Anal stimulation post prostatectomy

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?

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Re: Anal stimulation post prostatectomy

Postby regain-is-the-aim » Mon May 16, 2011 6:22 pm

Steve:

A thought. Put the Aneros before you shower and leave it in while you shower with all it's activity. The natural movement will be a new approach and with all the activity of showering you will not focus on it and "it" may like that. After showering all of the movement and change of drying off may facilitate your journey. I may need to try that myself at some point sounds interesting. . . Consider the wine a relaxant for your mind. A glass will not dull those nerves, but decline the inclination to take the whole bottle and a straw into the bath. . . .

Have fun!

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Re: Anal stimulation post prostatectomy

Postby barfinkl1 » Mon May 16, 2011 8:07 pm

I love your sense of humor. I'll have to try that next time I have some quality alone time. BTW, I bought some injectors for the lube as I wanted to get as much inside as possible and when you lube the aneros, much of it comes off as it's entering the anus, I would think. I just got them so haven't used them yet. seems reasonable that they would work. I must remember...no bottle and straw. No bottle and straw...no bottle.

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Re: Anal stimulation post prostatectomy

Postby padraig1001 » Tue May 17, 2011 10:56 am

This entire forum has me smiling! :)

I used my Aneros last night for the first time. I'm like you, Steve, in that we've got lots to learn; for me, it's going to be patience!! :roll:

I like the feeling of having something up my ass, but was a little disappointed that there wasn't a whole lot of feeling. I fell asleep and when I awoke a little later, I began the contractions and tryed different movements in an attempt to stimulate certain various areas . . . I tried laying in different positions as well. I actually found that lying on my stomach and made movements like I was having sex was interesting; besides, I got tired from doing kegel type movements . . . again, fell asleep and each time I awoke the first thing I noticed was the Aneros . . . at some point, felt kind of crampy, but even this felt kind of good . . . started around 11:00 and around 4:30 I took it out. I purposely did not masturbate as several other guys here said that you don't want to lose that anal type feeling.

I'm going to follow Dick's suggestion and put it in while I shower this morning . . . I had seen in another forum where a guy put it in and performed his normal activites and found it helpful.

I suppose it's too early to open the wine (it's 10:00 am)! ;-)

Pat

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Re: Anal stimulation post prostatectomy

Postby padraig1001 » Tue May 17, 2011 12:04 pm

It's an hour later update!

Okay . . . inserted Aneros standing up . . . easy!

Okay . . . showered with it . . . not much, besides, it's hard to clean your ass when it's in the way! :roll:

Now . . . put it in and have been doing routine chores . . . LOVE the feeling; you certainly know it's there. Maybe when I least expect it, something good might happen??

Okay . . . patience . . . NOT so easy! :shock:

Great forum; my favorite so far. Thanks to 'notsostiff' for starting it.

Pat

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Re: Anal stimulation post prostatectomy

Postby notsostiff » Tue May 17, 2011 2:25 pm

I saw my surgeon yesterday and he has prescribed a pump for me. As I am only 5 months post op I will try that first before having a go with the aneros.

However, I am pleased to see that I have stimulated some interesting debate. :) Keep it coming fellas.
Had a robotic prostatectomy on 16 Dec 2010, with partial bi-lateral nerve sparing.

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Re: Anal stimulation post prostatectomy

Postby barfinkl1 » Tue May 17, 2011 3:15 pm

Notsostiff ~ Pump that thing like there's no tomorrow! Keep in mind that the pump and the aneros serve two different functions. The aneros, if I understand it correctly, will only give you an anal orgasm. It's totally separate from the penile, however, with the aneros in place, you can get a great penile orgasm when you masturbate. I'm still waiting for the anal orgasm to occur...

Pumping keeps your penis expanded and helps keep atrophy from setting in. I originally started with the pump about 3 months after surgery and did it for about a year. You will get some big woodies with that...mine were harder than I'd ever had before, but they'll be cold. But they certainly will do the job, but you can only leave the ring on for 30 minutes. I use injections and can stay erect for 2-3 hours no problem. Even after you orgasm, you remain hard. A lesser dose, a shorter erection time. A bigger dose, longer. But it takes practice to get the dosing right.

Enjoy the pump experience. I kinda miss it, but the injections are my best option. You might try them yourself one of these days. Recommend Trimix.

You have stirred debate, my friend. Great posts.

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Steve
Age 63 married 41 years...2 kids and 2 grandkids. Had robotic RP in Apr 2008. Negative PSA since then. Suffered ED initially from Type II diabetes and then the RP. Had AMS700 LGX implant on 7 Nov 11.

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Re: Anal stimulation post prostatectomy

Postby notsostiff » Tue May 17, 2011 5:27 pm

The pump I have chosen is the Rapport Premier http://www.owenmumford.com/en/range/17/rapport-premier.html. It is a natural action pump. Has anyone else used this one? It arrives tomorrow and so I am looking forward to my first decent woody in 5 months if it works. :D The instructions say that it works without the cialis but my surgeon says to use both as they are complementary. I will let you know how I get on.
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Re: Anal stimulation post prostatectomy

Postby padraig1001 » Tue May 17, 2011 9:30 pm

Maybe you can change your user name from 'notsostiff' to 'ohsostiff? :shock:

Good luck. When I pumped the first time I could not believe it . . . it had been 13 years for me. In fact, when I first started to use the pump, it was possible for me to orgasm just by sitting there smiling at it! 8-)

I wonder why the doc wants you to take oral meds at the same time. They may be complementary, but why? You're gonna' get a nice lookin' woody . . . probably more girth than you had prior to your surgery. If you ask him the reason, please share it. I guess I wouldn't take medicine if it wasn't necessary.

Again, enjoy the view tonight!!!! Oh, see if it's possible to keep your hands off it, okay! ;)

Pat

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Re: Anal stimulation post prostatectomy

Postby notsostiff » Sat May 21, 2011 5:09 pm

Well the pump worked at treat. :D I couldn't believe how big an erection I managed. However, it didn't last very long. :x
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Re: Anal stimulation post prostatectomy

Postby padraig1001 » Sat May 21, 2011 8:21 pm

I'm assuming you didn't put a ring on, then? and, you're simply using the pump for therapy?

BTW, if I have a complaint with the pump, getting the ring off would be it.

I've been pretty conscientious working with the pump and jelqing, notsostiff, and I really think I'm seeing results. I end up with a chub after jelqing and in the past that would not have happened. Keep it up!

Pat


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