:50 am

Wow, 3-4 hours! And not ejaculate! I would think that would give you “blue balls” that old aching thing I used to get after heavy make out session with girl friends when young. That was uncomfortable!
69 yrs old. Diagnosed venous leak. Headed towards implant. Urologist canceled surgery due to elevated WBC’s. I got another opinion. Injected with a different dosing of Trimix. Erection for 2.5 hrs. Going with injections rather than implant.

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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby Geronimo » Sat Dec 08, 2018 10:55 am

Hi, i first started to masturbate at 12 yo, now 67 yo, will never give in just love it.
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby navy6587 » Sat Dec 08, 2018 11:27 am

Began around 13 and haven't stopped...well, except for the first two and a half weeks after being implanted on 11/8. All the same erotic sensations came back to my glans, shaft and scrotum (with the exception of about 1/4 inch on each side of the 4 inch incision (implant + penoscrotal webbing removal). Kept me sane during those long Med deployments after I got married! Looking forward a few weeks to cycling and then...the real reason I did this.
72 y/o; wed 50 yrs; ED 15+ yrs. Fired by 1st doc (Szobota - VA Uro) asked too many q's & contact w/ Coloplast rep. New doc: Ellen (VA Uro) implanted 11/8/18. 22cm Titan + a 2cm RTE each side; moron doc, intake/ dischg nurses! Will NEVER do it again!

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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby niarceel » Sun Jan 26, 2020 2:23 pm

Masturbation is not just a solo activity. My wife and I are both over 70 years of age and we both masturbate frequently but rarely alone.

I recently remarked to my wife that after all these decades, from youth to senior, how remarkable it is that masturbation is still very important to both of us.

My wife masturbates whenever she feels like it. I do, too. We masturbate ourselves and each other, sometimes alone, most often together. We like to watch, we like to participate, we like to touch and see and taste. My wife likes to make/see my penis drip precum. I like to make/see her clitoris and labia swell.

But the one thing we rarely do when we masturbate, is cum. We save that for intercourse because we like to cum with each other.

Masturbation is an integral part of our love life. I can't imagine us not doing it.

If you haven't involved your significant other in your masturbation activities, I recommend that you try it. We find it to be highly erotic.
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby Lost Sheep » Tue Jan 28, 2020 5:01 pm

Does any couple here enjoy prostate massage? From what I have read here and elsewhere it is healthy and quite enjoyable. My girlfriend is intrigued. She and I are intending to try her massaging my prostate all the way to orgasm (if possible). We have tried with her hand, but her fingers are a little too short to reach my prostate easily, so ordered a massage tool.

Have yet to find the right time and mood.

I have masturbated her to orgasm a few times, but use masturbation on her mostly for foreplay. She has yet to masturbate me to orgasm by hand. When I get close she enjoys fellatio and swallowing. I do not object.
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby Agfa13 » Tue Jan 28, 2020 5:46 pm

Lol, you better not object, you are a guy!

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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby MARKOS2018 » Wed Jan 29, 2020 6:23 pm

Lost Sheep

You lucky to have the arrangement like that!


Agree with Agfa
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Re: Masturbation during marriage

Postby vajim1 » Sun Feb 02, 2020 9:30 am

I LOVED it before they removed my prostate. They make lots of toys to do the job, it make take lots of practice to get to a happy bu=y massaging only but worth it! :oops:
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